Taylor has clearly learned a thing or two about love and I admire her for spreading the best piece of advice there is: you can’t let a relationship define your happiness! Read on and I’ll tell you why.
Taylor Swift has suffered heartbreak after heartbreak and that’s what makes her so relatable. She sings about all her failed relationships, giving all girls a chance to let their voices be heard. There isn’t a girl out there that wouldn’t love the chance to belt out a break up anthem aimed at an ex, I know I would. But I must say, the 22-year-old is definitely sounding pretty wise these days.
Taylor tells Twist magazine in a brand new interview the following: “My advice about guys has to do with how you prioritize them. They can be a part of your life but never let the guy BE your life. They can live in your world, but never make the guy your world,” she adds. “Knowing who you are and being independent and strong will be attractive to the right guy. Trying too hard to impress a guy or putting him before your friends and family shows you’re not OK with who you are. One of my goals is always to be OK and with who I am aside from love and boys.”
I couldn’t have said it better myself! But here’s why her advice is so on point.
True happiness doesn’t have anything to do with a falling in love!
From a very young age we are taught that we are the damsel in distress, just take a look at any Disney movie: Cinderella, Sleeping Beauty, Snow White, Beauty & The Beast, The Little Mermaid, or even Lady & The Tramp! All of these movies have one common theme: a woman will only be happy when they find true love and then that’s when you will live happily ever after.
Trust me, I want the same thing all women want. I want to be chased and find the good looking, edgy, trustworthy, funny, all-encompassing bad boy, who is head-over-heels for me. But something I too have learned, is that you’ll only be truly happy when you’re happy with you.
Why you have to start with making yourself happy before you find Mr. Right.
How can you do that? Make lasting friendships. While you’re on the hunt for Mr. Right, spend tons of nights with your girls. Excel in what you love, whether that’s your job, hobby, or school. Just win at life and then when you’re so busy focusing on you, that’s when Mr. Confident will walk through that door in your heart. I know it’s the cliché, when you stop looking that’s when he’ll come. But I really believe that’s true. Because if you’re always obsessing over being single, you’ll end up settling for something you don’t want.
Taylor has come under a lot of scrutiny for writing about her exes. But let’s face it, women spend 99.9 percent of their time talking about men. Whether it’s over-analyzing a text message, crying over a bad break up, or planning your wedding, women talk about men. So I applaud Taylor for giving all girls a voice.
Don’t cancel plans for a guy in the early stages of a relationship!
Taylor is right on another thing, don’t ever put a guy before your family. Don’t rush into things, enjoy dating, just love being in love. But when you meet a guy, don’t skip holidays, don’t miss family events to be right there next to your new guy. Why? Because when it’s meant to last, there’s plenty of time for the other things. I know that when “you know, you just know” but give it just a minute before jumping in.
Never ever, ever, pretend to like the things he does just to get him to like you!
Lastly, don’t ever change who you are. Don’t try to make jokes that aren’t you, don’t pretend to like sports if you don’t. Don’t exaggerate on the things you have or haven’t done. Because if it lasts, this guy will find out and you’ll look like a fool. I promise you, you want someone who just clicks with the real you.
One day you’ll feel those overwhelming butterflies and it’s the best feeling in the world. But until then, be true to yourself and be happy with yourself. So thank you Taylor for empowering women everywhere with such resonating advice.
— Chloe Melas
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