'Bachelorette' Ali Fedotowsky: Give Roberto Martinez's Ring Back

Wed, November 30, 2011 2:58pm EDT by 12 Comments
Ali Fedotowsky

Celebrity wedding planners tell HollywoodLife.com exclusively that Ali can’t keep Roberto’s ring if she’s not going to marry him.

Bachelorette Ali Fedotowsky dumped her fiance Roberto Martinez after an 18-month engagement. Now, in her first interview since the breakup, Ali admits that she’s holding on to the $50,000 Neil Lane engagement ring and the love that it represented. “It’s a symbol of our love, and that’s something I still have,” she tells People magazine. But, celebrity wedding planners tell HollywoodLife.com exclusively that Ali is doing the wrong thing — she needs to give back the ring immediately.

“Give it back,” warns California Wedding Planner Sasha Souza. “There’s laws against that. She legally can’t keep that ring, unless it was given to her as a gift. You take the ring, you make the promise you’re taking on a marriage. It’s a loan.”

Celebrity Wedding Planner Marcy Blum, who’s planned weddings for Kevin Bacon and Billy Joel, agrees. “In my opinion, unless the guy did something insane, it is a present that attached to it is a promise based on the fact that you’re getting married,” shares Marcy. “It’s not a normal present. It’s based on the future. So if you’re not going to have that future, you have to give it back. That is the etiquette.”

Both experts do feel that Ali made the right decision to end the relationship though. “You don’t go into marriage with unrealistic exceptions of what a person is going to do or change,” says Sasha. “It’s an internal monologue. Often if you are so divergent on the way your lives are going to be, you need to listen [to your gut]. They shouldn’t get married.”

Ali and Roberto should have broken up sooner. “I think she should have pulled out a lot faster,” notes Marcy. “If you’re living together and about to get married for a reasonable amount time, she should have left earlier.”

BFFs — do you think Ali should give her ring back?

- Lindsey DiMattina

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Barbara Hack

Posted at 3:59 PM on May 25, 2012  

I think they will get back together. You could see the love they had for each other and the love was in their eyes when they looked at each other., Yes, fighting is part of the relationship, but don’t give up. I think they both have matured and hopefully they will start talking with each other and date but off camera. Just go places you want to go, if they take pictures just do not stop what you are doing and do not sign anything. Place them on ignore when you are dating.
Love you both so very much, I really think you DO have something special.
Do not let that go. Hopefully I will just hear that you two are dating and maybe hear of a wedding later on. DO IT YOUR WAY!!.

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JOYDIE

Posted at 8:37 AM on February 17, 2012  

I AGREE TO SOME EXTENT BUT I REALLY DO BELIEVE SHE STILL LOVES HIM VERY MUCH THAT IS WHY SHE IS STILL CLINGING ON TO IT. THEY WERE A VERY SPECIAL COUPLE ON THE SERIES – THEY DEFINITELY GELLED MORE THAN ANY OTHER COUPLE AND HAD SOMETHING SPECIAL AS SHE SAID. LIKE JULIES COMMENT.

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JOYDIE

Posted at 8:35 AM on February 17, 2012  

I AGREE TO SOME EXTENT BUT I REALLY DO BELIEVE SHE STILL LOVES HIM VERY MUCH THAT IS WHY SHE IS STILL CLINGING ON TO IT. THEY WERE A VERY SPECIAL COUPLE ON THE SERIES – THEY DEFINITELY GELLED MORE THAN ANY OTHER COUPLE AND HAD SOMETHING SPECIAL AS SHE SAID. i ALSO AGREE WITH WHAT JULIES COMMENT ON COMPROMISING AND HARD WORK AND RESPECT EACH OTHERS VIEWS

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Lynn Ray

Posted at 12:15 AM on January 4, 2012  

Who should she give it back to is a better question. ABC paid for it, not Roberto. If anyone gets it back it should be ABC.

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Briana

Posted at 1:42 AM on December 16, 2011  

The show bought the ring, didn’t they? There’s no way any of the lads on this crap-fest can afford a $50k ring!

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Wren Starling

Posted at 3:36 PM on December 12, 2011  

Don’t be the city c*nt, Ali, give the ring back and get on with life.

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Nikki

Posted at 6:24 PM on December 11, 2011  

Ali was my favorite among all bachelorette.I am very dasappointed to see it went that way. relationship is base on compromising to each other. At some point it’s clear that sha did not want to go that extra mile. As my friend mentioned, she so in love with Frank,whom she was rejected by in Bora Bora. She was wondering if Ali still in love with Frank.Hopefully both will find their true love.I am sorry Roberto it went that way.

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sierra madre

Posted at 3:37 PM on December 12, 2011  

wake the hell up and see it for what it is. these people spent 8-10 weeks together, how can they really know each other? Get your stupid head out of the clouds and start living in reality you dumb cunt.

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julie

Posted at 2:01 AM on December 6, 2011  

Women craving for attention, spotlight in public cannot be happy and satisfied with a man who wants to live a quiet, conservative family life. Hope both of them will find the person that suit their personalities. Relationship is a two way street to survive..with respect to one another, consideration, lots of patience, open communication and not throwing the towel easily if hardships rocks, relationship is a compromise thru thick and thin, unless there’s cheating and abuse.

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Julie

Posted at 1:37 AM on December 6, 2011  

Roberto should pick someone who’s not self-centered like Ali. He should find a woman who has the same interest like him, conservative family values, quiet life, give and take, considerate to one another. Ali likes a lot of attention and dominant, always want her way, if not, then blame it to her partner. Good luck Ali, hope you’ll find someone that you could control according to your likes.

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sparklers

Posted at 10:02 PM on November 30, 2011  

this is ridiculous, he never paid for the ring it was GIVEN to him by the show. Giving the ring back to roberto makes ZERO sense, if anyone is entitled to that ring it’s the Bachellor franchise which is even more ridiculous. The only person that deserves to keep that ring is Ali. Hollywood life, where do you get your ‘experts’ from??

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Carolyn

Posted at 11:38 AM on December 1, 2011  

Nobody said give the ring back to Roberto, The ring should be returned to Neil Lane, it doesn’t belong to Ali either. It was given in a promise of marriage, which clearly is not going to happen. The only decent thing to do is give it back, otherwise why don’t everyone on this show, just accept a proposal and keep a $50,000 ring. This is ridiculous. GIVE IT BACK!

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