If Robert Pattinson is willing to give his relationship with Kristen Stewart a second chance as a new report suggests, he and she must follow 6 key ground rules or else!
The only two people who should be making a get-back-together decision are you — not your friends, families or fans.
But Rob you’re on the right path if you want to set ground rules for a reconciliation, except that you need to follow ground rules too. There’s no way that a relationship round two is going to work if Kristen feels like she’s being punished or she’s been put into cheating jail.
Yes, she’s groveling at the moment and begging you to take her back, but begging and groveling aren’t a strong basis for rebuilding love and trust.
So Rob, you and Kristen need to sit down for a whole bunch of very long talks, and follow these 6 key ground rules if you hope to work your way back into the loving relationship you once had. Now here goes:
#1) You Must Both Commit To Honesty
Kristen, that means that you must give full disclosure to Rob on what happened with Rupert Sanders. How long your affair lasted? What set it off and why you got involved with him? Why did you cheat? Rob needs to know, but so do you.
You need to understand why you cheated on the man that you loved and respected . You need to be honest with both Rob and yourself.
Rob’s been tortured by a million questions about your affair, so it’s best if he gets his answers and hopefully that will help you both your infidelity behind you.
Then, the two of you must embrace honesty and that goes for honesty about everything from what each of you is planning for the day, to your feelings about each other.
You need to be honest in order to rebuild trust — which is critical – if your relationship is ever to succeed again.
#2) Rob – You Can’t Throw Kristen’s Cheating in Her Face Constantly
Yes, you’re angry Rob. You have every reason to be — you’ve been totally betrayed and humiliated by Kristen’s cheating. BUT if you truly do still love her and want to give your relationship a second chance, there’s no point in being vindictive. If you are, you might as well just kiss Kristen good-bye forever.
The blame game may work in politics but it doesn’t in relationships. So Rob, after Kristen honestly spills the beans about her cheating and you talk, talk, talk about what happened and why, move on. Many relationships survive cheating but only if forgiveness if involved — you must forgive her.
“Rob has to be careful not to be overcome by the urge to be resentful or revengeful,” stresses Hollywoodlife.com relationship expert Diana Falzone.
Rob — if you throw Kristen’s cheating in her face constantly, she’ll only end up getting resentful and eventually giving up in her attempt to win you back.
#3) Get Professional Counseling
It’s going to be tough to go it alone on repairing and rebuilding. Plus, you’re both so young. An experienced third-party shrink of some kind can really help you two work through all your issues.
#4) Spend Time Together & Cut Down On Separations
Rob, you’re right to want to have fewer long separations while you’re both filming in all different parts of the globe . No doubt, long distance is what helped set off Kristen’s cheating in the first place. Temptation is a lot easier to give into, when you’re away from the person you love.
So while neither of you wants to hold back your professional careers for love, you can plan to visit each other more on set, talk and Skype daily and make fitting in relationship time between projects, a key relationship goal.
#5) No More Games Playing
Kristen, I have a feeling that you liked to keep Rob on his toes by never being too committed about anything. Yes, the guy is a gorgeous, successful hunk and you’ve been the envy of millions of women BUT, now is not the time for playing hard to get. We know how that story ended.
Kristen, it’s time to give Rob a break and pour on the love and affection, even if it’s in public — who cares about the paparazzi!
You’ve said you love him publicly, so don’t worry about hiding it now. On the other hand, don’t become a cling-on either — but we doubt that would ever be your style.
“Kristen should show that she is more emotionally committed now and be willing to let Rob know that he’s the one for her,” advises relationship expert Cooper Lawrence, co-host of PLJ’s morning show. “She should be ok about making plans for the future with Rob — but that doesn’t have to include marriage.”
#6) Don’t Rush Into Too Much Commitment
Take it slow guys. Don’t live together again yet, instructs Diana Falzone. “You need to rebuild your dynamic and trust. Unresolved issues will pop up again if you rush into things.”
And Rob, don’t pressure Kristen about marriage or give her any ultimatums. Just enjoy being together again. Have fun again doing all the things you’ve always loved doing together.
Rob — the key reason Kristen cheated may have been because she was subconsciously afraid of too much commitment — even marriage — so the two of you should just relax and enjoy your time together now.
Time does have a way of healing. If you two do get counseling and commit to honesty, and spending time together AND no future cheating by either of you, your love can definitely blossom again.
Rob — giving Kristen a second chance, just proves again, what a great guy you really are!
– Bonnie Fuller
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