If Demi Moore Really Had Threesomes, They Destroyed Her Marriage, Experts Say

Mon, November 21, 2011 7:26pm EDT by Add first Comment

Even though Demi Moore allegedly agreed to letting other women in the bedroom with her and Ashton, experts told Hollywoodlife.com exclusively threesomes are NOT a good idea! Do you agree?

Whether or not Demi Moore, 49, actually insisted on including other women in her and Ashton Kutcher‘s sex life remains unclear, but one thing is for sure: threesomes can be destructive to a marriage or relationship. Hollywoodlife.com spoke exclusively to top relationship experts who unanimously advised us to stay away from threesomes if you want your marriage or relationship to last.

“In my experience I have never seen a situation where it has helped a marriage and to make matters more horrible, I have experienced couples who have been terribly hurt by it [threesomes] and have broken up it because of it,” says psychotherapist Dr. Gilda Carle of Dr.Gilda.com, and author of Don’t Bet on the Prince!.

Chelsea Handler recently reiterated rumors that Demi was in fact into threesomes with her 33-year-old ex-hubby on the the Nov. 17 episode of Piers Morgan Tonight, saying, “I think they had a lot of good times with some other women. Clearly they probably had a lot of threesomes that led to twosomes without Demi, and that leads to divorce.”

And even IF Demi was down with threesomes, it’s very likely her jealousy became a problem in the twisted trios.

“When there is a possibility of jealousy cropping up then what can occur after the fact is difficult to handle for most people,” Dr. Gilda says.

So why would Demi — a beautiful, successful and worldly woman — agree to sharing her man?

“If it is true that Demi and Ashton participated in threesomes, it is only because this was Demi’s desperate attempt to hold onto him,” says Dr. Carole Lieberman,  psychiatrist and author of  Bad Girls: Why Men Love Them & How Good Girls Can Learn Their Secrets. “When there is a large age gap, Cougars like Demi, live in fear of losing their man to a younger woman. So they make concessions, such as having threesomes, and pretend that they are okay with it because they believe losing the man is worse.”

But this — not surprisingly — makes matters worse. And her compromises to fill her insecurities of their age gap could have been the demise of their marriage.

“When you bend your own rules to keep yourself in a relationship that you already feel insecure in, all your left is with resentment,” says Cooper Lawrence, relationship expert and cohost of the Scott & Todd Show on PLJ.

And it sounds like this is exactly what happened with Demi and Ashton.  “It’s not like we heard about her and Bruce Willis having threesomes,” Lawrence says.

But whatever her reasoning may be, bringing someone else into the bedroom is a risk to the relationship — and probably not a good idea.

“Threesomes are destructive to most relationships, because they loosen the bonds of commitment and trust and build resentment and fear,” Dr. Lieberman explains“Threesomes would have made it easier for Ashton to step over the line  and go from having a threesome to having sex with another woman without Demi there.”

Relationship expert Lawrence says it does depend on the couple, but  it usually doesn’t end with a positive outcome.

“I know of couples who do that regularly and they’re perfectly happy, but I know more couples who end up feeling jealous and resentment,” Lawrence says.

What do you think, Hollywoodlifers? Do you think threesomes are a good idea when you’re in a committed relationship? Vote and weigh in below!

— Nicole Karlis

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