Doctors Speak Out On How Madonna Badger Can Recover From Her Terrible Tragedy

Thu, January 26, 2012 7:40pm EDT by 17 Comments
Madonna Badger Suicide

Overcome by grief over the loss of her three young daughters in a tragic fire, Madonna attempted suicide — and experts tell HollyBaby.com exclusively how she can get the help and strength she needs to heal.

A heartbroken Madonna Badger, 47,  bravely made it through the funeral of her three young daughters and parents, who she lost in a Christmas Day fire, but in the weeks following she tried to take her life after clearly not being able to handle the extreme emotional pain. She’s now been released from the hospital, and experts that HollywoodLife.com consulted suggest how she can begin to cope with such a devastating loss.

The experts we spoke to say that while in the hospital Madonna would have been under constant supervision, been given mood stabilizers and kept from anything that she could use to harm herself. “She would have been getting psychotherapy or intervention — doctors would have been speaking with her, helping her identify” why she tried to take her own life, explained psychologist Jeff Gardere, Associate Professor at Touro College in Osteopathic Medicine.

“She is drowning in an avalanche of sadness, guilt and pain,” says psychiatrist Dr. Carole Lieberman, author of Bad Girls: Why Men Love Them & How Good Girls Can Learn Their Secrets.

“She undoubtedly is in the mindset of ‘if only,'” says psychotherapist Dr. Gilda Carle, author of How To Win At Love. “If only I had done this, done that… then this would not have happened. You know you just can’t do that to yourself. That will only make you more upset.”

Now that she’s out of the hospital, Madonna can take these steps towards recovery:

  •  Turn to family and friends. “Even when she comes off suicide watch, she needs family and friends, who can be with her, listen to her, keep her company and speak to her,” advises Dr. Gardere. “She shouldn’t be alone for the next several months, for the minimum.”
  • But don’t depend on boyfriend, Michael Borcino. “She probably should start by ditching her boyfriend,” suggests Dr. Lieberman. “Though it is unlikely that he purposely started the fire, he certainly isn’t someone she can lean on. And she will always blame him for the fire. What will help — in addition to ongoing psychiatric treatment — may be turning to God and her religion, throwing herself into her work, doing volunteer work — perhaps with children, considering being a foster parent or adopting children, if she cannot become a parent again herself biologically.”
  • Know it will take time. “You never get over the loss of children,” says psychotherapist Dr. Jenn Berman, author of A to Z: Guide to Raising Happy, Confident Kids. “It defies the natural order of life where parents are not supposed to outlive their children. It’s going to take a lot of therapy, and a lot of time” to get over this.
  • Don’t place blame on anyone. “Just accept that this happened, this just happened,” says Dr. Carle. “This is one of those situations where no one can even begin to fathom that kind of loss, that kind of tragedy, unless its happened to you,” says Dr. Gardere.

We hope Madonna will be able to somehow get through this very tragic time!

-Reporting by Emily Morgan and Kaitlyn Monteiro, Written by Anna Moeslein

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