'Bachelorette' Ali Fedotowsky: Why I Dumped Roberto Martinez

Wed, November 30, 2011 10:17am EDT by 63 Comments
Ali and Roberto Break Up

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gerardola1

Posted at 8:12 PM on January 7, 2014  

Aqui entre Ali y Roberto paso lo que pasa cuando dos culturas chocan lo dire de otra forma seria si yo un ciudadano preparado y vivido toda mi vida en la ciudad y me enamoro de una tarahumara o una india de chiapas se que todos somos indios en mexico y estoy orgulloso de ser indio pero los valores y enseñanzas llegan un dia y chocan eso les paso a Ali y Roberto el es latino y sus costumbres son diferentes a las de Ali ella tiene cultura diferente y le gusta andar entre la gente y ser servicial y sociable y los latinos somos unos burros todo nos aburre y enoja y nos gusta estar solos y eso para Ali era aburrido de el A ella le gusta la alegria le teme al aburrimiento no le gusta el osio o perder el tiempo le encanta trabajar salir adelante buscar ser la primera en todo y el latino no todos somos conformistas y huevones y todo nos vale ali la rego pero quizas le gustaban los morenos segun porque somos mas ardientes para hacer el amor pero nunca penso como ivan a salir sus hijos ya que su familia todos son gueritos y sus hijos ivan a ser el negrito en el arros.perdon si me exprese mal solo digo que soy mexicano y amo ser latino ahunque sea guero y alto

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Kayla

Posted at 1:06 AM on June 26, 2013  

Such a pity they broke up ! They matched really well
But if a man can’t handle that a woman is independent
Then it’s just not meant 2 be !

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Renee' Zach

Posted at 1:03 PM on January 29, 2013  

When I watched this episode I was so sure that Ali and Roberto were a solid match. Roberto, was a great guy and I know that his love was real. I could really see that he was grounded and had a head on his shoulders. But, Ali also was very independent. I just was so upset that it didn’t workout. I almost lost interest in watching other episodes because it seems like there are really great beginnings with the couples and then they split. Love should be strong no matter what you both go through.

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kiara

Posted at 5:19 PM on January 11, 2013  

Aww..its such a pity they broke up:(..Just like Ashley and J.P, they were the cutest couple ever…I was so happy when I found out Ali chose Roberto..I absolutely loved him!!…so sad 2 find out that they have broken up…I really hope they get back together though!!:)

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Posted at 9:58 PM on June 5, 2012  

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Posted at 7:28 AM on May 31, 2012  

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Posted at 2:09 AM on May 25, 2012  

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Antipickupart

Posted at 7:28 PM on March 15, 2012  

DUH. Sorry to sound harsh, but when I was watching the show, I saw big fat red flags right away regarding the exact reasons why she said it wouldn’t work out in this interview. It goes to show you that these things are not discovered over time or by “trying things out.” The compatibility and chemistry is there from the beginning or it’s not there at all and never will be.

When she went to visit his family, all they did was talk about how he is gonna have a big great career and how they wanted her to support him etc. That might be another girl’s dream to be with a guy like that, but that doesn’t seem like Ali at all. Also, considering her leaving Jake’s season to save her job. She should have continued in the job she loves, continued building her life and being open to the guy that complements, challenges and is compatible with who she is.

He’s a good-looking guy and she’s a cute girl, but that isn’t enough for a relationship let alone a life time commitment. It’s enough for a date or two, but that’s all it should have been.

These shows are dumb because you can’t force love. It’s like when I got on a dating site with high hopes. I can’t just pick someone and then it’s gonna work. You can’t just make a show like this and then get ENGAGED to be married for life after. That is nuts! And the environment is so deceiving cause you are away from home, in some other city, away from your life, therefore away from who you are on a daily basis. It feels more romantic than it actually is. You can’t really know someone, you are swept up by the show and the environment etc and it’s so far removed from your world and your friends etc which is a very shaky foundation.

I can’t believe people still want to be on these shows given the track record. The reason why I think Tristan and Ryan worked out was cause it was meant to be. They really seem to be well suited for each other. It’s a romantic story for them that they got to meet that way, but it’s just something that can’t be forced time and again. It’s not likely to keep working out every season like that.

Your love story will be your own unique love story. It doesn’t depend on you forcing it, it depends on you fully knowing yourself first, that way you can recognize what is right for you when it comes along. It really is about being solid in who you are individually first. We got it wrong in our culture, thinking it’s something we can control. It’s very much a spiritual thing to find love and we honestly have little to do with it. All you can do is be open.

@antipickupart on twitter. :-)

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Fidel

Posted at 5:11 PM on June 8, 2012  

Glad there’s still an open-minded person out there!

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J

Posted at 4:41 PM on September 5, 2012  

your idea is biologically wrong, and only “right” in some circumstances but not all.

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J

Posted at 4:42 PM on September 5, 2012  

talking to: antipickup

 
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AXEL

Posted at 3:55 PM on March 8, 2012  

She will NEVER BE THE STAR SHE THINKS SHE IS…THIS GIRL IS WEINEY AND NEED WAY TOO MUCH ATTENTION..SORRY IT DIDN’T WORK OUT BUT I KNOW THAT ROBERTO IS A HAPPIER MAN NOW AND CAN FIND AND MARRY A REAL WOMAN NOT A WANNA BE JACK OF ALL TRADES AND MASTER OF NONE…BET CHRIS IS HAPPY TOO WITH HIS LIFE.

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Alex

Posted at 8:01 PM on February 19, 2012  

No Bachelor/Bachelorette couples work out. Except for the first. That show is USELESS now. That’s why I don’t watch it anymore. Ever heard “never put your business on Tv. Speacially your relationship. It’s bound to not work.”? Yeah well think about it.

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Cortney

Posted at 5:10 PM on January 31, 2012  

This comes as no surprise to me. On the show, yes, Roberto was a good guy but I was cheering for Chris L the whole time. I truly believe she would have been happy forever had she chosen Chris, who was an actual sensitive and down to Earth guy, but NO. She just had to have the “hottie” of the show (which I will completely agree Roberto was GORGEOUS). But this comes as NO surprise.

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Jennifer

Posted at 8:24 PM on January 19, 2012  

Ali you are biggest fool I have been with my husband for 15 year I know that every marriage isn’t going to be peaches and cream so come on now you are a fool for letting him go. So all that stuff that you did on the show was a big tail you wasn’t and so that mean you RE NO better then Vienna she did tell the truth about Jake was all about being on tv. Mike Fleiss need to stop and he gets that Emily I’m sorry to say this I hope she get hurt and see how it feels just like she did Brad he bored with her daughter, and he tried.So why couldn’t you and Roberto it out he move to you and the thanks he get is a breakup that wrong Ben will get hurt also all Courtney is doing helping her career so think about this hurtful thing ms lady.from mommy jen in TX

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Bina

Posted at 8:40 PM on January 15, 2012  

She is like all the girls that go on TV, Wanting more TV and focus on them.

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Ronnye

Posted at 2:16 AM on January 7, 2012  

I loved Ali and liked her and Roberto together. But something isn’t right with her account. To give the impression that she was almost “subservient” to Roberto is rubbish. And because he is of a different culture/heritage, cut the crap about him expecting women to be in the kitchen. This article made me lose respect for her. Just say it didn’t work…it’s ok. Her attempts to be in Hollywood did not materialize (hello, see DeAnna, et al) and I believe that’s why they fought. Roberto paid the price; he moved his business cross country for her. I do not know her personally, but I am disappointed that she had to attempt to tear him down because of her shortcoming. Sad.

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lynn

Posted at 5:37 AM on June 15, 2014  

Agree,,,this show glamories love! This isn’t love,,its free sex, then reality sets in,,she/ he has cold water on their face! But I do believe he loved her,,,she it was a hit time!! Where is she now???

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Marissa

Posted at 6:58 AM on January 6, 2012  

I though they could of worked I love Ali she seem like a vary nice girl

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Ann Phil

Posted at 9:29 AM on January 5, 2012  

I felt sad :( really sad, they’re perfect! and i can’t imagine that this will happen to both of them. I am the number 1 fan of Ms. Ali, she’s my idol. I wanna make her happy. like the day he first met Roberto. Hope someday things will get better. and to Ms. Ali just hold on. God has a plan and I know that it is for the better. We always here to love and support you.

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Nurrin

Posted at 12:59 AM on December 16, 2011  

Yeah True! I think between both of them, Ali was just not ready to be married now. Not yet, cos she seems to still want to chase after what more she can do to ‘establish’ herself. Roberto seems like if he got married now it would be no problem for him. but it seeems like it would be for ali since she seems to be chasing after her dreams, and maybe marriage is not that ‘dream’ now for her..

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Sheryl Underwood

Posted at 2:55 PM on December 31, 2011  

I think Ali did what any girl would have done. When you are in a relationship you are suppose to work as a team and make a compromise together and not all by yourself. When you and your significant other cannot get along, have countless arguements, and cannot make a decision together then something is definitly wrong. When this happens you need to take notice to it and do something about it, not just let it go down in ruins. When you are in a relationship you work as if you are one person, you form a bond with each other and work together to make a compromise.

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Lara

Posted at 8:01 AM on February 7, 2012  

Roberto seems too good to be true. Like Ali said before, he is just too perfect.

 
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lynn

Posted at 5:39 AM on June 15, 2014  

Agree!! Right now Ali loves the spot light,,,but I read she has a new boyfriend

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