Is it ever OK to date one of your guy friends? If so, when?
Much in the same way that we were all aghast when Ryan Gosling and Rachel McAdams ended their Notebook-worthy romance, we’re rooting for The Proposal pals Sandra Bullock and Ryan Reynolds to find love again with one another. If you’re into this idea, you might be in luck: a new report claims that the two are finally going for it, they also say that a “proposal” is in the not-so-distant future. But regardless of what America wants for the wholesome twosome, should friends ever become lovers?
The Oscar winner and her former co-star were spotted hiking near her Jackson Hole, Wyo. home on Aug. 12, reigniting rumors that two were together. According to Star, they didn’t just indulge in a simple hike around Jenny Lake: they talked about spending the rest of their lives together.
“As the day went on, they started thinking about it, and soon the thought of spending their lives together didn’t sound all that ridiculous,” the source says. “It sounded wonderful.”
It’s true: friendships do make the best relationships. That said, you need to make sure the guy is feeling the same way and that you openly discuss it before ruining the bond that you have, especially if he’s as close to you as Ryan is to Sandra.
For example, if you’re just sexually attracted to one another but he refuses to make a commitment, don’t cave. Perhaps some of that sexual tension is what makes your friendship so much fun.
So why should Ryan and Sandra specifically take that leap? Here are the reasons!
#1 He gets along with her kid. The Canadian actor hiked the entire Grand Teton National Park trail with Sandra’s adopted son, baby Louis, on his back. The source says Ryan already feels “like a father” to Louis.
#2 They’re comfortable around each other. While at their favorite local restaurant, Rendezvous Bistro, onlookers couldn’t help but to notice that the two were utterly relaxed and completely themselves around one another — which is so important in a long-lasting relationship. “They enjoyed a few drinks and were very comfortable around each other,” an eyewitness says. “They seem to fit together, like it’s a really easy and fun relationship.”
#3 Her friends approve. “Ryan is such a sweet-heart, everyone is giving them the stamp of approval,” a source adds. “They have a great foundation for a long-term relationship.”
#4 They’ve both been through bad relationships before. Sandra was publicly cheated on by then-husband Jesse James; the couple divorced shortly after the scandal broke in June of 2010. Ryan and ex-wife Scarlett Johansson also officially split in December of the same year.
If you’re having fears about whether or not you should date a male friend, look at these reasons. If it feels right, take a leap of faith. You have a lot to lose, but you might have even more to gain.