Kris Jenner, you may, with VERY good reason, be ‘over’ your daughter Kourtney’s severely unhealthy relationship with baby daddy Scott Disick, documented on KUWTK’s last night episode, July 9th, but you have to keep your lips zipped.
Kris Jenner – use Katie Holmes’ parents, Martin and Kathleen Holmes as your parental role models. No matter how frustrated you may be watching your daughter Kourtney Kardashian, 33, living in a miserable relationship with Scott Disick, 29, you need to butt out and just be supportive. Criticizing Scott, and loudly disapproving of Kourtney’s love decision to her face, will only drive her away.
When you inserted yourself and your critical opinions into Kourtney’s relationship with Scott on last night’s special episode of KUWTK only made Kourtney feel worse about herself and her life – not something that stressed and pregnant Kourtney needed to hear.
“I want you to be happy,” you, Kris told Kourtney, while you all had lunch with her and Khloe. “I know that if I was pregnant and I was waiting for my boyfriend to come in and he was out to all hours of the night, I would tell him to hit the road Jack,” you added.
Then YOU started to cry and added: “You shouldn’t be treated like that!”
Kris, of course you were and are right. Your daughter – and any woman deserves better and way more respect from her man – BUT, by crying and criticizing Kourtney you made her feel even more depressed, AND you made the crisis about YOU, not her.
Instead of making Kourtney feel supported and loved, you put her on the defensive.
It was so sad to listen to her response: “Scott owes me an apology and an explanation (for staying out all night clubbing- which he did). It’s really frustrating.” Yes, we bet it really was for Kourtney. She had organized the entire Kardashian clan to come to NYC to support Scott for his first big business venture launch – the opening of his new restaurant, RYU. She does that and he thanks her by staying out all night and partying – nice.
No wonder, Kourtney confesses to you Kris and Khloe, that “I don’t know if I’m hormonal, but I just hate him (Scott).”
Kourtney sounds so tired when she admits: “I’m going to have two kids, I can’t have three.”
When she’s asked: “Do you want to break up with Scott?” she sadly replies, “I always want to.”
Listen, Kris, it’s enough to make a mother go ballistic and get super protective of her daughter. You can see how Kourtney is hurting.
BUT, and this is a big but, you can’t force an action or a decision on someone especially your daughter – when they aren’t ready for it themselves. Think about Katie Holmes’ patient parents. They bided their time for six years, they stayed friendly and supportive throughout Katie’s infatuation and marriage to Tom Cruise. They stayed friendly to Tom.
By letting Katie know that they loved her unconditionally, no matter what – even if they didn’t believe in Scientology themselves – Katie knew, that when she was ready, she could turn to them.
Kris – you have to do the same thing. Be QUIETLY supportive of Kourtney. I know it’s hard but you have to listen to your wiser daughter Khloe and bite your tongue.
Here’s how in contrast, Khloe is wisely handling the upsetting situation.
“I don’t want to say too much because I want Kourtney to come to me. I don’t want to be in the position where Kourtney’s NOT going to want to talk to me… mom!” she explained. So smart.
Kris – you only upset Kourtney, which will discourage her in the future from sharing her thoughts and feelings with you. Just listen to Kourtney: “I know he’s (Scott) an idiot. I’m obviously very aware of the situation that I’m in and there’s no point in getting upset but I don’t need my mom to make it worse.” Exactly.
Kris – I know how maddening it must be for you to watch your daughter be hurt repeatedly by the man who is supposed to love and cherish her, but you have to respect her feelings and she’s telling you to not interfere.
Quite frankly, you really have to accept that you probably have contributed a great deal to Kourtney’s lack of self-esteem and willingness to have two children with a man who constantly lets her down.
Maybe your affairs when you were younger and the divorce from Robert Kardashian made her so fearful of commitment that she has chosen to be in a relationship with a man who never is fully committed to her and their family together.
Yes, it’s galling to watch Kourtney present Scott with a “love ring,” after he’s let her down in New York.
“It’s the same old story over and over again,” you harrumphed. “He misbehaves, she ignores it and then she rewards him for his bad behavior – I’m over it,” you said at the end of the episode.
Yes, we agree with you and you’re right. But you have to let Kourtney come to the conclusion herself that SHE deserves much, much better. Then be there for her to help her make the next move to improve her life – just like Katie Holmes’ parents did when she was finally ready!
Can you do that Kris? For the sake of your mother/daughter relationship with Kourtney, and her children, Mason and Penelope – I hope so!
Bonnie Fuller
More Kourtney and Scott news
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- Kris Jenner: Shocking Reason She Doesn’t Want Scott Disick To Go To Rehab
- Scott Disick Threatening Health Of Kourtney Kardashian & Baby
mackynzie
Posted at 11:40 PM on September 12, 2012
Mom or not she needs to mind her business. Kourtney is in an adult relationship and capable of making her own decisions without Kris Meddling. That’s the problem nowadays, over bearing parents. Kris shouldn’t be talking about the state of Kourts and Scotts relationship especially behind his back, its disrespectful. Mom or not she needs to butt out and let Kourt handle it. Too much family involvement causes unnecessary drama and separation. How do you think Scott will feel going around Kris knowing she was commenting on his relationship and speaking negatively about him? I mean… I fully expect that Scott would hate Kris and make it akward for Kourtney, especially since she us not going to leave him. Too many ppl make excuses for Moms butting into relationships, butt out and focus on your own life and let Kourtney figure it out. If kourtney were underage i would have a different opinion, but once you move out and are an adult its unnecessary unless she’s being abused, which she is not. Wanting your kid to be happy and treated a certain way Is not an exception, if your ADULT child wants their relationship changed or happiness improved they should go to counseling.. Not to Mom.