Taylor Swift Getting Back Together With Joe Jonas Or Taylor Lautner? How She'll Make It Work The Second Time Around!

Wed, September 7, 2011 6:33pm EST by 22 Comments

Relationship experts share advice with HollywoodLife.com exclusively advising that Taylor shouldn’t get intimate with either Joe or Taylor until she decides who she wants to be with and they must address their problems from the past!

Taylor Swift seems to have two boys fighting for her attention. Both of her exes Joe Jonas and Taylor Lautner appear to be trying to win Taylor back, but the question is which man will she choose? If she does get back together with one of them, Taylor‘s going to have to really focus on making the relationship work. Relationship experts share with HollywoodLife.com what they think Taylor needs to do to make it last with either Joe or Taylor the second time around!

First Taylor must figure out what she wants out of a relationship. “Before getting back with either of her exes, she needs to be honest with herself about what she’s looking for — arm candy or true love — and what she’s willing to give to the relationship,” shares Carole Lieberman, M.D., psychiatrist and author of Bad Girls: Why Men Love Them & How Good Girls Can Learn Their Secrets.

Once Taylor figures out which guy she she wants to be with, she then has to address what made them break up in the first place. “Whatever caused them to break up, it has to be spoken about and worked through,” advises Rhonda Findling, psychotherapist and author of The Commitment Cure: What to Do When You Fall for an Ambivalent Man. “They should try resolve it and express feelings.”

Taylor also needs to try to focus on her man more as a person than as someone she can show off. “She needs to be more attentive to them as people,” explains Cooper Lawrence, from the Scott & Todd Show on WPLJ. “She must focus on the relationship and not the business side of them.”

“The first three months should be no expectations whatsoever — it should just be fun and easy,” continues Cooper. “Take it slow, don’t make any major decisions or sudden moves.”

And Taylor also must wait to decide who she wants to be with for the long run before she gets intimate with either Joe or Taylor. “She should wait until she knows who she wants to have an exclusive relationship with because it may be too confusing with both,” notes Rhonda.

“The most important three things she must focus on when getting back together are honesty, communication and figuring out if they want the same things in relationships,” Cooper adds.

BFFs — what should Taylor do to make it work the second time around with either Joe or Taylor? Share your love tips below!

- Lindsey DiMattina

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Markus

Posted at 3:37 PM on January 11, 2013  

You must all be like 12

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brooke

Posted at 2:47 PM on June 20, 2012  

taylor swift sould really think before she dates sometimes i think she falles in love too fast and she sould just take it slow with ethier jo or taylor but i think she sould go with taylor l

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Hailey :)

Posted at 9:54 PM on November 24, 2011  

Taylor + Taylor = :) Happy Forever !!!!!! Taylor And Jonas Suck Together And Taylor And Taylor Make A REALLY Cute And Awesome Couple ! :) . Sooooooo I Really Hope Not Jonas But Taylor And Taylor !

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pinkybosee

Posted at 2:45 AM on September 21, 2011  

i vote for taylor and taylor!!! joe jonas sux worse than edward!!! (frm twilight)
:)))))))))))))) alsooooooo…woot woot for team tyler’s van (cuz tyler apologized) :)

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Caitlin Ruddell-Sherwin

Posted at 2:45 AM on September 16, 2011  

Taylor Swift should date Taylor Lautner again because Joe Jonas is such a dog!! Look at how many women Joe’s dated & how he’s broken up with them, Taylor before you choose!!

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keykey

Posted at 2:00 PM on September 22, 2011  

look also how many men your dear Taylor dated. Don´t blame Joe only that girl is also a player!

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kimbathlion

Posted at 5:01 AM on November 3, 2011  

i agree with you! t.swift also dated many guys just to make a song out of them!and those idiots who think joe broke taylor’s heart dont consider this fact which every stupid relationship ends to a breakup!you talk like noone ever does that! like zac and vanessa,they broke up finally! if they realy loved eachother they would marry!

 
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salva

Posted at 9:37 AM on September 14, 2011  

i think joe and demi most back together not taylor.if joe be fireand with taylor i dont love him forever.

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niki

Posted at 4:38 AM on September 13, 2011  

why isnt thieve a reason why it ended in the first place? but i would like to see the two Taylors back together they just make everyone go awwww well dont they.

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Lorrie

Posted at 7:50 PM on September 8, 2011  

First she needs to figure out if they truly want her back or if it is a guy ego thing….Second…I don’t think any of them are in a position to be looking for the “true love”…if it finds them well and good. Obviously she wanted Taylor back at one point (Back to December)…and it may have been career commitments that interferred…with both Taylor L and Joe…Who says she is required to enter a serious relationship with them or anyone at this point…they are all young and should be enjoying themselves.

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brooke

Posted at 2:54 PM on June 20, 2012  

agrred there in there 20 they can wait a little bit

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Amanda

Posted at 3:53 PM on September 8, 2011  

I think Taylor should be with Joe. I always wanted them back together. She might choose him being for the fact that she really did love him then again he really did hurt her. I don’t think this is a publicy thing either cux Joe never goes for a ex or tries for his gf. So he must really want her back.

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tokeland

Posted at 3:53 PM on September 23, 2011  

Joe Jonas’s only concern is Joe Jonas, it seems opportunity came just when he is trying to get his lively hood a boost since it can not make its own. hey lets get some exspousure by trying( B.S.) to get back with Taylor. I can tell you as a father of 4 daughters myself, if Joe Jonas should his face any where around my daughter doing the things he had and continues to do in his life I would kick his butt, I no not what Mr. Lautner has done but from the looks of what is out there and from what I have seen, does not seem that people have nothing but good things to say about him. But as all know no one is perfect, he may be a syco behinde the curtains, with as much as he is under the spot light it seems unlikely though.

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Posted at 1:48 PM on September 8, 2011  

It’s like The Bachelorette: Celebrity Edition!

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someone

Posted at 5:13 AM on September 8, 2011  

Neither! Adam Young pleasee…

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Ayesha

Posted at 9:48 PM on June 27, 2012  

ELLEN IS HE A GOOD KISSER?TAYLOR SWIFT: *LAUGHS AND FIDDLES WITH HER HAND WHAT? i bet the answer is yes! haaahh. IF I WAS ELLEN, I’D MAKE A FOLLOW UP QUESTION. LET ME REPEAT THE QUESTION AND PLEASE LISTEN CAREFULLY, IS HE A GOOD KISSER? hahah

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LOL

Posted at 11:43 PM on September 7, 2011  

Swift and Joe are just alike they can’t keep a relationship for 15 minutes.

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RosesAreRed

Posted at 11:23 PM on September 7, 2011  

Neither one! She needs someone she can make a fresh start with. Aww think about the feelings a new love causes! No bad memories or paranoia about it going south…again, finding someone else you can’t get enough of. And yes I did just quote Liz Phair lol

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deedqwqw

Posted at 9:01 PM on September 7, 2011  

★good★

look love— w w w – jordan forworld – c o m

believe you will love it.

love good go.

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lucky

Posted at 7:36 PM on September 7, 2011  

i think taylor swift good looking with taylor launter not joe taylor launter is great guy i think love taylor swift

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race

Posted at 6:58 PM on September 7, 2011  

she shouldn’t go back to either of them. she needs to date a non famous guy who truly loves and respects her. she should enjoy her single life. she’s young, successful, talented and smart.

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Anna

Posted at 7:56 AM on September 9, 2011  

She is not getting back with anyone. I believe all this is about publicity. Lautner’s movie Abduction will open soon and Joe Jonas is about to go on tour. This is all set up by their publicists to get fans thinking about them again. But just to humour everyone, If she does decide to take one of them back it would be TAYLOR LAUTNER. Joe broke up with her over a 27 second conversation and I think she has buried that relationship. However, she is constantly singing about Lautner and saying how sorry she is and of course that hug an her concert with Lautner—Duh

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