Taylor Swift — young women everywhere will thank you for speaking out with your new single, ‘Begin Again’, about a guy who’s put you down. We’ve ALL been there!
Taylor Swift — thank you for NOT being quiet in your newly-released single, “Begin Again,” about an ex-love who made you feel so badly about being yourself that you were actually afraid to date again!
Haven’t we all been there, HollywoodLifers? Haven’t we all dated at least one lousy guy too, Taylor (who seems to have experienced several jerks in her romantic life)?
A Bad Romance
Now it appears, Taylor, that you are venting about your romance with Jake Gyllenhaal, both in your huge hit, “We are Never Ever Getting Back Together”, and in your newly released single, “Begin Again”. I think it’s empowering for other young women to listen to you do it.
In “Begin Again”, you let us know that your ex-love didn’t like a lot about you. He didn’t like you wearing high heels, presumably because at 5′ 11″, you may have been looking down on him and his ego couldn’t handle that. You share that your ex didn’t like the music you listened to, kept you waiting at cafes, wasn’t a gentlemen (he didn’t pull your chair out), didn’t think you were funny and looked down his nose at your James Taylor record collection.
The whole experience of being belittled by your ex made you think that “all love ever does is break, and burn, and end.” And it made you afraid to try dating again.
That’s so poignant. Here you are, an absolute superstar — a talented musician, songwriter and performer, an actress and a devoted humanitarian who has raised and donated millions of dollars for victims of natural disasters and for children’s cancer, and some celebrity jerk tries to tell you that you’re not good enough for him.
Why You’re Too Good For Them
That is so outrageous. But it is so typical. Just because a guy is a celebrity, whether he’s Jake Gyllenhaal, John Mayer or Joe Jonas (all guys you’ve dated Taylor, and apparently dissed in song) doesn’t mean they can’t be the same as the every day jerks that so many of us have gotten involved with.
Why is it that when a guy, clearly feels like he might be out of his league, he does his best to make you feel uncool, unimportant and unworthy.
In your case Taylor, it must have been so hurtful to have your boyfriend not like your own music — “You would hide away and find your peace of mind, With some indie record that’s much cooler than mine,” you sang on “We are Never Ever Getting Back Together.”
You Don’t Have To Put Up With Players
And thank you for singing out against the men who get off on playing games with the women they woo, when you sounded off in “Dear John”, presumably about John Mayer.
We all know and have experienced that guy type, too. The ones that work hard to make you fall for them and then when you’re roped in, start making weird relationship rules. They get turned on by playing mind games.
“And I lived in your chess game, But you changed the rules everyday, Wonderin’ which version of you I might get on the phone, tonight,” you sang in “Dear John.”
Yes, we’ve all been there, too. And it’s confusing and heartbreaking.
So Taylor, thanks so much for putting your foot down, taking out your guitar and taking on these toxic relationship jerks for all of us.
— Bonnie Fuller
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