‘Vampire Diaries’ Sire Bond: Why Damon Needs To Set Elena Free

Fri, December 7, 2012 3:30pm EDT by 93 Comments
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Angel (@unicaijaxhit)

Posted at 12:25 PM on March 17, 2013  

Its just too nerve racking that damon and elena cant be together at the end. They tried to make the audience feel that there is still hope for damon and elena but to be honest, there is nothing to hope for. Stephan and elena will be together until at the last season and episode of this tv show. Its just plain weird how they think about the sire thing. Just confuses the viewers.

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CJ

Posted at 11:25 PM on April 9, 2013  

They stated in the show before that there’s a small chance of a sire bond forming. Werewolves are loyal to their pack so it’s in their nature so therefore it was more likely for Tyler to form the bond with Klaus. It isn’t definite. Elena is forcefully with Damon and that’s the only reason I couldn’t respect their relationship at all. It needed to be broken.

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Angel (@unicaijaxhit)

Posted at 12:22 PM on March 17, 2013  

Well i dont understand this sire thing. Here is a question ok, damon gave elene his blood and she still have it in her system when she died. Ok whats the explanation about caroline? She got damons blood in her system before katherine killed her. So the question is, why isnt she sired to damon???

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A

Posted at 10:14 PM on April 23, 2013  

I know this is like a month late but I’ll answer anyway. When Elena was human she loved Damon. And when she turned, her feeling for him increased. Like they said everything about your personality will increase/Heighten when you turn . So now that she’s a vampire her love for him became stronger, so the bond happened.
When Caroline turn she didn’t have those type of feeling for Damon. No love. So she didn’t get that bond.
If someone else”s blood maybe Stefan would been in her system then her love for Damon would have Increased/Heighten but there wouldn’t have been the bond because it wasn’t his blood which only makes them closer. And as for Stefan her love for him also increased but not the same type of love. She loves him but she’s not in love with him. Big Difference.
As for Tyler he was bonded to Klaus because wolfs are very loyal, so that loyalty made the sire bond.

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Sinead

Posted at 6:02 PM on August 12, 2013  

Stefan says in the show that it is incredibly rare that there is a vampire sire bond.

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Trevor Williams

Posted at 6:48 AM on February 23, 2013  

It seems that everyone is focused on the feelings part. Yes, maybe Elena is in love with Damon (maybe or maybe not), but the biggest part is the sire bond controls how she acts. How she acts means that the amount of sex they have, how she deals/acts in dealing with vampire drama. You can love someone, but if you can’t control how you act on that is weird. For example, Adam is in love with Barb, but Adam doesn’t want have sex – but Barb sires him to is disgusting!!!

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Hi

Posted at 2:26 PM on January 27, 2013  

Well the sire bond should be fake because of stefan damon and katherine so if they didnt get turned by katherine then it ok. But they did and the sire bond for vam

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Dail3550

Posted at 2:18 PM on January 27, 2013  

I think that elena still is in love with stefan but the stupid sire bond probably changed the feelings because i know that tyler was sire bond to klaus and he didnt hurt him and he was happy he was a hybrid but he was scared of klaus before. His feelings were changed so it does change his feelings. And i know since stupid stefan turned off his feelings for REBEKA AND THAT IS STUPID i know that deep down stefan is still in love with elena And elena is still in love with stefan.

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Sunday

Posted at 1:01 PM on January 12, 2013  

out of point…i love klaus character wow..can Caroline just date him please.

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Fatbeb

Posted at 4:56 AM on January 9, 2013  

Plz i nid elena n stefan bk 2 dia rlshp..i lyk demon bt hes nt meant 4 elena,stefan is d bst

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jenn

Posted at 7:49 AM on January 12, 2013  

how could stefan be the best?he always let elena do what she wants, what she decides, even if it will endanger her or endanger the people they love. while damon gives her something she would think about, something she should consider before doing anything…she gives her insights…options…practical and realistic solutions…oh c’mon, stefan’s boring…and i hate him so much for telling straight to damon’s face how he couldn’t believe that elena is blinded by not seeing that damon doesn’t deserve her. who is he btw?

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Simone

Posted at 6:54 PM on January 21, 2013  

OMG I totally agree damon belongs with Elena

 
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vicky

Posted at 5:52 PM on January 24, 2013  

I feel that Elena and Stephan should be together. Don’t get me wrong both Salvatore brothers are GORG and Damon might be even a little better looking but i think Elena and Stephan are just better together. the love that they had for each other was so strong and Elena always told Damon how its always gonna be Stephan and she always picked him over Damon . Which is why i don’t get how she could be so in love with Damon all of a sudden. And for all of you who say that if Stephan really loved her he wouldn’t have let her make her own decisions or do whatever she wants shut up. because she was the one who wanted to make her own decisions and Stephan stood by her . Love has nothing to do with letting someone doing whatever they want. That’s just dumb! And yes Damon met her first , but who did she love first? If Damon and Elena really will be together throughout the whole rest of the show i hope that Stephan at least gets some new girl or something so that he wont have to be broken anymore :/

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Elliot

Posted at 4:51 AM on January 6, 2013  

I just want Stefan and elena to get back together. I thought i wanted delena to happen but i just miss Stelena so much! It just doesn’t feel right without them being together. i really hope things between them becomes perfect again…

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Dail3550

Posted at 2:20 PM on January 27, 2013  

I agree

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Louise

Posted at 6:30 PM on January 5, 2013  

I don’t care if she’s sired to him or him, he shouldn’t have made her go! They belong together ;)

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Miranda

Posted at 11:02 PM on January 1, 2013  

One Thing I Find Funny Is People Say That She Loves Stefan More…..Then Why In The Hell Is She Sired To Damon???? She Is Sired To Him Because She Had Feelings For Him While Human… If She Loved Stefan More…Then Why Did She Not Get Sired To Him?

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hdiciudci

Posted at 12:18 PM on January 2, 2013  

because she didnt turn with his blood, he turned with damons.

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hdiciudci

Posted at 12:19 PM on January 2, 2013  

she*

 
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ken

Posted at 9:59 PM on January 2, 2013  

Damon’s blood turned her – watch the series. On the Sire-bond – What happened to the last girl sired to damon (burbon street) she spent 50 years on the same street corner counting bricks, because damon told her to. Damon knows how strong the sire bond is and if he touches Elena without breaking it, he will be treating her just like bonnie in 1.02. compel, rape, feed!!! No free will – means no free will.. Rewatch 3.10 – tyler explains the difference between compelling and sire bond. Sire bond means you feel your doing the right thing. – The same word Elena used to tell Damon her emotions feel right in 4.08 and 4.09

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vicky

Posted at 5:54 PM on January 24, 2013  

um the sire bond has nothing to do with who she has feelings for. Tyler got sired to Claus.. does that mean he has feelings for him?

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Haanh Phương

Posted at 2:13 PM on February 9, 2013  

you don’t watch the show, do you? Tyler is sired to Klaus b/c he loves Klaus? the sire thing has NOTHING to do with feelings!!!

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gabita91

Posted at 7:55 PM on December 30, 2012  

He needs to set her free, but she does love him. We’ve seen it. I’d love that at the end of The Vampire Diaries, they end up togheter forever. Like i have read somewhere, Stefan appeared in Elena’s life when she needed the most, but is Damon who she really loves. And besides, Damon did met Elena first, but he made her forget. I want them to be togheter. What they have is true love. And Caroline,needs to respect Elena’s decisions, even if she doesn’t like them. She hates Damon only because he used her at first, but Damon was always there for Elena, and like he said: At the end of the day,i’ll be the one to keep her alive!” And he did. They have to be together. She kisses him at the end,so….it is true love. And if she will still be with Stefan…..i won’t like the show anymore. Elena and Stefan….it’s not true love.

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Amy Hoang

Posted at 6:09 AM on December 28, 2012  

You guys know what’s weird, is that Katherine never set Damon or, Stefan free back then, all she did was tricked them into thinking she got locked up with the other vampires, but neither of them found out until they got into the tomb, so how the hell did Stefan free himself from the sired bond. Remmeber the witch said, the sired bond is only if the person had human feelings for his/her sire before they turn and in this this case, Stefan and Damon did have human feelings for Katherine, so how did Stefan break the bond? See, I told you guys, VD makes up stuff as they go, but they don’t look back to what they originally wrote. Also the part where the sherriff accidently shot Jeremy, it seems he died almost right away, even Caroline couldn’t save him, but when Conner shot him, Elena had just enough time to???

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TP

Posted at 2:39 PM on December 28, 2012  

I agree a lot of stuff doesn’t make sense anymore. The sire bond story line is stupid. I think there are too many new writer’s on this show that doesn’t watch or look back on previous episodes.

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Amy Hoang

Posted at 2:47 PM on December 28, 2012  

Even if they are new writers for this show, TP, in the end, ultimately Julie Plec still have a say in it and I think some of the ideas were even hers. I have stopped watching VD since season 4 started, I only find out what’s been happening now, by reading them online.

 
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Jazz

Posted at 2:27 AM on May 29, 2013  

Damon and stefan were not sired by katherine b’coz they were compelled to love her…. moreover its clearly told in the series that vampire to vampire sirebond is quite unusual….

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ISFNatalya_TeamDamon (@Natiko76)

Posted at 8:29 PM on December 19, 2012  

Damon Salvatore is one of the most complex characters i’ve ever seen, and @iansomerhalder pulls it off beautifully.

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maria

Posted at 2:34 AM on December 28, 2012  

I could not agree more, Ian somerhalder’s portrayal of Damon is fantastic, but then Ian is a fantastic Actor to begin with.

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Erin

Posted at 8:02 AM on December 19, 2012  

Damon didn’t really break the sire bond by “setting her free”. it can’t be broken. they’re still together, they’re just spending some time apart so Damon can help Jeremy. their feelings have NOT changed for each other. this sire bond only exists between them because she was in love with him before she turned into a vampire. her feelings were only heightened when she turned, so she couldn’t run from them anymore. i personally think SE will never get back together, not after the writers have built up Delena for more than 3 seasons & put so much time, blood, sweat, and tears into this couple. Damon gives Elena everything she has ever wanted out of life. i don’t always like Stefan, but i really think he should move on & be with someone who he can love no matter what, & who will love him fully. just because the series is based off the books, doesn’t mean the writers are going to follow them. Delena will be endgame.

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TP

Posted at 2:44 PM on December 28, 2012  

Keep telling yourself that. Stefan and Elena will never be over. The main writer’s have said this many times. I do not believe Elena loves Damon but I do believe she has feelings for him.

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Roxy

Posted at 11:36 PM on December 14, 2012  

I don’t think Elena and Damon should be together. Elena belongs with Stefan. Damon should get his own girlfriend. Damon is always chasing his brothers girls, because he just bites and leaves them until he see’s that Stefan likes them than he so does Damon. I thin it’s all Physiological for Damon. He needs to find his own loves. They should hook him up with Bonnie and than he could fight someone else instead of his brother. Or maybe have Stefan go with a new girl and let Elena get jealous. She is not the most beautiful girl in the world where every guy loves her. It’s Stefan and her that what a soulmate and ever lasting is. You fight against everything and everyone and end up together.

Elena belongs to Stefan that is the book and that should be the series.

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TP

Posted at 2:47 PM on December 28, 2012  

I agree with you. Stefan and Elena are soul mates and should be together. I agree Damon should find his own girl but I don’t think they will ever put him with Bonnie like in the books. I know the books and the show is owned by Alloy Entertainment and I hope the show ends the way the books did.

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Tay

Posted at 12:15 AM on December 14, 2012  

Lets just say that they find the cure and Elena then becomes a vampire no more, then the sire bond will be broken and everyone will be happy… Yay!

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Sarah

Posted at 10:49 AM on December 10, 2012  

It seems fairly obvious that Damon will end things with Elena soon; he can’t handle the thought of her fake love. A coworker at DISH mentioned that in the last episode he said Elena is the only person he wants to do right by. After seeing what Charlotte went through, he would never want Elena to suffer the same fate. I am very interested to see how it all plays out, I am glad I won’t miss out on any of the impending drama with my DISH Hopper. With my late train home, I have my DVR set to automatically record the entire season. The 2,000 hours of recording space is more than enough room for everything I watch. I can’t wait to come home after a long day and see how everything unfolds in the midseason finale. This show never ceases to end in a cliffhanger, so even if Damon breaks up with Elena, I am sure the hope of them getting back together will not be lost.

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Matron

Posted at 6:50 AM on December 10, 2012  

As an afterthought, one of the things that have always bothered me about Stefan is that while Damon constantly feels guilty about being in love with the girl that Stefan loves, Stefan never seems to feel guilty for being in love with the girl Damon loves. I think that is partly because he truly seems to believe that however bad he is as a Ripper, in non-Ripper mode he is the better brother and better for Elena (which is in itself a very unappealing characteristc given their history). But the other part, I think, is that with both Katherine and Elena he (and Stelena fans) seems to think that he has some kind of dibs on them because he met them first. Which, in Elena’s case is of course not true (although one could argue hat Stefan was the first to fall in love with her so Delena fans’ insistence that Damon should have her because he met her first is equally stupid). In real life, being with someone first does of course not give you any moral right to them if they then fall for someone else even if that someone else is your brother. So this is a very unhappy situation that will only be resolved by the three of them being honest to each other and allowing each other to find out which two people cannot be without each other and by the third being magnanimous enough to then step back and allowing them to be. And that could still be any of the three possible combinations including Elena removing herself from the fray to save Damon and Stefan’s brother bond.

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mimi

Posted at 12:59 AM on December 15, 2012  

you’re right, it’s not about who met who first.
It’s about who fell in love with whom. Stefan and Elena fell in love and then Damon came along.

Damon had to feel guilty coz what he did was wrong. It’s not right to fall for your own brother’s girl no matter what you might say.

Stefan does not have to feel guilty as such coz Elena was his gf back then.
Now that things have changed, maybe Stefan should have let Damon and Elena have their moment.
But again, I guess it must be really hard to let go of the love of your life so that she can run into the arms of your brother.
I know Damon suffered when waiting for Elena all this time, but when it comes down to it, he was pining for a girl who belonged with someone else.

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TP

Posted at 2:51 PM on December 28, 2012  

Yes, Damon met her first but he was there for Katherine. It was all about Katherine in Season 1. Stefan saved Elena and fell in love with her b/c of who she was not because she looked like Katherine. Damon turned his attention toward Elena when he found out Katherine wasn’t in the tomb and didn’t love him. He should have left Stefan and Elena alone.

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Matron

Posted at 6:27 AM on December 10, 2012  

I am drawn on this one. One the one hand the free will issue seems to be undeniable, but on the other Damon would just be repeating what has been his whole self-destructive approach with Elena all along. Not letting her know how he really feels because he is driven by guilt towards his brother and a feeling that he basically doesn’t deserve her. On another board someone drew a comparison between this scene and the one in season 2 where he tells her he loves her but then compells her to forget. The song that played then was called “I was wrong” and at the time it probably referred to Damon’s feeling that he was wrong to romantically persue Elena and that he should let her be happy with Stefan because that was what she wanted.

So when Elena asks him if this feels wrong, it’s like she refers back to that moment, like she is trying to say, maybe it was wrong then to love me and to fight for my love, but it’s not wrong now, so don’t do this again. She wants him to stay and possibly not because of the sire bond but because she wants to have the oportunity to figure out her feelings for him. Breaking the sire bond would therefore be a very selfless thing to do to ensure Elena is not bound by his wishes but it would also be robbing her of the right to make her own decision regarding their relationship. So, on the assumption that the sire bond does not affect Elena’s feelings for Damon, maybe the morally correct decision would be for Damon to find a way not to use his powers as a sire while Elena finds out what she wants.

However, practically speaking, I agree that the only wy to convince Damon of her love will be to release he and for Elena to come to him willingly afterwards. My guess is that he will probably leave at the end of 4×09 and that he will have a separate storyline away from MF for a few episodes probably to look for another hunter so they can find the cure. We have seen no spoilers for 4×10 to 4×12 and I think that’s why. They won’t tell us he’s out of town until he actually is. I just hope that Elena uses that time to have a few choice discussions with Stefan where she clues him in on the sacrifices Damon has made for the two of them (Stefan and Elena). I think Stefan’s image of Damon’s motives needs some serious readjustment.

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Sam

Posted at 11:47 PM on December 9, 2012  

I can’t help but think about the Charlotte scene. She seemed genuinely stricken and sure when she said she would not be able to forget him. Maybe that’s it. No matter if he releases her as well, Elena will not be able to forget him because her real love for him will not allow that. That said. Damon needs to release her for he will not be able to get over the doubt if he doesn’t. This is a catch 22 kind of situation. Damn if he does, damn if he doesn’t…I agree with you Andy, the only way for them to have a viable future is for him to release her and for Elena to find her way back to him without having anything in their way that may damper their relationship. The bond has to be broken!

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Major Delena Fan

Posted at 7:54 AM on December 9, 2012  

ok so how does no one see this!! By telling elena to live her life without him and to forget about him, SHE IS OBEYING HIM, the sire bond is not broken at all!!! How can the sire bond be broken when here she is still obeying what he said to do.

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Bryana

Posted at 10:07 PM on December 11, 2012  

In episode 7 they said the sire bond COULD’NT be broken. But that telling her to live life without him and to forget about him he only way around it.

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TP

Posted at 2:56 PM on December 28, 2012  

I think the sire bond will be broken when she is turned back into a human or Damon dies. Damon died and came back in the books but I’m not sure if they will go this route on the show. I think Stefan will sacrifice himself and maybe that will will break the sire bond. His holy card said From honor, comes salvation.

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kim

Posted at 3:27 AM on December 9, 2012  

nice article andy. i think he should also break the bond as well, but then again if he does then he wont get to be with her at all. i will ALWAYS root for elena and stefan, but that scene made me really sad because i do like damon…but not damon with elena. i dont like damon and elena’s relationship-it’s messy. there’s so much insecurity, and most of all the fact that she moved on to damon and is being so cold to stefan worries/annoys me. how long before she moves on from damon and back to stefan? i like damon SO much, and i would like to see him do better. i would like to see him get past this insecure and unstable girl, and move onto someone who could care less about stefan, and chooses damon. i’m torn because i like both stefan and damon, but who is better for elena? im definitely team stefan.

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Andrei

Posted at 9:41 PM on December 11, 2012  

totally agree with you, i feel exactly the same, 80% of the vampire diaries fans are team damon, and they are so mean to stefan, they say stefan is selfish and not good for elena and their relationship is boring, im so happy to find someone who thinks exactly like me, i feel so worry and sad because elena is too cold and careless with stefan. If i was in stefan’s position, i would leave town and leave her with damon, only that way she will see she actually needs stefan…

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mimi

Posted at 1:01 AM on December 15, 2012  

at long last, someone who seems to be realistic :)

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anum

Posted at 3:11 AM on December 9, 2012  

@Wes Okay so if Damon tells Elena to live without him n frees her and Elena obeys. She lives without him n stop caring about him n after the bond is broken but her love for Damon will still be there because its real n was never influenced by the sire bond. Its not going to finish just because Damon tells her to stop caring. Andy has a point that breaking the bond might tear them apart for a short while but it will make stronger n they will be happier together in the long run.
What I don’t get is y would Elena even listen to Damon when she hasn’t done half the things he told her to do this season?

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Sam

Posted at 12:04 AM on December 10, 2012  

@Anum…great point! Maybe he will do what he needs to do to release her and it won’t work. Maybe she has enough willpower to reject his demands…I’m very anxious to see how will the writers deal with this mess…

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Joy

Posted at 5:29 PM on December 8, 2012  

Well I think that, that is the “Obstacle” Julie was talking about when she mentioned they would have one to work around if they were together. The sire bond is the obstacle. He’s going to have to be careful of what he asks her to do, so that he doesnt tamper with her free will and that will be difficult yet very interesting to watch. I vote no on breaking the bond. There isnt a way to break it, only a way in which to command her set free, I dont think there is a way around that once he does that. Like what? you assume poof sire bond is gone and she can start developing feelings for him again? No because if he’s there in her mind, if he’s around her, well then she’s still sired to him. And if he’s gone, where he’s out of sight and forever out of mind which is what it takes to restore her free will then how is there any hope for them? Julie said this sire bond gives them more hope than ever, they just have to work around it. You say no couple is worth rooting for without obstacles, well hello the sire bond is the obstacle, damon completely erasing himself as an option isnt an obstacle it makes it impossible. They can get through this, and when they do, they’ll be stronger than ever.

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anum

Posted at 2:34 PM on December 8, 2012  

Even if Damon does set Elena free to break the sire bond, they both will REUNITE because Elena’s love n trust for Damon is real n it will still be there all the more stronger, even after she breaks the bond. Relax guys, DE will not/never breakup because:
a. Julie said its a tiny obstacle which will either make them stronger than ever or tear them apart. I m sure its the former
b. Damon n Elena always survive
c. Elena’s love is 100% real n she has now vowed to prove it
d. The sole reason y this sire bond needs to be broken is so it can firm the authenticity of Elena’s love for Damon in everyone’s mind
e. Even after she breaks the bond, she will still be IN LOVE with Damon n will choose him n won’t let him go because her feelings have ALWAYS been real. Being happy with Damon n sleeping with him was her own desire n choice

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ken

Posted at 9:18 PM on January 4, 2013  

you do understand that Elena has NEVER told Damon she loved Him – right!!!
She has feelings for him,. she thinks she might be falling for him. But NO I love you
There’s a reason for this

elena

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gina

Posted at 1:13 PM on January 7, 2013  

u guys got to be kidin me! is dat wat a brada pays for savin his own….. wow!! i cant belive dis…cos stefan left to find a cure for damons wolf bite n dats hw delena happend….yhhh i guess dats wat he meant by he feelin guilty in s3…. bingo!!!! even HE knows itz wrong n i tink elena is consumed wit passion not love

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