Rihanna speaks out in the new Nov. issue of Vogue magazine about the man she loves – Chris Brown. Her new album, Unapologetic, is a major statement about their relationship. SHE has made her decision about Chris. Now, shouldn’t we just respect the decision she’s entitled to make?
No one, least of all me, wants to ever see Chris Brown assault Rihanna again. But can we just give some credit to Rihanna for a minute — and to Chris too?
Do we really think Rihanna would go back to Chris and renew their romance if she didn’t think he was a “changed” man?
Can’t we assume that Rihanna doesn’t want to have a violent, dysfunctional relationship with Chris or anyone else EVER again? Come on, she’s a sophisticated, 24-year-old woman of the world. And she’s not just a talented singer and performer — she’s also a business woman who works incredibly hard all the time to grow her brand. Hey, the woman never stops working — she’s produced six albums in seven years and is about to finish another.
Rihanna is an informed person. She’s also been seeing a therapist for years since the assault. We know that at HollywoodLife.com. Multiple sources have told us that.
She has clearly given a great deal of thought to her relationship with Chris Brown, which she has said, has evolved tremendously, since he assaulted her.
She discovered through therapy that she had to make peace with her estranged father, Ronald Fenty, who had assaulted her mother when she was growing up. She told Oprah that she couldn’t get close to men romantically until she resolved her relationship with her dad.
As part of that therapy, can we safely assume that she has become determined NOT to repeat her mother and father’s terrible relationship.
Why EVER she ever would she want to replicate that?
Likewise, Chris Brown, 23, grew up with a stepfather who abused his mother. He has spoken out about how terrified he was by his violent stepfather.
Don’t you think he was horrified by his own behavior? Don’t you think he hated himself for hitting the woman he loved and cherished? I can guarantee you, that he last thing he wanted to do was to copy the behavior of the man he hated.
Even if he hadn’t been sentenced to anger management classes by the courts, don’t you think he would have sought help?
Chris has had to have done an enormous amount of soul searching since his assault. He hurt Rihanna, he hurt his career, he hurt his reputation and he hurt his own self-esteem.
He’s done everything he can to become a better man. He’s fulfilled his obligations to the law, he’s volunteered at Tappahannock Children’s Center and Los Angeles’ Jenesse Center, both organizations which help victims of domestic violence, and he continues to do so. He’s worked hard to rebuild his career, and he’s also worked at rebuilding his relationship with Rihanna. He’s also launched an impressive career as an artist, and it certainly appears that his art is a form of therapy for him.
So, who is it for us — i.e. the rest of the outside world — to say that this pair should never ever give their relationship another chance, if they both still love each other?
Do people never deserve a second chance in life and love, especially when they are young? Do they not deserve a chance at redemption?
Rihanna says in her new Vogue interview that she doesn’t expect to win everyone’s understanding when it comes to her renewed romance with Chris. “But they’re not on the inside. They can’t see what I see, unless they’re sitting in my point of view.”
She also says, “The world hasn’t let go. They haven’t seen any progress in our friendship.”
And you know what world — she’s right! We aren’t on the inside of their relationship. We aren’t talking and texting and spending time with Chris, like Rihanna is.
Chris — our sources tell us — loves Rihanna. She’s his #1 love, and he broke up with his girlfriend, Karrueche Tran, to be with her. I don’t think Rihanna was ready herself for his commitment until recently. She had to weigh what if meant to her and to her career.
They’re getting back together has gone in steps over the past months as they began to see each other more frequently, sang together on each other’s songs, ‘Birthday Cake’ and ‘Turn Up The Music’. Then Rihanna gave her heartfelt interview to Oprah confessing her love for Chris and finally, the couple went public in NYC a couple of weeks ago.
Now, Rihanna’s album Unapologetic, is the final step in their getting back together process. Her final clear declaration that she was not going to apologize for taking Chris back!
Rihanna has decided she wants to be with her “true love” and Chris wants to be with her. That’s THEIR decision.
Now, let’s let them be. They have every incentive to make it work. Chris has EVERY incentive to resolve disagreements with words, not fists.
So, why doesn’t everyone just step back, stop criticizing or making dire predictions for the renewed couple. They’re adults. It’s their decision. Rihanna has no need to apologize!
Let’s wish them luck. What do you think HollywoodLifers? Tell me now!
— Bonnie Fuller
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