‘Vampire Diaries': Damon Is Being Unfairly Portrayed As Elena’s Predator

Fri, November 2, 2012 3:15pm EST by 153 Comments
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Sue

Posted at 7:37 AM on November 4, 2012  

I AGREE WITH YOU ANDY! Elena has been a b*tch since 2 seasons and now that she’s a Vampire its getting even worse :( She’s playing with the brothers just like Katherine did. She uses Damon whenever she needs something and lies to Stefan :( I never really liked her but now I hate her.

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nancy

Posted at 7:08 PM on November 3, 2012  

I totally agree with you, Elena was such a b**** to damon in the last episode especially that she’s fully aware of how much he loves her !!! Anyway i feel like Julie plec puts some small DE scenes every now and then just to keep the high ratings (cause she knows how big the DE fandom is ) but in the end she’ll just end it with SE which is very lame in my opinion.

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Aili Mirage (@nonilia)

Posted at 4:07 PM on November 3, 2012  

Elena is incredibly selfish in terms of both brothers, she hated Katherine but ultimately she turned to be exactly like her. She “loves” Stefan because he accepts her whims and she uses Damon where she actually needs someone useful and dependable. I don’t really mind this storyline but she should be faced with her moral fall as she is not a nice person anymore.

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jade

Posted at 3:34 PM on November 3, 2012  

Whats wrong with everyone. It’s not ok to try to take your brothers girlfriend. It’s ludicrous that people defend his behavior. He’s a terrible brother. And someone mentioned that he helped Stefan with his blood lust. No he didn’t that’s why Stef still has problems. Damon said he would help but nope ; he’s only interested in helping Elena. How awful especially when Stef chose Damon over Elena.

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Aili Mirage (@nonilia)

Posted at 5:20 PM on November 3, 2012  

Stefan let Elena die so I believe Damon is not so keen on helping him anymore. Let’s not forget that Stefan chose revenge over both Elena and Damon before his miraculous de-ripperising so I guess he cannot really be mad. Stefan and Damon are both saving each other’s lives but apart of that they have a really dysfunctional relationship. Stefan is a sanctimonous dick to Damon while Damon pays back with being a sarcastic dick. Stefan didn’t give a shit about Damon when he was busy with both Katherine and Elena knowing that Damon is in love with both of them. He knew how much Damon loved Kath so I really don’t care if now he gets his feelings hurt. The brothers love each other in terms of life saving but sure as hell they don’t like each other and they have a huge baggage of mutual hurt.

And don’t blame Damon for Elena being a lousy girlffriend. It is her who reached out to Damon for help. She pulls Katherine off and she tries to have them both just in different ways.

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Mandy

Posted at 4:11 AM on November 4, 2012  

Stefan still has a problem because Stefan CONTINUES TO REFUSE HUMAN BLOOD. Damon did his part, Stefan is convinced he can handle it, and–guess what–like Damon never does, Stefan will go off the rails because he can never truly handle being around human blood.

I’m okay with painting Damon as a bastard, he absolutely can be and is, but really? To say it’s Damon’s fault that Stefan can’t be an adult and actually take responsibility for what he’s set out AND FAILED to do? Wow. Just wow.

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jade

Posted at 4:05 PM on November 4, 2012  

Yeah wow. I never said it was Damon’s fault or anything about adulthood or responsibillity but yeah he was suppose to help him. One time of showing him doesn’t do much. It takes time to teach someone and Damon is the best one to do it but nope he’s not. He is to busy trying to get Elena. Stefan was drinking human blood last season unless those were juice pouches he was downing. What I am saying is that Damon is a terrible brother.

 
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Lace

Posted at 3:41 PM on November 4, 2012  

Damon has helped Stefan to try to get his blood list under control, did u forget last season? And when it comes to Damon and Elena… Would you live your life defending and loving someone who cares for you as we’ll and not act on it? Damon ot kissed elena last season because there was a time when Stefan and elena were not together, do u not remember Stefan saying some pretty Nasty things to elena early in season 3? Damon and Elena’s relationship got very close after that. He is not awful… He has to live for eternity and wants some happiness in the process. Stefan is the one who doesn’t want to learn to control it because he is afraid hell turn back… You heard him talking to Caroline. Even if damon was forceful in helping him he still wouldn’t have listened. Now days damon is more right than wrong

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jade

Posted at 4:20 PM on November 4, 2012  

Well your wrong. End of season one Damon kissed who he thought was Elena, beginning of season 2 he tried it again only for it to end with him killing Jeremy. Damon has been trying to get Elena from the beginning. Yes he is awful. You don’t do that to your brother especially on who traded his own freedom for their life (I’m referring to Stefan going to camp Klaus in return for the cure for a werewolf bite). Stefan had to ask Caroline or help because Damon just wants to help Elena. I don’t know why he can’t be like hey brother I know you need to learn this to why don’t you tag along. So again yes Damon is a terrible brother.

 
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Ellen

Posted at 10:44 PM on November 4, 2012  

I agree with you. Damon didn’t help Stefan because he was too busy trying to steal the love of his life away from him. He didn’t care about Stefan, all he cares about is getting Elena. In my opinion, I think Stefan and Elena should learn to control it together with Caroline’s or Elijah’s help.

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Maria

Posted at 9:18 PM on November 5, 2012  

Exactly. It’s like everyone forgets that Damon is totally moving in on his brother’s girl. And he TOTALLY took advantage of the fact she needed blood from a vein when he made her feed from him. She didn’t know what significance that had she even asked “why?” when Damon said “just don’t tell Stefan”. And if Blood sharing is akin to “naked cuddling” as Juile Pleic says, then isn’t what Damon did borderline molestation? It’s like a pedophile telling a 2 year old to tug on his wiener but “don’t tell your parents”. The kid doesn’t know any better and the molestor is the one who gets off. My 14 year old niece watches this show and even she knew that was wrong saying “it’s not right that he’s making her do that when she doesn’t know what it means”.

Why are the Delena comments so polarized.
Fact: Both brothers have done terrible things.
Fact: Both brothers can be selfish
Fact: Elena fell in love with Stefan instantly. Meeting Damon first didn’t make a damn difference in her decision.
Fact: Damon was pining for Katherine for 150 plus years when he met Elena (the first time). He wanted to live happily ever after with her until she told him she never loved him. Then Elena became the next best thing.
Fact: Stefan also was attracted to Elena because of her resemblance to Katherine, but realized he didn’t have true feelings for her after he found out Elena “was” the opposite of her (though that doesn’t seem to apply anymore as the seasons go on, she’s becoming more like her)
Fact: Stefan was concerned about Damon not getting his good bye from Elena in 3×22. What was Damon worried about? Whether if it came down to him or Stefan who would she pick.
Fact: Elena is having fun when she’s with Damon as a vampire, but she’s also hating what she’s becoming because it’s not “her”.

So please don’t make it seem like Damon is a knight and shining armour. He’s a dick and always will be. I really like him as a character, but I don’t think he belongs with Elena. And the only way that will be proven is if they actually get together for a time. Let Elena break up with Stefan, be with Damon and we’ll see just how “great” or “meant to be” they truly are.

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Leah

Posted at 11:09 AM on November 7, 2012  

Really? Did you watch season 3? That is not true at all. Damon was very honest when he could have taken full advantage of Elena. He did try and help Stefan and told Elena every time he glimpsed Stefan’s humanity. I think he was honest about how he felt(and we all know we cannot help how we feel) but he remained her friend until Stefan was back to ‘normal’ so to speak.

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jade

Posted at 9:35 PM on November 7, 2012  

Only because Elena wanted Stefan. Please season three was practically all about Damon trying to get Elena and yes while Stefan was gone.

 
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kougie757

Posted at 3:27 PM on November 3, 2012  

I love how all of the SE fans I have read here on this board can’t even write proper sentences, or try to use stuff from the books that they haven’t read or they would know better. Please, I know there are intelligent SE fans. Those should be the only ones allowed on this board.

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Lauren

Posted at 11:24 AM on November 3, 2012  

I love how the last four comment posters say things that aren’t even relevant and again the same person. Wonderful. Damon is just more like the old Elena (or true Elena if you will) before her parents death. He isn’t predatory and he’s certainly not a nuisance for SE, he’s saved more lives and helped Stefan control his bloodlust. Elena is just finding herself again with, now being a vampire (her true self is amplified) – she was no different from the flashbacks of her peppy self as a cheerleader and flirting with guys she barely knows. She has will power, it’s not as if Damon’s roofied her drink. He has feelings for her and he’s entitled to have them, free country and all that.

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Lacy (@lace0586)

Posted at 12:02 PM on November 3, 2012  

I agree Lauren! I think Elena is finally unable to control the feelings she has and that is what she is scared of. She doesnt like having feelings for Damon or having fun…since when was those 2 things okay with her? Never. I think she will eventually realize that she needs to just listen to herself even if she doesnt like what she’s listening too. She will like them eventually..once she gets a taste of the fun life and Damon. lol.

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Colos

Posted at 9:07 AM on November 3, 2012  

Damon! Good-bye! Nobody loves you!Elena only for Stefan!

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kougie757

Posted at 3:24 PM on November 3, 2012  

Wow you sound like a huge idiot.

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Palloma

Posted at 8:58 AM on November 3, 2012  

Damon stupid, terrible, thin and old! Leave Damon forever! Elena loves Stefan!

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kougie757

Posted at 3:25 PM on November 3, 2012  

You do know Ian is only 1 year older than Paul? So do you also mean ew Stefan who is old!

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Maria

Posted at 9:01 PM on November 5, 2012  

Actually Ian is 3 years older than Paul. They’re both much older than her.

 
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Leo

Posted at 8:56 AM on November 3, 2012  

Damon old and in wrinkles (To whom it is necessary?Elena uses it and will throw out! Super!

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Lacy (@lace0586)

Posted at 11:57 AM on November 3, 2012  

whaaaat? You’re dumb and wrinkles are sexy!

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maria

Posted at 3:05 PM on November 3, 2012  

LOL. Damon and Ian are stunningly beautiful, Them Eyes alone are mesmerizing

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GotFangs

Posted at 12:50 AM on November 4, 2012  

OMG WTH is wrong with you? Ian is sexy; its all about how he carries himself it is called sex appeal. Something you obviously don’t know about.

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Maxima

Posted at 8:54 AM on November 3, 2012  

Damon will die as in the book and Stelena will be happy!

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kougie757

Posted at 3:25 PM on November 3, 2012  

Damon comes back in the book as do you remember Elena says in the book there is no world without Damon. Oh yeah do you mean you never read the books???

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Nora

Posted at 8:51 AM on November 3, 2012  

Don’t like Damon.He is shit.Stelena forever!Elena has always choose Stephen and always come back to him!Damon only for sex:)

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damon is mine

Posted at 7:16 AM on November 3, 2012  

Damon once said,”i don’t let people see the good in me because when they see good,they expect good”but ironically he is actually doing good for these people now..it was an exciting episode though,Elena is just afraid of what she feels for Damon because she is so passionate&gets carried away when she’s with him,they just lose in each other when they are like this,as Rose said,”Damon is either the best thing or the worst thing for her”actually the writers are doing a great job,but Damon lovers find it so painful when he gets hurt again&again&again

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damon is mine

Posted at 7:05 AM on November 3, 2012  

Respect Damon,he was just trying to teach her,help her with all his good intentions…he was never selfish with her…&Elena is taking him for granted,she never took Stefan for granted,Damon deserves someone special&better than Elena..he need to move on and leave behind these people,maybe Meredith is a much better option for him atleast she is his dead friend’s girl&sympathizes with him

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deidre

Posted at 6:44 AM on November 3, 2012  

never been a fan of nina, but i ask myself what would i choose, one who loves me purely and will protect the people i love even though it means considering me last and respects my decisions, or one who will protect me that even killing the people i love for my life is easy for him though he brings out things in me i never knew icould do, i understand u elena but wish writers would give elena and deman some time to explore their relationship and stefan a new human love.

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Shaun

Posted at 4:18 AM on November 3, 2012  

What makes the whole frat party scene even more hypocritical is the fact that in the previous episode which ended only the night before this one in Mystic falls time. Damon was trying to show Elena that it could be fun being a vampire with that ridiculous motorcycle scene. And now she freaks out when bonnie buzzkill shows up why? Because she is actually having a good time, only because it was with Damon instead of Stefan. I wasn’t aware that being in a relationship actually ment having fun with someone other then your bf/gf was a big no no.

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Bethany Spencer

Posted at 2:09 AM on November 3, 2012  

I totally agree on all counts. I have been over Elena for a long time. But now, I am beginning to dislike her as much as I dislike Stefan (don’t even get me started on Bonnie). Another thing I’d like to point out was that Elena stated to Stefan that Caroline was too good at controlling blood lust to help her even though Caroline had been through it AND killed someone accidentally. Yet somehow she is just good enough to help Stefan resist reverting to Ripper mode even though she is not a ripper and has no experience at that. Either this is an epic logic fail or Elena was just fishing for an excuse to take Damon on the trip. Just like her reason for going to Colorado with him seemed like a flimsy excuse for some alone time out from under Stefan’s watchful eye. I just can’t figure out if the writer’s know what they are doing and are deliberately trying to create sympathy for Damon by making some other characters so damn hateable. Or is this how they really see the world. For all that they try to act holier than thou, there are many character’s on the show that are just lousy, judgmental, untrustworthy human beings.

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Ashley

Posted at 1:40 AM on November 3, 2012  

Elena, in my opinion cries too much and can’t have any fun withoutfeeling quilt afterward, she’s turning into Stefan, and that’s not what we need, if she does things the Stefan way she’ll be like him, a ripper, she needs Damon to teach her, she just can’t accept that she needs him, he’s dangerous, and new to her in this new way of life, and she’s clinging to Stefan, she needs to accept that she’s changed and accept Damon to help her, he was teaching her to hunt without killing or hurting, and she was having fun, something she hadn’t had in long time,
and she needs to stop stringing the two of them along, she needs to choose one or the other to be with. She’s a big girl now with big girl fangs, she needs to choose and stop being such a cry baby when it comes to hard decisions.

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C

Posted at 12:56 AM on November 3, 2012  

Elena is behaving like a “dick”. She needs to wake up and see that what she is doing to both brothers is very selfish.

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Lacy (@lace0586)

Posted at 12:38 AM on November 3, 2012  

There was a little confusion for me in this episode. 1ST-Elena knows Damon is trying to help her. So when Bonnie was all “buzzkill” Bonnie and got all up in his face Elena needed to stick up for him. 2nd-Just because she was having fun with Damon and not Stefan doesnt mean she was loosing control…she was actually being who she has wanted to be for a long time..she just got caught up in it and didn’t tell herself “No…I love Stefan so I can’t do this” until Bonnie looked at her. It wasnt the blood ELENA it was just you. 3RD- I feel like Damon is always being miss treated. At this moment and moments in the past he has been the smart one-the one who knows whats going on and how to handle it. Why can’t someone recognize that already and give him some credit PLEASE? And 4TH- Elena should NEVER call Damon just “him”. He is Damon the one who has been there for you the most out of everyone on the show. He deserves more than a “him” when your describing who you should not be going through the transition phase with. Damon is worth more to you than that. STOP being mean to him.

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Karen

Posted at 12:07 PM on November 4, 2012  

well said, I couldn’t agree with you more. I am beginning to dislike Elena. I’ve always wanted her and Damon together but now I almost feel like he should tell her to go to hell. Damon is the only reason I watch this show. I want Elena to just appreciate everything he has done for her and for once to defend him.

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Jessi

Posted at 11:52 PM on November 2, 2012  

Damons an ass. Point blank ever read the books he’s worse?!!?!!

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Chree

Posted at 10:02 PM on November 2, 2012  

I completely agree and this has been going on since season 2, but because she chose Stephan over Damon it looks like he is pursuing her even harder, but really he’s not. Damon has always laid his cards on the table, even jeopardizing his relationship with his brother. Elana is not a fragile little girl anymore and she needs to step up before their is no cake to eat. their are other ships after all. Caroline could be a good match for Stefan and Damon might stop chasing. if it wasn’t clear I’m team delana.
 

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Chree

Posted at 9:37 PM on November 2, 2012  

I completely agree and this has been going on since season 2, but because she chose Stephan over Damon it looks like he is pursuing her even harder, but really he’s not. Damon has always laid his cards on the table, even jeopardizing his relationship with his brother. Elana is not a fragile little girl anymore and she needs to step up before their is no cake to eat. their are other ships after all. Caroline could be a good match for Stefan and Damon might stop chasing. if it wasn’t clear I’m team delana.

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Tracey Lowin

Posted at 8:57 PM on November 2, 2012  

Damon deserves better than Elena. I can tell you, most fans hate Stefan now more than ever, and not just because he is an obstacle to DE. Go back to season one again and watch him lie through his teeth about his past, and always speak evil about his brother. Remember, Stefan said, “I didn’t care that I got what he wanted, I just wanted her.” (katherine)

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Sana

Posted at 8:16 PM on November 2, 2012  

You are always right. I hope they are not justplaying al of , and I hope they give Delena an actual chance

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Dana

Posted at 8:05 PM on November 2, 2012  

Well, the side that is NOT Stelena (team damon, delena, and others) believe that Damon has been treated very unfairly , always branded as the bad and evil brother while his seemingly saintly little brother Stefan runs around ripping people’s heads off, trying to kill his girlfriend and killing her once for real — but it’s all good, it is St Stefan. After 3 years of that c..p, we are getting tired of this. Damon always gets everyone out of trouble, they never say thank you, they turn away from him. He never boats what good he did, while St Stefan loves to brag. Eh, whatever, Stelenas 11 year old fans love to scream even though they still don’t know much grammar (see comments here.

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Tracey Lowin

Posted at 9:03 PM on November 2, 2012  

Very true. As a 31 year old woman, I view SE’s love as impractical and useless. Love is proven by deeds, not by words, kisses and hugs. SE is a high school romance, and as long as Elena stays stuck with Stefan, she is stuck in her teenage view of the world.

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Cam

Posted at 7:22 PM on November 3, 2012  

I agree with you. I am 31 as well and I feel the same way. Life changes SO much after high school. Your “first love” isn’t your “true love”.

 
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Maria

Posted at 9:38 PM on November 5, 2012  

Stefan didn’t kill her (stupid) he didn’t know she had vampire blood in her system (and he saved Matt first because he did what she wanted). Damon would have been okay with her feeling guilty and terrible with Matth’s death. And Stefan didn’t try to kill her, he wanted Klaus to think he was going to kill her. And in Season 1 Damon went after Elena (to kill her) and Stefan saved her. Season 2 Damon made Elena drink his blood so that she would turn. And I recall Stefan stepping in to save his brother countless times. In fact he became the Ripper in Season 3 because he was saving his brother’s life who was dying of werewolf venom. And I’m sorry, how many people did Damon kill in season 1?? Like I said earlier, Delena is so polarized they can’t even see the truth and conveniently forget all the good Stefan has done and all the bad Damon has done. News flash both brothers aren’t perfect. When did Stefan brag, ever?? Damon is the one who is constantly bragging about how much fun he has as a vampire and he doesn’t lose control. And maybe do a reply check before you make fun of grammatical errors. I’ve seen lots of Delena fans post things that sound like a sentence a toddler would say.

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Shaun

Posted at 3:34 AM on November 6, 2012  

You do remember that Stefan said he would regret the decision not to save Elena first for the rest of his life. If he got the chance to do it over he would of done exactly what Damon would have. You are right that both brothers have saved each other countless times as well as both brothers having there ups and downs. The difference between Stefan’s and Damon’s ups and downs however is Damon gets a much harder time for his indescretions on the show than Stefan does for his. Take Vicki for example, all the characters give Damon a real hard time for turning Vicki, Matt and Jeremy each wanted to kill him for it. Stefan killed Vicki and noone bats an eye. Stefan pulled Caroline off Matt when she lost control but he went right to staking Vicki. And I know you might say well it was the only way despite that fact. Yet when Damon and Stefan had to stop Bonnie and her mom a move both Stefan and Damon agreed had to be done. Damon repeatedly gets crap for turning Bonnies mom when it was the only other option. Yet still no one says a thing to Stefan. Damon got tons of crap for killing Alaric while he knew he was wearing his ring. Then Stefan got off scott free for compelling Andy to commit suicide. When Damon told Elena Stefan killed Andy all she cared about was that he called her the night before not even giving it a second thought. Everybody makes Damon out to be this monster yet Stefan gets no crap from anyone despite he having a list a mile long of victoms on his wall so he could relive the kills.

Just doesn’t seem fair that at there darkest points they are pretty close to as evil as the other, and at there best the same rule applies yet one gets treated like he is so much worse than the other.

 
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