Rihanna left the door wide open to a renewed Chris Brown romance during her Oprah interview on Aug. 19. But a new love affair can only work if the pair takes a critical step, a top psychologist tells HollywoodLife.com exclusively.
So the question is — can the pair ever safely get back together romantically and avoid falling into another episode or pattern of domestic abuse?
Yes, they can, says family psychologist Jeff Gardere, the chief contributor to Healthguru.com. But the duo have to understand that they will both have to do a lot of work individually and together with therapists, in order to have a healthy relationship.
“Rihanna is still a victim. She will carry her emotional scars around for years,” he explains. “Plus, they both come from backgrounds of domestic violence. Chris’ stepfather beat his mother and Rihanna’s father beat her mother.”
“They both need to be in therapy or counseling,” he advises. “They both have to understand how their upbringing led Chris to have anger issues and for Rihanna to feel guilty about possibly setting off his behavior.”
Gardere agrees that while many people may see Brown as a “monster,” as Rihanna pointed out in her interview, he disagrees with that characterization.
He believes that Chris has definitely made progress on his issues because he did not fight back when he was attacked by Drake‘s entourage at the W.i.P. club in NYC.
“Walking away was the bravest thing he could ever do, and he did that,” says Gardere.
In the meantime, he says that in his experience, domestic violence is not always a death sentence for a relationship. “It is a major, major occurrence but there are partners who save their relationship if they both get help individually and together,” he advises.
So that’s the bottom line for Chris and Rihanna. If they still love each other and want to be together again, each needs to have to have counseling alone and they must have continued counseling together, in order to ensure that they have a loving and violence-free relationship for good!
Good luck Chris and Rihanna!
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