Kim Kardashian Fled Marriage Because Terrified Of Commitment, Say Shrinks

Tue, January 31, 2012 11:55am EDT by 36 Comments

Is Kim Kardashian a gigantic commitment-phobe who was ‘suffocated’ the moment she tied the knot? And if so, why didn’t her mother or sisters urge her to seek counseling? Experts weigh in.

Okay, let’s say we give to benefit of the doubt to Kim and buy into her “fairytale” explanation about her marriage i.e. she is a HUGELY unrealistic romantic and her marriage to Kris didn’t live up to her expectations.

Maybe, that’s true. But even so, if it is — then why didn’t Kris Jenner, Kourtney or Khloe EVER suggest to Kim that maybe, just maybe, she and Kris should get counseling or that maybe, even more important, that Kim is a commitment-phobe and needs counseling on her own.

Well, who knows what goes on in the savvy marketing minds of mama Kardashian and her daughters, but, MOST mothers and sisters would urge a newly married daughter or sister to get marriage counseling before throwing in the towel after 72 days.

And especially because Kim was exhibiting all the classic symptoms of a hardcore commitment-phobe on KKTNY.

Every time Kris Humphries attempts to talk to Kim about moving his belongings into her LA home which they’re supposed to share as newlyweds, Kim admits to having panic attacks.

“I just start to have these panic attacks inside.  I try to hold it in. I don’t want Kris to know how I’m feeling inside,” Kim reveals on camera.

“When I see all these boxes, I just start literally to have these panic attacks inside… I don’t think he should send all of these boxes to my house until we figure out what we’ll do,” she says later in the KKTNY finale episode.

“She definitely fears commitment,” believes psychologist, Dr. Jeff Gardere, of DrJeffGardere.com. “Kris is trying to establish a home base by moving his stuff to her home in LA and she is not letting that happen.”

Celebrity relationship expert  Dr. Gilda Carle believes that Kim doesn’t just have a fear of commitment, but also of intimacy. “She doesn’t know how to be intimate with a guy and it bothers her that things are no longer just hers,” says Dr. Carle of DrGilda.com.

In fact, Kris suspects that his wife Kim ISN’T ready for intimacy too when he confronts her on the KKTNY finale as he’s trying to pack the boxes she doesn’t want shipped to her house.

“It’s true Kim, you’re not ready for someone in your life,” Kris tells Kim. Even Kourtney calls Kim a b**ch for being so unwilling to have Kris move his clothes to her LA home.

“She is emotionally detached from Kris, so she doesn’t know how to express things to Kris, or to care about his emotions,” believes Dr. Carle.

So is Kim’s fear of commitment and intimacy a result of getting married to the wrong man or will it happen with every man she ends up considering marrying?

In any case — if Kim didn’t enter into a “fake” marriage with Kris, then she really did owe it to herself and Kris to be more self-reflective and try and find out why she was rejecting the man she thought she loved.

Her mother and sister should have supported her in getting counseling, not in just finding the right divorce lawyer.

What do you think, HollywoodLifers? Tell me now!

– Bonnie Fuller


More Kardashian News:

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  2. Kris Humphries Furious With Kim Kardashian For Turning So Many People Against Him
  3. Kris Humphries Won’t Date Again Until Officially Divorced, Says Close Source

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dot

Posted at 11:39 AM on March 6, 2012  

Why drag things through divorce and not just get an annullment…?

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Holli

Posted at 1:38 PM on February 21, 2012  

I don’t think she is a committment-phobe. I think her panic attacks were her subconscious telling her she made a huge mistake by marrying a man-child who is an emotional moron!

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el

Posted at 11:40 AM on February 6, 2012  

Bonnie you say how annoying the Kardashians are yet you keep talking about them….they annoy me too and every time i open up newday you have a cooment about them…stop giving them press…..they don’t give anything back for all they have gotten…..you never hear about them doing anything for any cause…….stop keeping them yn the limelight

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funmi cole

Posted at 9:51 AM on February 5, 2012  

First qusestion is; who goes into a marriage without discussing where their matrimonial home will be located, or how many kids they wish to have, or where they wish to raise their kids, or how their jobs will affect their marriage, etc. So its absurd that they are crying ‘wolf’ now.

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Morals

Posted at 6:44 PM on February 4, 2012  

Denise, please! Kris was just playing–he’s a guy! Guys do that!Whereas, Kim, is a spoiled, insensitive BRAT! I hope Kris all the best in the world. I hope he finds a wonderful WIFE! As for Kim, may GOD help her, she needs it!

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Denise

Posted at 10:43 PM on February 3, 2012  

Come on guys. How can you forget what a nut Kris was. I was so sick of his stupidity.
Quote “Lick my finger” duh

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Morals

Posted at 12:53 PM on February 1, 2012  

I truly feel so sorry for the Kardashian children. The mother, Kris Jenner, has ruined these children. I think each and every Kardashian child needs therapy! I don’t know how Kris Jenner can sleep at night! I will never forget how this women pimped these kids out! SHAME ON YOU!

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Miles Monroe

Posted at 12:33 PM on February 1, 2012  

BoycottKim (dot) com

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ChickieBoom

Posted at 11:28 AM on February 1, 2012  

Kim is just a very selfish person and she wants things that other people have without understanding the work that goes into it. Khloe has a big diamond ring and basketball player husband? Kim wants that too! Kourtney has a baby? Kim wants a baby. Khloe had a big celebrity wedding? Kim wants an even bigger celebrity wedding. She puts absolutely no thought into what comes next. She is a beautiful woman who is unbelievably selfish and very simple minded.

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ChickieBoom

Posted at 11:31 AM on February 1, 2012  

And if it wasn’t for Kris Jenner, she wouldn’t have any career either. That’s probably why she hangs on to it for dear life. The one thing in her life that gives her a sense of worth is even her own doing.

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Chris Nelson

Posted at 1:55 PM on February 1, 2012  

Nothing can be further than the truth. You have hit the nail on the head. I 100% agree with you, Kim only want to possess what others have without necessary being committed.

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princess nyc

Posted at 10:58 PM on January 31, 2012  

I have to agree with everyone.Bonnie you are right about kims marry.She is a fake women and live in a fairytale wedding.She and all kardashian show should be cancelld.there has to be conaques she should loss her empire and the shows.One other that kris jenner are pimping out Kendall and kylie 14 and 16 years old.kris jenner is working so she could live the luxery life.This not a close knit family kim is so messed up.I think khloe is not a kardashian.This fame is killing kim because of money.there are more important things in life then fame and money.kardashian is a fraud

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Jessica

Posted at 8:37 PM on January 31, 2012  

If she afraid of the commitment, then she doesn’t need to get married and blow out her money for nothing. Just stay single forever then…!!!!

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Natalie

Posted at 6:34 PM on January 31, 2012  

Honestly, she’s just plain selfish until she learns how to appreciate and enjoy life and the things she has, she will never be happy. She is looking for someone to make her happy and control them. She has a power struggle with people in general. She’s a lost soul and will never live happily ever after until she wakes up and quits living in a dreamland, and get back to reality

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Ashley

Posted at 6:19 PM on January 31, 2012  

She doesn’t know how to be intimate with a guy, but yet had a sex tape? Yeah, not buying it.

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mxh

Posted at 7:52 PM on January 31, 2012  

Sex and intimacy are not the same thing and they don’t always co-exist in a relationship. You can have sex with someone and not be intimate with them at all.

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Trell

Posted at 2:48 PM on February 2, 2012  

Intimacy is about much more than just sex. It is about a spiritual and emotional connection as well. People have sex with no intimacy everyday.

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Extra Extra

Posted at 6:07 PM on January 31, 2012  

The wedding was a sham!!! stop getting it twisted!!! The wedding was a sham!!! The wedding was a sham!!!! The wedding was a sham!!!!

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TRUTH

Posted at 10:57 PM on January 31, 2012  

People just don’t get it Extra2.

KH has asked for an annullment on the grounds of fraud because the WEDDING WAS A SHAM! What more do people need? This coming from the guy that was there!

I don’t get it, people just don’t want to believe it.

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Danielle

Posted at 10:38 AM on February 1, 2012  

Why is Kim getting slammed and Kris isn’t, if it was a sham and was fraud why the hell did he go along with it. She already had fame & fortune…..I think she got caught up with where she thought she would be at her age and was coming off a long term relationship with Reggie her mind set was marriage and she jumped into too quickly. I don’t think she’s great but I think less of him he’s pretty much saying he was a puppet and she was pulling the strings that’s not a man.

 
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ChickieBoom

Posted at 11:24 AM on February 1, 2012  

I honestly don’t think that Kris knew that Kim was only doing the wedding for publicity. I think he was genuinely in love and ready to commit to her but she wasn’t even trying to meet him a quarter of the way and he started to feel like he’d made a mistake.

 
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Katie

Posted at 6:04 PM on January 31, 2012  

Commitment phobia, AHHH, don’t think so. KK is 31-years-old, been married before, had many long term relationships, etc. Kim just has low self-esteem, and is in desperate need of some therapy. Despite having made loads of money she is very, very insecure and it shows. GET SOME THERAPY KIM KARDASHIAN AND STOP TAKING SO MANY PEOPLE ON YOUR INSECURE RIDE.

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ccs

Posted at 2:44 PM on January 31, 2012  

I disagree with the author. What we see with Kim kardashian’s marriage frequently happens when the physical attraction in the initial stages of a relationship is overwhelming and leads two people to believe that they are in love. What it actually is, is ‘lust’ at first sight. And when these two people decide to commit to marriage with no basis to the relationship other than a physical attraction, the marriage is doomed to fail. Because when the lust is gone you are left with the reality of the situation which is what i believe happened in this case.
Unless a relationship is based on genuine friendship and mutual respect it will crumble. Love is truly blind… it makes an ordinary man seem like a prince and a less that ordinary woman as a princess.

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ChickieBoom

Posted at 11:25 AM on February 1, 2012  

She’s been married before and is too old to still be making these kind of mistakes.

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Brooklyn

Posted at 2:12 PM on January 31, 2012  

I’ve seen this show so sporadically, but read enough about what she “claimed” she wanted for this marriage, which is a true contradiction of her actions. She claims that she wanted to be married with children by the age of 30, but when Kris suggested she move to Minnesota to raise kids she truly panics (its so in her face). Her “so call” celebrity status is just to important to her. Even her family knows she’s not ready to have a baby when she suggested going off the pill. Her mother nearly has a panic attack! Maybe if she married another fame whore such as herself, then she’ll be okay being married. In order to have children & raise a family, you have to put them first & push your needs aside, and she is to selfish for that. It’s okay to be ambitious and make a career for yourself, but she needs to stop saying she was caught up in the “Fairytale” because this young lady is not ready to make the necessary sacrifices to make a go of a committed relationship. Maybe some day, but not today. Khole & Kourtney however are ready.

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lmond00

Posted at 2:07 PM on January 31, 2012  

Khloe especially being married should have encouraged counseling. In most episodes of kktny and keeping she makes it clear that she will not be away from her husband for too long. Even giving up some business deals. Kourtney at least saw Kris’ side but who will dare go against the Kardashians own? Who wouldnt want a Christian athlete so tall and beautiful who wants a life away from the evil land of LA (not my opinion) and settle in comfort in family solitude? She lost a Good Man! You the Boss Bonnie.

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Diana

Posted at 3:14 PM on January 31, 2012  

Khloe did try to talk to her about it. She told her marriage isn’t always a fairy tale and that they would have to work on it.

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Sarah

Posted at 4:53 PM on January 31, 2012  

Khloe never told her to get counseling. She didn’t like Kris and in that last conversation she basically said well everybody knows how bad he treats and implicitly supported her getting out

 
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Zilly

Posted at 1:18 PM on January 31, 2012  

Not just commitment phobia, she fears losing her celebrity status she didn’t want to be married from the words I do
Up to that point, all the attention was on her, and after the I do, she was done, her fear of moving to MN was the biggest hint prior to the wedding, who does that, not move and live with their husband? How far was that going to get them… lest see… about 72 days!

Plus this girl needs support for everything single thing she does, says or thinks, and Kris is more of a get over it guy, so it never would have worked, which makes her a fraud, and him looking like a fool, and that doesn’t bother her at all

She needs help [and maybe some medication] to work through her issues, or this is how the rest of her life will be.

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taylor

Posted at 5:44 PM on January 31, 2012  

My first hint was when Kris didn’t know that she was married before. How do you keep a secret like that from someone you are going to marry? And there are so many other so-called “HINTS,” that the union was doomed from the word go! Money is Kim’s GOD. You can see that nothing else matters, especially when you don’t see any humility after backlash. But when you look at how she was brought up and what the family values, it is not hard to understand that she can’t help herself. However, one day when (and I’ve said this over and over again), when the money and material things no longer fill that VOID WHICH IS HUGH, she will be a deep trouble emotionally.

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shannon

Posted at 12:48 PM on January 31, 2012  

I completely agree with this column and the “6 Reasons…” column. I cannot understand how a MOTHER and SISTER who continuously proclaim how close they are just sit idle while Kim’s marriage disintigrates. Actually, if you analyze Kourtney’s behavior during the show- that’s expected because she is one cold b—-. However, Kris Jenner’s behavior is not one that a mother would have. It’s sort of like having a shallow girlfriend as a mother- there’s no mother/daughter relationship. That woman should have immediately flown to her daughter when word was out that she wasn’t happy and ENCOURAGED her to make it work, gave her tips, even referred her to counseling. It seems this “close” family is only close when it comes to self-promotion and posing half naked in jeans. Love is a whole ‘nother ball game that isn’t profitable.

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Diana

Posted at 3:16 PM on January 31, 2012  

She can’t offer advice because she’s the same way. The problem with the marriage was that Kris would not confirm to what she wanted. She wanted Scott/Bruce and she got the complete opposite, a MAN!

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taylor

Posted at 5:46 PM on January 31, 2012  

WELL PUT!!!

 
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jacquelineSA

Posted at 3:57 AM on February 1, 2012  

WELL SAID

 
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Spr

Posted at 9:44 AM on February 1, 2012  

Absolutely, BINGO. With the tramp of a mother as her only role model, she is doomed. She does not know how to relate to a decent, loving real man. I cannot imagine any man ever trusting her again. Soon her beauty will fade, then what? Her fame whore Mother is already grooming the two younger daughters to take Kim’s place. You are history Kim. Move over for your younger sisters.

 
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Jan

Posted at 12:19 PM on January 31, 2012  

I believe it’s more than commitment-phobia. I think she likely has a serious psychological illness or personality disorder. She and Kourtney have OCD issues centered around a desperate need for control. Why is that? Look to the emotionally-disturbed mother…who needs the benefit of ALOT of therapy. The treatment of men in that family…including Kris Jenner’s own son…is reprehensible. And very telling. I have four children and eight grandchildren. My children have used the tragedy of the Kardashians as a teaching tool and cautionary tale for my grandsons and granddaughters. A lesson in how NOT to treat others and conduct oneself.

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