Sarah & Neil Say: Gender Reveal Parties Are NOT For Us — We'll Pass On The Cake! How About You?

Tue, August 16, 2011 4:26pm EST by 7 Comments

Gender reveal parties are all the rage nowadays, where the parents-to-be plan a party based around a blue or pink cake that will reveal whether the baby is a boy or a girl. HollyBaby bloggers Sarah & Neil are not interested!

In Sarah & Neil‘s minds, these parties are not only absolutely absurd, but they just add more unnecessary stress in the lives of a pregnant couple! Who wants their baker knowing the sex of their baby before THEY even know? Read on to find out Sarah & Neil’s top 10 reasons why this so-called “party” is anything but a celebration.

As I was busily slaving away in the kitchen the other day (ahem?), Sarah asked me what my thoughts were on a Gender Reveal Party, as it was apparently a trend. Even though I typically adhere strictly to my policy of “Agree to whatever the pregnant lady is saying and be damned by the consequences later.” I later Googled “gender reveal party” and was stunned by the amount of information available. The name itself is quite self-explanatory; it’s more the concept that baffles me, and why someone thought this was necessary in the first place. My first reaction was that this was some kind of Hallmark holiday, dreamed up by the PR department of the Royal and Fraternal Order of American Bakers, something along the lines of “Take your Cat to Work Day.”

I feel bad enough having a baby shower (or 2) and asking my friends for gifts. I’m sure they are receiving invitations thinking, “Didn’t I just buy them a wedding gift!?” But when the topic of a Gender Reveal Party came up Neil and I scratched our heads and wondered not only why people would do this, but also who on earth would want to attend. I know these parties are becoming a growing trend, but I’m not giving birth to the next prince of England, (just a child I plan on marrying into that family) so does anyone else REALLY care what we’re having?

Here are our top 10 reasons why we WONT be having one of these parties:

10. HE SAID: Sarah has two baby showers planned already. I assume that is fairly typical among expectant mothers. Enough already.

9. SHE SAID: Doing this means that I will have to hold an envelope filled with important information in my hand for at least an hour while taking it to the baker. When Indiana Jones finds the holy grail does he just walk around with it for an hour. No!

8. HE SAID: I’m just about OK with our doctor and his nurse knowing the gender of our baby seconds before we do – I cannot say the same of the bloke behind the counter of our local Baskin Robbins.

7. SHE SAID: I would have to take time out of my day (which is already too filled with eating, napping and adding items to the baby registry) to find a bakery that does this and organize the event

6. HE SAID: I honestly would be just as happy with either a girl or a boy, I just hope that the baby is healthy, and I don’t think that’s corny. But what if I had a strong preference for a boy for example – would I be expected to feign joy in front of friends and family on hearing it was a girl, or is it OK to eat my pink cake with a face of disappointment?

5. SHE SAID: I will have to spend time making and meeting new friends as all my current friends will suddenly become “committed to a dinner party” “swamped at work” or “out of office” once they get this invite. NONE OF MY FRIENDS WOULD COME TO THIS!

4. HE SAID: What portions of the food triangle are covered by pink and blue cake?

3. SHE SAID: Although I am “eating for two” one of them is 5’2 and very inactive right now, the other is not a sumo wrestler. This will be a problem when an entire cake is left sitting on my counter that will “need to be eaten”

2. HE SAID: I would love to hear how low the excuses from my mates would go in order to get out of this one. Sometimes it’s difficult enough to get these guys out to Brooklyn with the promise of all the free food and free beer they can handle.

1. SHE SAID: Although my husband has been an incredible support system through all of this… I know that if, god forbid, we ever got divorced his argument for keeping the apartment would be “I even participated in a Gender Reveal party, that alone should entitle me to everything.”

–Sarah Main and Neil Eggleton

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Posted at 10:48 PM on May 4, 2013  

I’m so tired of people finding ways to bring attention to themselves. Our generation is already too “look at me”. I get that it’s an important moment….for YOU. It’s not as big of a moment for others. Do it dring the regular baby shower.

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Neil Eggleton (the real one UK)

Posted at 12:43 PM on March 10, 2012  

Yeah whatever ! the real question is how did Neil end up with this real cutie of a girl !

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Posted at 10:49 AM on October 14, 2011  

I think that Gender Reveal parties are a great idea. It’s a way for family and close friends to get together with the expecting parents and share the moment together. You could even have it be a part of your baby shower! In most cases people don’t even bring a gift to a gender revealing party. I think that the couple who write this must be very miserable people who had to dig for “excuses” as to not have one! If your too busy eating and napping that’s pretty pathetic!

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Posted at 7:01 PM on August 17, 2011  

Whoa Jeanette, yikes. Maybe you should have a “get a sense of humor” party. If you’re gender reveal party was the best moment of your life, I feel sorry for you. Get out there and have some other good moments.

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Posted at 5:26 PM on August 17, 2011  

I am sorry that the responses to this article are so harsh. I don’t believe that this couple meant to offend anyone that chose to have a gender reveal party! They signed up to keep family and friends the ability to be a part of this exciting time of their lives!! And to have a laugh or two along the way. The miracle of childbirth is truly a gift!

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Clarie Nevin

Posted at 9:19 AM on August 17, 2011  

I couldn’t agree more with you Jeanette. Also looking at the picture of the FATHER he probably already has kids cause he looks around 50-ish so why would he want to put effort into having a party for this girl !!

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Posted at 9:15 AM on August 17, 2011  

I had a gender reveal party & it was the best moments of my life. Finding out the sex when all my family and friends were there was not only exciting but memorable!! It’s sad for you to cut down the gender reveal parties because of your lame excuses on why not to have one. This whole article is a joke & you all sound whiney & negative. Of course no one would want to show up to your reveal party just because of your attitudes. Grow up

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