Robert Pattinson: Here’s Why You Should Give Kristen Stewart A Second Chance

Wed, August 1, 2012 9:20pm EDT by 151 Comments

Rob – we know that you are suffering right now. Your heart is broken and you don’t know what to do. Here’s why you should talk to Kristen,forget what other people say and consider giving your love another try.

Robert Pattinson – we know you’re going through hell now, trying to understand why Kristen Stewart would cheat on you, but isn’t part of the reason you’re tortured because you miss her – A LOT?

There’s no way that you’re not still in love with her, just a little over a week after you found out that Kristen had betrayed you. How could you not be? You’ve loved her and been committed to her for over three years. You can’t lose or change your feelings that quickly.

That’s what is so incredibly awful about this situation; you’re furious, and even though you’re saying you don’t want to see her and talk to her, you REALLY DO!

She’s been a huge part of your life for many years. I bet you feel like she’s your best friend as well as your girlfriend. You had a life together, fun together, shared interests, passions and jokes together; and a dog together.

Three years, especially when you’re in your early twenties, is a big deal! It’s not nothing. Kristen started falling for you, Rob, when she was only 18 — you guys grew up together. Plus, you balanced each other’s superstar statuses with your laid-back attitudes.You have a shared history of experiences.

You really have to consider whether you want to walk away from all that, because Kristen apparently doesn’t want to. She is reportedly depressed, inconsolable, guilt-ridden and desperate to get through this awful crisis and be together.

Despite her infidelity, she has publicly declared that she loves you. She called you “the person I love and respect the most.” And I don’t think she’s faking that. I’m sure she means it.

The bottom line is, Rob, Kristen is very young and she made a mistake. Maybe she was flattered by the attention of an older man she respected and she got carried away.

What she did was wrong, but she didn’t mean to hurt you. She didn’t want you to know about her mistake. She never planned to end her relationship with you. She wants to be with you.

If you talk to relationship counselors they will tell you that many relationships DO survive a cheating episode and yours can too if Kristen is sincere about her re-commitment to you and your love together.

“I believe that everyone deserves a second chance and I would hate to see this young couple throw away true love,” Dr. Ava Cadell, founder of Loveology University told HollywoodLife.com exclusively. “Communicating openly and honestly is the key to saving this relationship.”

Dr. Cadell, who has a doctorate in human behavior, believes that as heartbreaking as your wound is, it can be healed through trust.

The thing is, you have to talk to Kristen. Stop blocking her out and instead and start asking her all the questions that you want to have answered. As hard as it is for you to ask and her to answer, you have to do it. You do need to know what exactly happened between her and Rupert Sanders, and why she allowed it to happen. You need to ask her if she was unhappy in your relationship. You need to get these answers. Only then can you and she really decide if the two of you have a chance. She also HAS to sincerely want to be with you and to make it work.

” Rob will need to see Kristen show remorse and take responsibility for her actions. He’ll need to see her working to repair the relationship,” agrees Dr. Jenn Berman, host of Vh1’s Couple Therapy show.

Now, if she does that — then Rob, you need to get past the public humiliation aspect of all this.

Who cares what your friends or fans think? Who cares what your family thinks? This is YOUR life.

Rob, you can’t listen to the negative comments around you — you have to listen to your heart and think about what you really want.

If Kristen is your soulmate and you love the life you have together; if she makes you happy and supports you, then you can have that back.

I really bet that a huge part of your pain is that you can’t imagine life without Kristen. So reconsider — you don’t have to have a life without her, that is, if she confesses all to you and then you both agree to the terms of your relationship going forward. Yes, she knew you didn’t believe in cheating, but now she has learned her lesson, and the two of you can promise each other that neither of you will do it again.

Dr. Cadell actually suggests that you write a mutual love agreement together. “Both parties can express and negotiate their personal needs in a written format and hold each other accountable,” she advises.

However, if you two are to be happy together again you cannot throw her cheating in her face all the time. You can do it once or twice, in your free-for-all discussions, but then you have to put it behind you. If you bring it up all the time, you two will never be able to enjoy your renewed relationship.

Again, I know this is hard, but you are going to have to trust her again. That’s why you can only get back together if she is absolutely sure that she can commit.

If she swears she can and that she has learned from her awful mistake, you have to take her at her word.

Rob — do what is truly right for you, and if deep down, being with Kristen and rebuilding your relationship is what you want (forget everybody else’s opinion), and do it.

You don’t have to walk away from the woman you love.

Bonnie Fuller


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Catherine Dove (@notthistwilight)

Posted at 11:23 AM on December 1, 2012  

Coming out as a BOOK next year!! Stephenie Meyer and her Army of Desperate Housewives: The Twilight Saga Exposed – ALL about how many OLDER Twihards became MORE obsessed than YOUNGER ones and RUINED this pretty fairytale for the girls it was supposedly written FOR! Blame Stephenie Meyer’s publisher and production company for their professional negligence in accepting and presenting Twilight SO IRRESPONSIBLY with SUCH an addictive, amateur “writing style” AND storyline. PETITION!! Easy to find – Search “research twilight breaking dawn” for blogspot called: explaintwilightbreakingdawnending.

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Melissa

Posted at 9:00 PM on October 7, 2012  

What ever

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Melissa

Posted at 9:01 PM on October 7, 2012  

that true

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Sarah

Posted at 8:38 PM on August 6, 2012  

we can sit here and second guess all we want but the truth is we dont know her, we dont know him, and we dont know if they were in love- i dont even think kristen knows if she was really in love with rob. i dont hate kristen- i dont even know her- but as far as first impression goes- lets just say im never going to stand for a woman who cheats. period.

when your in the limelight like that you have to understand that people look up to you, your a role model to young girls. i used to look up to her because i admired how she kept her private live private and was very loyal and committed to rob, ironically the one thing she was supposed to keep private (her affair) she couldnt do. your supposed to tell the world your in love, not that you cheated.

finally its not all about the money. yes she has millions- but money is cold comfort if your friends and family dont respect you. just remember- YOU CANT BUY LOVE.

ps dont use the excuse she’s 22. I’m 21 and i can tell you that i would NEVER have an affair with a married man! EVER! wanna know why? because my dad did, and it hurt the family so bad that it SUCKED! and i would never be friends with anyone who would have an affair with a married man. just call her for what she is- immature. gullible. easily manipulated and not street smart AT ALL.

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Jeannette Serrano

Posted at 12:57 PM on August 6, 2012  

Considering the fact that she is young and in considering how hollywood lifestyles are those things happen on many occasions. But thankfully it did not get sexual, so I feel he should give her a second chance. But first talk out what is exactly wrong in the relationship so you can communicate better in the future and above all trust each other completely. Without any communication or trust there is no relationship.

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Sam

Posted at 7:49 PM on August 4, 2012  

Rob should not take her back under any circumstances or in any way feel he owes her in any way. She didn’t make a mistatke. She made a conscious, calculated decision and the excuse that she is Only 22 years old is just a cop out. I married at 20 finished college with my husband and we have been married for 40 years. Relationships are hard and there are always temptations but if you truly love someone you would rather suffer yourself than do something that would hurt the person you most love in the world. She obviously thinks she is above the morals of eveveryone else and will always be forgiven. She is a selfish self destructive messed up person and Rob deserves better.

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darl

Posted at 9:18 PM on August 4, 2012  

Wow! married at 20 in 1972, not a lot of choices at that time. The world was different then, so I guess you hated Elizabeth Taylor too. Maybe, if Kristen were married she wouldn’t have made out with the guy, but he was married. All that anger, are you sure your husband didn’t cheat.

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Mike

Posted at 11:00 PM on August 4, 2012  

right Sam..I have so many mixed emotions about this..she knew what she was doing and cheating is a sign of disrespect and lack of love …..she says she Loves and respects him ..but it’s not true. But to Kristen’s credit she stopped it before it got sexual. It’s obvious by the pics that she was confused….the question I would ask is did she have sex? and she said no…but what would have happened if there was no media pics?…It would have escalated and Kristen would be in a sexual affair. The fact she came back home after she fooled around was so bad….Morals are her problem..she has none….

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Kajči

Posted at 2:13 PM on August 4, 2012  

everybody sometimes needs second chance ;)

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chocolate

Posted at 3:32 AM on August 4, 2012  

She did alot for him remember the infamous “petition”. 75,000 names. Or tellling the director it had to be him. Without her you dont have him. She cheated, its over and done with, time to move on. But he owes her for alot BEFORE all this happened. And before you all start screaming, this was said in this own words many times over. Go look it up. And I believe she helped his friends too. I read she went to the director of OTR for Tom. Look it up. And what about the Marcus video? Who would have watched it if it wasnt for her? Oh and WFE, she had a shoot the next day, but she showed up FOR HIM and he told his fans that she would be there. And remember his comment about “all the nerds behind their computer screens”. He was talking about you. So please dont sit and say she has done nothing for him. I just cant understand how you can sit and watch someone who has supported you BEFORE with so much, be so vilified. Time to open your mouth and tell YOUR fans to BACK OFF. No one is saying date again just stop some of this pure hatred towards her.

Rob should really think about this!

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skinsavant

Posted at 4:46 AM on August 4, 2012  

:)

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Mike

Posted at 4:54 AM on August 4, 2012  

What in God’s name are you saying? Who are you talking to Choc?

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Mike

Posted at 2:24 PM on August 3, 2012  

Also Kristen bonds with men better than women…and during the tight group of “Snow White” she as usual was probably stand offish…so maybe Rupert was more of a sounding block to her which caused inappropriate actions.

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