Justin and Selena, you’ve apparently split and reunited before — but this time, you need to really work through your issues before recommitting!
And missing each other is probably exactly what’s happening for you both — big time — right now.
You split up just over a week ago, and the reality of your split is sinking in right now. You’re both hurting intensely now.
We’ve all been through angry and highly emotional splits. You all know the deal: you’ve been upset with various issues that have been developing in your relationship. In the case of Selena and Justin, apparently it’s been “trust issues,” according to reports.
Selena has reportedly heard girls’ voices while she’s on the phone with Justin, and she’s worried he’s having straying thoughts!
Is Age A Factor?
Then there’s the issue of maturity. Selena feels she’s more mature than you Justin, a source told HollywoodLife.com exclusively.
“She is way too mature for him,” explains the insider. “He wants to have fun and be young and wants her around all the time, and she wants to be like his mom and not go out and wants to actually settle with someone, and she’s boring.”
Well, that sounds like there’s complaints coming from both of you two in an angry moment. And it sounds like exaggeration.
Yes, at 20, Selena is a year and a half older than Justin, 18, and young women do tend to be more mature than teen guys.
BUT, I doubt that you, Selena, are in any way boring — even if you may not want to party as much as Justin.
You’re a thoughtful young woman who is very serious about both your singing and acting careers and your relationships. You’re a young women of great depth, and my bet is that Justin mostly admires and appreciates that.
On the other hand, you, Justin, may be a little younger, but you’re hardly a typical 18-year-old guy. You’ve had to be way more mature and take on way more responsibility than most 18-year-olds. You’ve not been a major partier.
Justin’s New Lifestyle
That’s why it seemed so out of character when you were partying with Victoria’s Secret models last week in NYC, allegedly asking for phone numbers and then inviting Victoria’s Secret model Barbara Palvin to see The Lion King with you.
But in retrospect, that seems like a moment of acting out because you were so upset over the split. Maybe, just maybe, were you trying to make Selena jealous because she had just dumped you?
Your true feelings seemed more obvious just a couple of days later, when you cried while singing “Be Alright” in concert, and then sang Justin Timberlake’s breakup song, “Cry Me A River” at your New Jersey concert Nov. 9.
You know, in the heat of a major fight, especially during a long distance call, it’s so easy to breakup. Then in the anger you’re both feeling, it’s easy to feel good about that breakup for a couple of days.
So easy, you can party with Victoria’s Secret models, Justin, or take photos with hunky Wizards of Waverly Place co-stars, Selena.
But then the reality of what you’ve done sinks in, and the regrets and second guessing starts.
Did They Make A Mistake?
Have you made the right decision or THE WORST MISTAKE OF YOUR LIFE?
You two are probably mentally revisiting all the great times you’ve had over the past year: how Justin surprised you, Selena, at the Staples Center with a romantic dinner and showing of The Titanic, how Selena flew for hours down to South America just to see you for a day, Justin, or how you had so much fun together with his young siblings in Stratford, Ontario, Justin’s hometown.
How could you walk away from all that history together? Plus, you’ve been best friends, sharing everything and emotionally supporting each other for the past two years.
Should you be giving all that up and for what? Justin — to date models? Selena — to play the field?
These are all important questions to ask yourself, but ask you must.
Take It Slow, Justin & Selena
So my advice is not to just rush into getting back together because you miss each other so much.
Instead, you two need to have some very long talks about your “issues” with each other. And you need to also ask yourselves what’s most important to you. Is it to be in a loving, committed relationship with your best friend, at ages 18 and 20?
Or is it time to meet other people and spend time doing and having fun with other guys and girls, to see how you feel about that?
Should you guys agree to take a three- or six-month break and the re-assess?
Sometimes a break is good, especially when you’re so young. You need to see if you’re truly meant to be together, or if you’ve just become dependent on each other.
For all those reasons, I urge you two NOT to rush to get back together, even though you’re hurting badly.
Your issues were big enough to cause a split, so if you don’t work them out, you’ll just get in the same position again in a few short months.
Take Scooter’s Advice
As Scooter advised Justin in a tweet this past weekend, “It’s how we handle ourselves in the toughest situation that show our time character. Always show respect, integrity and class.”
Scooter is so right. You two have meant the world to each other, so whether you split, take an agreed upon break or do get back together, don’t hit back at each other in anger, do show respect for each other.
Your fans will support you — whichever decision you make. What do you think, HollywoodLifers? Should Justin and Selena get back together or stay apart?
— Bonnie Fuller
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