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Why Ben Flajnik Is Under Courtney Robertson's Spell, Experts Weigh In

Tue, March 6, 2012 6:17pm EDT by Chloe Melas 8 Comments
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Courtney is SO mean to the other girls on ‘The Bachelor’ that many people are surprised that Ben has kept her around. But relationship experts tell they aren’t too shocked about their coupledom since ‘every guy likes a challenge’ — do you agree?

Courtney Robertson, 28, has put a spell on Ben Flajnik and has the full scoop. Multiple experts tell us that Courtney’s unapologetically aggressive behavior on the reality show was actually a turn on to Ben, and that’s why he’s keeping her around!

“When a man feels he can tame a shrew, he feels he will have control over her,” relationship expert to the stars and author of How To Win At Love, Dr. Gilda Carle says. “Every guy wants that challenge. And then she becomes his — or so he believes. Bottom line: He doesn’t know what he’s in for. Once a b*tch always a b*tch.”

Amy Levine, a sex and relationship expert in NYC, believes that although Courtney was nasty to the ladies, Ben totally believed in the softer side that she revealed to him.

“Ben knows how the game is played. He’s been on the other side,” says Amy. “While he may really want to meet his future bride, Courtney’s antics and attitude set her apart from the rest, captivating him even though most people think he’s making a huge mistake. It’s likely the show is edited to depict her “evil” side, which may only be a small part of who she really is (or at least one can hope).”

Christy Whitman, co-author of Taming Your Alpha Bitch, agrees with Amy and thinks Ben saw an authentic side to Courtney and was overwrought with their strong sexual connection.

“I think on the surface, he was really mesmerized by her beauty and sexuality,” Christy tells “There was clearly a connection between them. I think the Courtney we see with Ben is the authentic Courtney. I think she felt safe and secure with him. But with the other women, her claws came out. When a woman operates from lack and fear, she will act out Alpha Bitch tendencies, like being competitive.”

— Written By Chloe Melas with reporting by Sandra Clark & Eudie Pak

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