How Long Should Women Wait Before Having Sex After Giving Birth?

Days, weeks, months — What is an ideal wait before jumping back into bed after welcoming your bundle of joy?

Don’t worry mothers and fathers. The recommended time to wait is a reasonable six weeks before having intercourse after the delivery, Dr. Patricia Allen, a gynecologist in NYC, tells HollywoodLife.com exclusively. But actress Tori Spelling, 38, wasted no time and became pregnant with her fourth child only one month after giving birth to 6-month-old Hattie!

Sometimes having sex too soon can have severe consequences. “Having intercourse too soon can impede the healing of either an episiotomy or the tears that often occur with vaginal birth,” Dr. Allen says. ”Intercourse too soon could cause an infection in the uterine cavity that must heal after the removal of the placenta.”

Tori didn’t experience any consequences other than being shocked by her unplanned fourth pregnancy with her husband, Dean McDermott, 45, the actress tells US Weekly. ”The doctor said, ‘Wait six weeks [to have sex],’ and Dean was like, ‘They tell everyone that.’ We didn’t wait that long with Stella, 3, or Liam, 5. I was like, ‘Well, I don’t want him to think that the sex is going downhill,’ so now we’re on baby No. 4.”

One woman in a recent Daily Mail article even waited an entire year before having sex! If you don’t think you’re ready, go by the advice of Dr. Allen. “However, I always told my patients that after six weeks, they should choose to resume intercourse based on the jewelry the partner had given them for suffering through pregnancy and labor!” Many women will appreciate this advice to pass on to their baby daddies!

Dr. Allen adds: “After all there are other ways to have intimate activity without intercourse…”

Just remember ladies, be careful and only do it only when you’re comfortable! No pressure gentlemen!

Written and Reported by Giovanna Pagliarulo

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i want to ask that my wife just given birth 6 weeks ago and i am feeling like sex and we dont need a child for now what can i do ?

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Thank you so much Dr Allen. Health first then our feelings next. I like your advice Dr Allen.

Thank you doctor for advice!to Dr.Allen.

Does the semen have any good effect in the woman’s breast milk?

i don’t think about having kids that bad someone like tori spelling easy prey for pregancy’s i watch i did’nt know i was preganant to watch for the systpoms and have a specialists not that i did’nt watch donna martin in 90210 the orginal my therapists watching my a1c ‘s and prolactin dr o i think she doing a good job
i think you should’nt give birth untill u can handle it and this song by r.kelly seems like you’re ready a bad example of encouraging people

I don’t get the jewelry comment at the end. Do most women get jewelry for giving birth? I didn’t get any but I’m not complaining since that’s not something I care about. I just don’t understand what that doctor means by her comment regarding having sex based on the type of jewelry they receive, seemed very shallow and not something a doctor should be saying.