Kristen Stewart — HollywoodLife.com has learned EXCLUSIVELY that Rob won’t talk to you and doesn’t want to see you now, so if you truly love him and want him, you have to back off.
Kristen Stewart — the first thing you have to ask yourself honestly is — “do you REALLY want Robert Pattinson back?” Are you sure?
There have to be reasons that you cheated on Rob with your SWATH director, Rupert Sanders, and if one of these reasons was that you weren’t ready to be in a serious committed relationship with Rob, then you have to let him go now.
Rob is feeling“hurt, frustrated and embarrassed” , HollywoodLife.com has learned exclusively. Not only has he moved out of the house you two shared , but a source close to Rob tells us exclusively that he is “leaving the situation all together to have time to himself to deal with the betrayal on his own terms.” “He currently wants to be as far away from [you] symbolically and physically right now while he deals with what has happened,” says the source.
So my point is that you mustn’t mount any campaign to get Rob back and to have him forgive you, unless you are totally prepared to fully commit to him. You CANNOT break his heart again!
He loved you wholeheartedly and has been blindsided and devastated by your betrayal.
His hurt feelings are not going to go away quickly, if ever. And how about the trust that he shared with you until he suddenly found out that you had cheated? It could take years of renewed commitment until that is rebuilt.
For all these reasons, you can’t take any urge you have to win him back, lightly.
Now, if you have decided after reflection and not just a reflex that you love Rob and that you must win his heart again, then you need to take it slowly, according to experts I’ve spoken with, and I agree with their advice
“Kristen may be able to get Robert back, however, it will take a significant amount of cooling down time,” believes relationship expert Diana Falzone. “If Kristen pesters Rob with calls or texts, he will just grow more aggravated with her .”
Relationship expert Falzone advises Kristen to email Rob and say, “I’m genuinely ashamed of my actions. I don’t understand why I sabotaged our relationship. I will understand if you never want to speak with me again however I’ve learned from my mistakes. I will never repeat them. Please let me know if you want to meet and I’ll await your next move.”
The reason this could work is that you’ll be giving Rob the power to make the first move — it gives him time to process his feelings and decide what he really wants.
Kristen – you have to understand that not only has Rob’s heart been broken but his pride is wounded, AND the entire world knows he’s been romantically rejected by you. It’s an awful lot for a guy to take.
Your hope is that Rob absolutely still loves you deeply. He’s loved you for three years and those feelings haven’t disappeared in three days.
The longer you’re apart – he’ll also remember all the great, fun and romantic times you had and the tremendous number of interests you shared. Bottom line – he’ll miss you like crazy.
He’ll also be wracked with the question – why did you do it? He’ll want that answer, and it will drive him to break his silence and talk to you. Then once you’re talking, you have the possibility of beginning to repair your relationship.
Another relationship expert, celebrity psychiatrist Dr. Carole Lieberman, agrees that you have to give the situation time, Kristen.
“Rob is too hurt and humiliated now. He’s Hollywood’s biggest heartthrob and this is the biggest slap in the face,” she explains.
She believes that your public apology to Rob was a good start to opening Rob’s closed off feelings, but you can’t grovel — it will only make him despise you more.
“Kristen needs to let him know that her door is open and then she has to not go out with anyone else in a while,” Dr. Lieberman, the author of Bad Girls: Why Men Love Them & How Good Girls Can Learn Their Secrets, says.
Maybe when Rob sees how destroyed you genuinely are and how much you miss him and want to make things right, his heart will begin to thaw.
Kristen — make sure he knows in your email that you too, are trying to understand why you made such a terrible mistake, but that Rupert Sanders meant nothing to you. You didn’t love him. You’ve only ever loved one man — Rob — and he’s the only one you want to spend your life with.
Tell him that you’ll wait until he’s ready to talk or reconsider. And tell him you’re prepared to wait a long time. You will not move on. You will be there when he’s ready to discuss anything.
That’s all you can do. And then follow through on your actions. Do not start going out partying and clubbing. Do not be seen with other guys.
Let your actions also show how serious you are about still loving him and only him.
He will hear through the grapevine that you are sincere about your total failure and that your yearning to be forgiven is all-important to you.
Since he almost certainly will still have feelings for you, he may come around to the idea that you two can repair your romance.
Good luck Kristen, but you need to prepare yourself – any reconciliation could take time – loads of time.
Do not be impatient. If your lives are meant to be together, then it’s worth the wait.
What do you think Hollywoodlifers? Is there anything Kristen can do to win Rob back?
Bonnie Fuller
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Russell Dee
Posted at 11:41 PM on July 29, 2012
If he takes her back it could ruin his career because they won’t be able to cast him as the romantic lead, strong man type anymore since taking her back will make him look like a weak patsy. Right now he looks kind of foolish but if he takes her back he will look all the way weak and foolish. His career will be finito.