Tom Gabel Of Against Me! Comes Out As A Transgender

Thu, May 10, 2012 10:01am EDT by 31 Comments
Tom Gabel Transgender

Tom Gabel speaks out for the first time about his plan to live as a woman! Read on for more details.

Tom Gabel has been fighting with gender dysphoria for years, but soon he will be taking hormones and undergoing electrolysis treatments to become a woman, according to Rolling Stone magazine which hits newsstands May 10.

Tom and and his wife Heather Gabel have a two-year-old daughter, Evelyn, together. Coming out to Heather, he says, has been the most difficult part of this journey yet.

“For me, the most terrifying thing about this was how she would accept the news,” Gabel says in Rolling Stone. “But she’s been super-amazing and understanding.”

Tom plans to change his name to Laura Jane Grace when the transition is complete.

“I’m going to have embarrassing moments, and that won’t be fun. But that’s part of what talking to you is about – is hoping people will understand, and hoping they’ll be fairly kind,” he tells the mag.

We’re so proud of Tom for having so much courage and following his heart!

What do you think, HollywoodLifers? Are you shocked about the news? Weigh in below.

[Rolling Stone]

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Victor

Posted at 2:59 AM on August 20, 2012  

He’s not sure of who he was? His brain/heart is telling him that he’s supposed to be a woman? What’s he thinking and wat are commenting on? Hw could a married man with a kid ever conceive such an evil. ThiS simply shows that he has no luv for the family.

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Janet Shingleton

Posted at 5:25 AM on July 7, 2012  

One click led to another, and I happened upon this article about Laura Jane Grace and read the comments with interest. My partner of 10yrs is a 67yr old M to F transgender woman who lived most of her life trying to hide who she knew she was from age 4. Her father would have killed her if he knew, she said, and the church leaders told her she was a “God’s mistake.” Thankfully she did not succumb to their beliefs and misunderstandings and is alive today because she chose to be true to her heart. It was that, or die.

The suicide percentage of TG’s is inordinately high. Rejection by family members is common. My older, conservative parents had a tough time with my coming out of a marriage as a lesbian –I too, had tried to live as others expected of me– but they have slowly come to embrace me and my now, my partner. I fell in love with a kind, loving, caring soul of a woman born in what she felt was the wrong body.

To be true to themselves, a transgender cannot hide so easily: it requires a change of outward appearance, not just an inward acceptance. It takes strength and courage to endure the criticisms and even life-threatening abuse of strangers. Becoming a parent myself has changed my perception of humanity. I see victims (of all crimes) as sons and daughters who were once children like mine. Time will change your point of view –many comments are born of youthful ignorance. You may never accept that TG’s are “real” or deserve the time of day, but you will know that life is short and there are better ways to expend your energy loving those you care about instead of bashing those you don’t know. Take time to get to know one another. Find common ground. It is there. We are all the same inside.

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Isaac

Posted at 12:12 AM on June 2, 2012  

wow, there is an incredible amount of ignorance in these comments.

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Debby

Posted at 2:07 PM on May 31, 2012  

I see, I Think I agree with kola, he must be a fool, to have decided such a stupid decision.

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John Habernathy

Posted at 3:13 PM on May 29, 2012  

Who is this person? I have never heard of him and I really do not care what his orientation is. If people would STOP making such a big deal about this stuff, it would not be such a big deal!

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Bird27

Posted at 9:25 AM on May 29, 2012  

What can anybody do about this?

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Dr. Dewey

Posted at 5:12 AM on May 29, 2012  

Would I be accepted if I believed I was really a rabbit on the inside? If I wanted to have my ears extended and my legs reduced in length? If I wanted to live in a burrow? If I wanted to be treated like rabbit?
No. I would be felt sorry for, because how I feel doesn’t define what I am, my DNA does.

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Betty Cordoza

Posted at 4:33 AM on May 29, 2012  

One of my best friends is transgender, and I can tell you, it’s about a whole lot more than “following your heart.” It’s about having the courage to become the person that you know in your sould you truly are.

It’s about making the choice to quit living, or to live as who you were truly meant to be.

By the way, my friend is an Ordained Deacon in the Episcopal Church.

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Kristina

Posted at 1:54 AM on May 29, 2012  

i can understand being gay or lesbian.. but this is just pushing it. be happy with who you are… i think celebrities have too much money and dont know what to do with it anymore. DONATE IT TO CHARITY WEIRDOSS!!

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Stephanie

Posted at 9:39 AM on May 29, 2012  

Quit with your ignorance in this world.I honestly think you should think before saying such ignorance. THEY ARE TRYING TO BE WHO THEY ARE, hence going through surgeries and transformation to be who they ALREADY are at heart, just is going to change the outside to match the inside. So all this talk about just having too much money. Get over yourself. Just because someone does something that you don’t understand, doesn’t mean someone is pushing the subject or subjects them to be weirdos. I consider you an ignorant biggot, but is that grammatically correct just because you are ignorant, and choose to post your ignorant opinion on here? No, everyone has an opinion, but seriously, have a heart, and don’t be so judgmental. There is enough of that out there!! :)

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andrew

Posted at 10:52 PM on May 28, 2012  

God made u a man why do u wanna change that. Why are you spitting in God’s face. You shoyld be ashamed of urself. You sick freak.

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sheryl

Posted at 9:43 PM on May 28, 2012  

Good for him, following his heart. congrats. The kid will be ok.

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Pat

Posted at 8:09 PM on May 28, 2012  

With all the problems in the world why do we have to be subjected to this crap they call news? I feel sorry for the child. The parents always think of themselve first instead of their children.

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Caroline

Posted at 8:49 PM on May 28, 2012  

talk about problems in the world… there are obviously far worse than a child having two parents who love them and love each other. and this “crap” could give many the courage to be themselves and live the life they dream of. you should try keeping your rude judgements to yourself.

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DIANNE

Posted at 8:03 PM on May 28, 2012  

Its his/her life and not ours, freedom of gender, are many transsexuals in tis world and many cannot even tell were born the opposite sex. All can do is wish them the best in their journey in life, we are not to judge as God is the only Judge. If he wants to live as a woman its his business. If his wife wants to stay with him/her thats between them

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The Vine

Posted at 10:30 PM on May 28, 2012  

That’s right, God is the Creator. AskTom if he asked God what He thinks.Guaranee that’s a “no!”

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clcoffey

Posted at 12:47 AM on May 29, 2012  

More power to them! It’s their business and has no bearing on your or my life.

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Nunya

Posted at 6:19 PM on May 28, 2012  

Sure, he can change the outside, but his chromosomes will always read XY. Know what that means? That means he’s male. So, in essence, he will be a male living under the female gender construct. His gender changes, yes; but his biological sex can never, and will never, be changed.

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The Vine

Posted at 10:44 PM on May 28, 2012  

Hear hear! Let “science” try to explain it. Not psychologists, now. Physical science only please!

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Betty Cordoza

Posted at 4:37 AM on May 29, 2012  

And when did Nunya become a medical expert on Gender Dysphoria?

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LA

Posted at 4:42 PM on May 28, 2012  

I’ve been following this story for a while– and when I first read the Rolling Stones article, it brought tears to my eyes. I hope people realize what Laura is doing can’t possibly be easy. This is a situation which will affect the entire dynamic of her relationships with everyone she knows. I believe she is really brave for being so open about everything and I only hope that she, and her family find happiness. Be who you are!

There are so many wonderful aspects to people, and often times people get so hung up on labels and categories and stereotypes…I just hope she realizes that there are people out there who are proud of her and respect her as a person.

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kola

Posted at 3:03 PM on May 28, 2012  

Well, Mr man you were born a man and you are going to change to a woman for the rest of your life. .Any way i am very sure you will spend the rest of your life in sadness no matter how much money you have. it will not guarantee you a peace at all .. And the most tragic of it is that you will have to stand before the judgment of God at the end of you journey here on earth. Whatever you are doing now, you may think that you are the owner of yourself. You have forgotten that God made you in the image that he want you to be, what you are telling God is that He had made mistake in making you a man in the first instance. At the end He will prove you wrong. But God is a God of mercy if you think backward, He will pardon you and forgive you

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me

Posted at 9:51 PM on May 28, 2012  

What a creep. I’m really sick of the self-righteous, faux religious, just plain bigots. And my ‘Goddess’ is not a he. How dare you speak as an authority for your personal cloud being.

You have no say in what is the best for this particular person and the changes ‘she’ will make that will make what externally what she is in her brain. Her brain is telling her she is female. It has to be one hell of struggle and just wish the person the best. You creeps need to go back and try to comprehend your religious documents since clearly the original intent is not to harm others – and you’re frankly to uneducated to get this.

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The Vine

Posted at 10:38 PM on May 28, 2012  

His brain is lying to him. It is a delusion to think that chopping it off completes any “transformation.” Pure fantasy.

 
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Betty Cordoza

Posted at 4:42 AM on May 29, 2012  

And when did Kola get the power to speak with the voice of God? I thought only Jesus the Christ had that power. At least that is what my religion teaches me.

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deb

Posted at 2:53 PM on May 28, 2012  

At first I thought good for you to recognize and come to terms with who you are but then after I considered it I had to accept that I have a problem with all of this…..starting to wonder about the numbers on this business, seems everyday another one. I beleive this situation exists but find it hard to beleive in the numbers I hear. I am starting to wonder if there are more people who just are not sure of who they are and what they are and become self indulgent. Just wondering…The bigger issue is the poor wife…it makes me angry…like so many homosexual mn who married for a front (hope we have gotton beyond that) and the poor daughter. It is easy for people to say she will be fine with love but life isn’t as simple as that, naiive to think she will be OK with this.I find this person selfish.

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TDC

Posted at 1:10 PM on May 28, 2012  

Good luck on your journey. The best to you and your family.

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macia

Posted at 11:54 AM on May 28, 2012  

how sad for little girl….

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scmaize

Posted at 1:05 PM on May 28, 2012  

Probably more sad for his wife. Hope it works out for all of them.

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Bob

Posted at 2:58 PM on May 28, 2012  

It’s not sad for anyone.

His(her? not sure about the proper term) will grow up seeing someone happy with their life.

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Lisa

Posted at 12:55 PM on May 29, 2012  

Isn’t it funny how if a celebrity gets lip injections or breast augmentation its practically a crime in society and they aren’t standing up for natural bodies and their are making everyone else feel bad. Also these celebrities are called fake, but when a transgendered person decides they want all these surgeries they are so real and its absolutely ok. I think people can do whatever they damned well please especially if they have the money for it, but I think that its ridiculous that if someone doesn’t agree with their decision they are all of the sudden ignorant. Pulling the ignorant card is just as annoying as pulling any other card. I have met a few trans people in my life, call me ignorant if you’d like.

 
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