Jay-Z: Staying Out Of Rihanna & Chris Brown’s Relationship Is Smart

Fri, July 12, 2013 6:59pm EDT by 32 Comments

Jay, you’ve been like a surrogate father to Rihanna so it must have been really tough to hold your tongue at times. Nevertheless, you’ve been wise not to butt in to the recent roller coaster Rihanna/Chris Brown affair.

Jay-Z  you’re a super smart man in many, many ways and your decision to not intervene in Rihanna‘s on again/ now off again romance with Chris Brown is one of the wisest decisions you’ve ever made.

Jay-Z, You’ve Been A Great Mentor For Rihanna

You admitted in an interview on NYC’s  Hot 97′s The Angie Show in New York on July 10, that it’s not your place to interfere. “I can’t control the outcome of her life,” you said. “I can’t intervene.”

And you’re right Jay-Z! You may have discovered Rihanna and started working with her when she was just 16, but you aren’t her parent.

You are her mentor and that’s something very different. It’s been your role to help build her enormously successful career and to guide her in making smart professional decisions, but it’s not your place to butt into her romantic life.

Rihanna is now 25 — a grown woman. It’s completely her own decision to be with Chris or not.

I’m sure you were there to comfort her along with her family after Chris’ vicious assault on her in February 2009.

You’ve Been Supportive Through It All

But you no doubt also watched both Rihanna and Chris work to recover from that terrible situation. Rihanna needed to mend physically but it took her longer to recover emotionally.

She herself explained publicly to Oprah how she needed to go through several emotional stages (and we at HollywoodLife, hear counseling, as well) before she could become friends and more with Chris again.

Chris, himself also went through loads of anger management training and counseling.

Nevertheless, when the pair became romantically re-involved in the past year, it must have set off your protective instincts … fast!

But, you decided to bite your tongue. You explained in your interview that, “I can give [Rihanna] advice, if asked, you know, and that’s it. I can provide information and then life has to play out. Life has to happen.”

Rihanna & Chris Had To Figure It Out Themselves

Jay-Z, you’re right. Rihanna needed to see for herself how reuniting with Chris would make her feel. She clearly had “unfinished love business” with Chris.

Hey, bottom line — she still loved him and she admitted in interviews that she had missed Chris, her ‘best friend‘  when she and Chris abruptly and necessarily ended their relationship after the assault.

Jay-Z, you and many, many other people in Rihanna’s life, as well as fans, may not have understood why she still loved Chris and was ready to reunite. But she was and is entitled to her feelings and she and Chris needed to explore the love they still had for each other.

Trying to stand in Rihanna’s way would only have made her resent you. And that would not have been good for either of you.

That’s why when you spoke out in your Hot 97 interview and admitted that you weren’t staying in the loop on the latest ups and downs of Rihanna’s relationship with Chris, you were demonstrating your wisdom.

Now, You Can All Be Friends For Life

If Rihanna wants your advice, she’ll ask you. She knows you’re there to provide support when she needs it.

But I bet she really appreciates you not being judgmental about her and Chris. And who knows, she may get back together with Chris, one or many more times. Since you’ve never stood in their way, she will never resent you or be afraid to come to you if she does at some point need your advice.

Likewise, if she and Chris are together agin at some point, they’ll both be comfortable with you and that’s important. It’s a small industry and life is long!

Jay-Z, I bet Rihanna loves and respects you even more than ever for not dissing or disapproving of her love life in any way. Has Jay-Z taken the right approach, HollywoodLifers? Let me know!

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annbarb

Posted at 4:24 PM on July 15, 2013  

BYE! THIS IS SO DUM! WHO IS HE TO COMMENT ON ANYBODY BUT HIMSELF? BYE!

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Leslie Charles

Posted at 8:14 PM on July 14, 2013  

Jay is doing the right thing by minding his business as everyone involved in this situation are grown adults. On another note, Jay have no business to judge Chris because Jay is no angel himself. Remember when Jay stabbed Lance “Un” Rivera. He could have killed that man but by God’s grace Lance did not die. If the industry can forgive Jay for stabbing a man I don’t see why Chris can’t be forgiven. At the end of the day Jay grew up and I believe Chris is trying his best to live and learn from his mistakes. Lets give him a chance to grow as opposed to knocking him at any chance given.

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sandra duncan

Posted at 11:34 PM on July 13, 2013  

WOW!! Poor #TRAYVON MARTIN………Praying for your SOUL………….You were murdered twice..SMH

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Meme

Posted at 11:23 PM on July 13, 2013  

When they can get any girl in this world that they want. I don’t see any man fighting for Rihoe. Still don’t. Because she’s not worth it!!! If a women is worth it. A man will fight for you no matter what!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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annbarb

Posted at 4:27 PM on July 15, 2013  

MEME???? HOW WOULD YOU KNOW? YOU BE ON HERE 24/7? GO GET A BREATHE OF AIR!! THEN RUN BACK? HL- WILL STILL BE HERE! AND WHEN YOU GO? TELL SOMEONE TO PUT SOME BRAINS IN THE DUM HEAD OF YOUR’S!
!! NOW FLY AWAY MEME THE PEE PEE! BYE!

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Meme

Posted at 11:15 PM on July 13, 2013  

Do you know why Ri is still single? Because no man wants to waste their time with a hoe that can ruine their career or their life!!!

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lucrece

Posted at 5:22 PM on July 23, 2013  

i believe it was the best thing to do

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lucrece

Posted at 5:26 PM on July 23, 2013  

never sayyy that meme the one who really merit a girl like riri is not yet born so if you don’t know who she really is I prefer you shut up okayyyyyyyyyyyyy

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nay nay

Posted at 6:34 PM on July 13, 2013  

chris brown have to learn to keep promise your word is your word. dont blame other people for his mistake in life. I hope he learn from this. Rihanna i belive love chirs and she already forgave him. Chris and Rihanna need to settle this out of the public eyes.

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nay nay

Posted at 5:15 PM on July 13, 2013  

Rihanna might not be a angle but you weap what you sow. Chris is no angle want He said in public should been said behind close door. Who ever righting this be careful

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Breezy's Tough Love

Posted at 2:49 PM on July 13, 2013  

Liar Liar Pants on fire!!!! Just curious to see if Samsung had anything to do with Rogers Communications which just dropped their sponsorship of a concert that CB was just signed to do in Canada, and go and see for yourself!. I didn’t have alot of time to research but I’ll do more later… Jay Z has been putting the screws to CB since ’09, but it on a business level. He’s a business gangsta, like most corporate businessemen are. CB has said that everytime he’s tried to bring an album out since ’09, something is always leaked on him, some scandal, ,etc.. And wasn’t it Jay Z that kept him from performing on BET for the first MJ tribute, and lied later and said he didn’t? The only reason why CB was able to do it the next year is because Jermaine Jackson and the Jackson’s overrode it and had him do it anyway because they knew MJ LOVED Chris. Also, when CB was doing those interviews they asked him about when she took him to the concert, and CB said it wasn’t as it was reported, and that it was “respect”, and Jay Z said something like “long time no see” or something. I thought “yeah” right”. All that was was a “good cop, bad cop” situation. The “good one” is always the deadliest. And CB did say that he and Ri’s manager or whatever he is had words several times where he had to tell ole boy that he was a grown man and not to come at him like that… Then when CB and Ri broke up it seemed to me that it was done through her people– they cut all communication with him, and kept her away from him. Wasn’t that manager even at one of those games with her, maybe on the night of Cb’s B day but I can’t remember?. They treated that like somebody being extracted from an abusive relationship cause normally he’d been able to get her back when he messed up. I believe that’s why CB talked the way he did on that radio show cause he had no communication with her and he knew that she’d get pissed and retaliate on twitter or something. I believe that was his way of getting her to talk to him cause he couldn’t any other way. And that’s why he was ranting and letteing his friends get at her. There’s alot that we the public don’t know .. Then he gets the death threats at his lawyers office, I often wondered if the car accident wasn’t staged, then it’s announced they’re still investigating the Ocean case which was supposed to have been closed. Cb payed Frank off for that, and it was said then that Frank never wanted to press charges anyway ( because I believe he started it just like Drake did the bottle throwing), until Jay Z told him to. Another thing, there is a reason CB isn’t getting the spins he should on radio, etc. I learned long ago when New Edition was bringing out “Hot2nite” in ’04, their fans were calling in radio all over the world requesting the song, DJ’s were even laughin’ like dang NE fans serious, but one told me that they had been told not to play the song, and could only play it so many times in a day. That was coming from Bad Boy (their label) and whoever else they’ve pissed off in the business and has been trying to keep them out of the business despite the fact they can still outperform anybody that’s came out since them, and they get no respect ine the game . CB ain’t no different. All that stuff is political, and I’ve said more than once that Chris has some POWERFUL enemies. There’s no way with the kind of all around talent he has he shouldn’t be a mega world star at this point, regardless to what hes done. Ever research Mick Jagger, Jon Lennon, etc, all who are known women abusers (multiple, not one)? But CB ain’t been able to get this off him all this time. Now, this hit n run arraignment and probation court BOTH are scheduled on the 15th the date prior to the 16th, the day he was supposed to drop his album. CB better recognuize that he playing with the big boys and make a decision if it’s worth it in my view, cause if they don’t get him locked up, they will bankrupt him some way, and I wouldn’t be surprised if they take him out via “accident” or ” accidental drug overfdose”. Ask Dame Dash if Jay Z should be trusted? ( 7-15-2013 = 7+15=22+2=24+1=25+3=28. 2+8=10 or X).

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Breezy's Tough Love

Posted at 3:37 PM on July 13, 2013  

Sorry for the typoes, mispellings above, and length for the reading impaired… And one more thing, the second worst thing CB did: get back involved with Rihanna again without being SURE he was ready to be in a committed relationship with her. WRONG MOVE!!!!! Though I believe they would have still got him anyway because he was already on his way to financial ruin with the flop of “Fortune”. “Turn Up The Music” alone should have been a MAJOR hit for him, the video alone is RIDICULOUS and even if not in the states, overseas especially in Europe where House Music is BIG. I love him but Chris is a jackazz and has more than pissed me off with how he’s done alot of stuff – especiallly this last time with this girl, but everybody’s still living and I just don’t see it that serious to ruin or even eliminate the boy. He only 24 and doing what dumbazz 24 year old dudes do, especially with a little loot in their pockets and fame. And Jay Z ain’t no saint with all the demonic stuff he been into thorughout his career.. CB don’t need OHB to be his security, if stuff keep going the way it is, he gon need F.O.I., like Mike did…. cause he is dealing with some real ISH and don’t realize it. He gone need that “X” fa sho by time they get through with him, and I believe that it’s just getting started… SMH.. Just wondering if Ri is actively in on it cause to me she can be combative, meanspirited, and vindictive (no shade, just mo based off how I’ve seen her operate online) when she gets heated….. I wanted Chris back with her for alot of different reasons but I’m starting to believe the WORST thing he EVER did was get involved with Rihanna, pre or post ’09. His whole career and life ruined, over a girl..A DAYUM SHAME!!.. He should’ve married her with all the ish he has to deal with in the aftermath of this ish cause NO piece of azz is worth all the crap he has to deal with.. DUMBAZZ!!! SMH…. If you love Chris, pray for him.. I think he’s gonna need all the prayers he can get…

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Breezy's Tough Love

Posted at 4:15 PM on July 13, 2013  

Sorry, One LAST Thing, TEAMBREEZY needs to research and find out what all Roger’s Communications owns, and kindly let them know that since they want to keep CB from making a living then TEAMBREEZY will not purchase, or continue to support Rogers’ Communication’s products. BOYCOTT!!!………………………………….

 
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sandra duncan

Posted at 11:11 PM on July 13, 2013  

@Breezy’s Tough love
Very nice post some of the things you said may have some validity and some is pure REACHING………..I really don’t think Jay would go that far but I am almost sure the industry knows how Jay feels about CB but that much energy he wouldn’t put into their relationship……Isn’t Toronto Drake’s hometown?? Also once again blaming the victim and not the source, as far as for 2009 when they had the fight that’s all water under the bridge, the world was ready to forgive CB some has like myself…….No one knows what really happened that night so if they wanted to give their relationship another try fans should have just mind their business and focus on their work..CB is WRONG in every way that he treated the re-kindled relationship with RIH, as I have said before RIH is an INDEPENDENT woman she needs CB for absolutely NOTHING financially all she demanded was LOYALTY, TRUST and HONESTY and he couldn’t produce that…So she did basically what most REAL WOMEN would do kicked him to the curb, what did he do TRIED to humiliate her because his EGO was hurt but it backfired….The only NEGATIVE force around CB his himself he needs to GROW UP and learn that you don’t need people around you for constant validation………..Yes I do agree with you CB is very talented and shouldn’t be where he is in his career but that’s his own fault too busy partying with Groupies and Leeches………BTW Frank ocean, Good Morning America, Drake, car crash, etc. all that his fault the key word:SELF CONTROL..He needs to “Know how to move in a room full of vultures” #seriously…….Anyway whats with all this #’s calculation it’s really not that serious and ILLUMINATI doesn’t exist the mind is very powerful “BELIEF KILLS and BELIEF CURES” so be careful in what you BELIEVE……..

 
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JanuaryShytown

Posted at 11:19 PM on July 27, 2013  

It appears both you and the commenter Sandra Duncan below have both made good valid points. Kudos to you both!

 
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Tisha.H

Posted at 12:09 PM on July 13, 2013  

I can’t understand how everyone is still so quick to put blame on Chris. No one knows what REALLY happened that nigh. ACCORDING TO RIH SHE ATTACKED HIM FIRST. is he supposed to just be someone’s punching bag. Bet she’ll never do it again. I don’t believe he ABUSED her, if it was as bad as she put it out to be why did she CHASE AND PRACTICALLY BEG for him to come back to her. As she says he’s the love of her life. I don’t buy her version of their relationship.

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Meme

Posted at 11:12 PM on July 13, 2013  

@Tisha H: Amen. You said exactly everything I was trying to tell these people.

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persianboy

Posted at 11:41 AM on July 13, 2013  

This is the biggest mistake that Rihanna is back at it again.
There is a Persian proverb that says shiner bite a hole twice the calls. Betrayed Rihanna and Chris Brown should not forget the relief of physical injury

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nay nay

Posted at 10:37 AM on July 13, 2013  

jay-z has a family and a daughter, he cares about Rihanna most mentors does. Jay-z speak to Rihanna and he would never speak to her in public. When someone cares they will not hurt you in the public eye. Jay-Z no that Rihanna has people that will love to see him speak ill about her.

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Veeyah19

Posted at 10:30 AM on July 13, 2013  

This is the stupidest article I’ve read. It’s as if the writer is giving being snide about Jay Z being responsible. The person who wrote this sounds jealous as hell if anything.
Jay Z is worth billions, stop sounding like he cares what you think.

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bessiebusby

Posted at 10:08 AM on July 13, 2013  

I think jayxz is doing the right time buy staying out of rihanna and chris. Business he has his own family now and beside rih is a little to much she does ehat she wants anyway she doesnt even listen to her own parents why would she lusten to anybody else let her and chris tare each other apart even though rih is the only one doing the dissing and getting drunk like a child so jayz stayout of ut

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Marion

Posted at 8:14 AM on July 13, 2013  

thats enough to show that jay and rihanna are lovers.

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annab

Posted at 7:57 AM on July 13, 2013  

You see, Jay-Z made rihanna who she is today….. until she went and got herself involved with a thug pop star. So that why he don’t want to get involved in her life choices anymore…. #justsaying

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kcbombshell

Posted at 3:48 AM on July 13, 2013  

Yea I like the fact that Jay is choosing not to get in rhianna business as far as her relationship goes. I mean hell, he got his own marriage to worry about. he can’t live his life and rhianna’s too. and I agree it is pretty stupid to keep breaking up and getting back together. I’ve had my share of physical abuse from a guy and it was only one time but the moment it was over I felt anger and rage towards the individual to the point where if he got killed I’d have a party-like it was that bad. but that was a few years ago and no feelings for the individual were gone after the incident.

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eab

Posted at 1:03 AM on July 13, 2013  

wise words from Mr. Ape in person?

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annbarb

Posted at 10:57 PM on July 12, 2013  

SAY”S WHO YOU? MAIN PARTY BEHIND THE BREAK-UP? NO ONES DUM IM NOT BYE! BULL IF THEIR EVER WAS ONE? BYE AGAIN.

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llalongy

Posted at 8:35 PM on July 12, 2013  

Didn’t he sleep with her in the past?

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Plopster

Posted at 8:29 PM on July 12, 2013  

No actually this is not smart, this is stupider. At some point, acting like a troubled egoistical girl and didn’t get any help isn’t the solution. I think this girl got severe mental issues. And this is NOT a model for womens this is the extreme oposite. Being crazy is doing the same s**** over and over again. And its only getting worse. Maybe one day, people will get over this swagg thing and get to think about what message she is really sending. Because wether you like it or not, there is an ethical issue here.

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sandra duncan

Posted at 11:03 PM on July 12, 2013  

@Plopster
I can’t understand why people look at Celebs as Role Models they are human just like everyone else……..The problem is her life is being magnified because she is a Celeb if you need a Role Model look to your parents or some close family member for that…..RIH is just living her life she is only 25 and have no children and if she has a big ego it’s well within her rights she has worked hard for what she has achieved…As for mental issues everybody has got some just ask any Psychologist(SMH)…Anyway @HL Jay may say he is not getting involved but what he does may be different him giving her advice is also considered involvement……I am sure he advised her to kick CB’S a$$ to the curb(just saying). lol

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momo

Posted at 8:16 PM on July 12, 2013  

off course it aint no ones biz.

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Kelly & Kairyah twins sister

Posted at 7:17 PM on July 12, 2013  

he basic saying that she’s a grown woman who make her own decide unless she want advice from him other then that she’s living her life & doing what she love/like doing.

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