Is It Possible To Really Love One Man If You're Sleeping With Another Like Ashley Hebert May Have Done?

Thu, August 4, 2011 12:11pm EDT by 17 Comments

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For shame!

Posted at 9:29 PM on December 10, 2012  

Ashley seems like a sweet girl, her heart was in the right place and Im sure some of the decisions she had to make were very difficult given the position she was in.
However, this article is SPOT ON.

Watching the entire show, it was very clear that her mind was made up on JP way before his proposal but was obviously physically attracted to Ben – especially on the dates in Fiji.
Acting on her attraction to Ben, Ashley lost all self respect and credibility considering she knew she wasnt going to accept his proposal the next day.
AND never mind that she slept with JP the night before.

She should have done the right thing as per Constantine who respected himself and his family enough not to disgrace himself – and consequently Ashley – before the entire nation.
Ashley quite clearly thought she owed it to herself to take Ben for test drive before she broke his heart and left him bewildered because she simply led him on to the very end.

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Gail

Posted at 12:02 PM on August 3, 2012  

Who gives anyone the right to judge here. Nobody knows 100 per cent what happened only the parties concerned know. Ashley was always honest and told the guys exactly what was happening. Sure if anything really did happen she would of told JP in the end and there is such a thing as forgiveness in love.

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Becca

Posted at 5:09 PM on August 19, 2011  

Laura you are such a loser. First it is obvious you don’t watch the show. You know nothing of what you speak. AND SECOND—YOU HAVE LOST ALL CREDIBILITY BY QUOTING JESSE. Anyone who cares abput these shows and these couple hate him. He is such a whining little mean man. Deanna dumped him(smart girl) and now all he does is talk trash. Laura find a new job or at least another blog. You are terrible.

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Lisa

Posted at 5:04 PM on August 19, 2011  

Laura how do you have a license to treat people? Did you watch the show? There isn’t a chance the night bofore the proposal to sleep with Ben. The crew was there. The editing of this show is terribel. And yes she probab;y was fed line to say to Ben. She had to make it look like a contest. It was so obvious all season and the producers got worried. Do you see how she welcomes him before each date? Like a friend, She never kisses him with an open mouth. Finally the producers said on the last chance date Ashley for goodness sake give us something. We have to make people think you are into Ben. I am sure she thought he was cute, what’s not to like, but it was never even a race

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Jena

Posted at 10:44 PM on September 3, 2011  

There is absolutely a chance for them to sleep together. The crew does not enter the fantasy suite bedrooms. The doors close and the “couples” are alone.

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Terriiiiiiii

Posted at 4:09 PM on August 11, 2011  

Ashley was one of the worst bachelorette that they have had on Bachelorette. She is too wish washy and she will hurt JP in the end.

Hope Bachelorette show makes a better pick next time.

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JPolino

Posted at 4:31 PM on August 4, 2011  

On another note/point, regarding Ashley and Ben’s fantasy date in Figi, When they were on a Yacht, Ashley asks and allows Ben to rub lotion all over her body including her breast and Ben asks “are you ok with this?” and Ashley replies “I am more than ok with this!” Watch the video, it all in there! Plus on Ashley & Ben’s final date, the day before the proposal when they are in the “Healing Mud Bath” Ashley says in narration “I could stay here all day and rub this mud all over Ben’s body” and then she says to Ben himself “I would love to go down lower” meaning his private area! Ben’s eyes opened wide and he smiles and this is the day before she accepts JP’s proposal! WTF! On the “After the Final Rose” show, Ben asks Ashley “My biggest question is ‘at what point did you decide it was JP and not me’?” All Ashley could say is “I followed my heart” Ben said it himself on the proposal day after Ashley turned Ben down “she never gave me any hints, not one hint because if she had given me any hints that she had any doubts whatsoever on which of us (him or JP) she wanted, I definitely would not have proposed!” It was very selfish and egotistically of Ashley to allow Ben to get down on one knee and propose to her…When she pulled him up, she couldn’t even look him in the eyes and when a person cannot look some in the eyes, that is a submission of guilt! I do not see this lasting a life time with Ashley and JP and in time you see I am right because this relationship did not start off on the right foot or the normal way “boy meets girl” and you cannot make a Wrong a Right! It’s impossible!

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Editing!

Posted at 5:06 PM on August 4, 2011  

Ben rubbed sunscrean on Ashley’s chest NOT her breasts. They did not even French kiss until LCD and the lead DOES NOT spend the night on the LCD. As far as Ashley saying that she wanted to rub mud on Ben, probably instructed by producers to say that. YES, they even read lines sometimes. It’s not all real. In fact, Ashley tried to let Ben go early but producers wouldn’t let her and actually instructed her to let him propose! She has to do what they tell her, that is what she is paid to do!

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Vandy

Posted at 2:03 PM on August 8, 2011  

Thanks, Editing! I just don’t think Ashley and JP would be that good of actors during their interviews. You can tell there is a real connection. Only time will tell if it’s marriage.

Do you mind sharing where you got your information?

 
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NinaC

Posted at 2:54 PM on August 4, 2011  

Ashley treated the search for a FIANCE/HUSBAND which is not necessarily the same as a search for love like a freakin’ job interview. If she did in fact sleep with both men, it’s just wrong on so many levels. Should sexual performance be a deal breaker/maker between 2 people just getting to know each other? I don’t think so. Should 2 or 3 people who barely know each other ever get engaged based on so little? Probably not. Should indecision of that magnitude (sleeping with both on the final 2 days be ignored? There’s your answer selfish Ashley… you weren’t sure so the right thing to do was to discourage a proposal from either.
Ashley ended up picking her “daddy”, a guy 10 years older who she described as her “rock”….her support throughout. What he really is, is just a jealous guy and since he’s 34 chances are he’s not that mature.

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Poor journalism

Posted at 2:47 PM on August 4, 2011  

Ashley didn’t sleep with Ben. It’s pathetic to even print that story. Did you even watch the show? She barely even kissed the guy!

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crazy

Posted at 1:23 PM on August 4, 2011  

Laura I don’t think you would know any better between lust and love yourself…

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Mary Ellen

Posted at 12:57 PM on August 4, 2011  

OMG…what type of journalism is this? To allege that Ashley had sex with Ben when she has gone on the record to say that nothing like that ever happened is taking yellow journalism a bit too far, don’t you think? I think Hollywoodlife owes Ashley and JP an apology and a retraction.

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Hollywood LOW life

Posted at 5:11 PM on August 5, 2011  

I don’t know how this is legal for them to print this without evidence? I just think this story is so disgusting.

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Tina

Posted at 12:29 PM on August 4, 2011  

I think the article is a bit harsh on Ashley. Was it wrong of her to sleep with Ben, absolutely. Should she have let Ben get down on one knee, no. However, let’s remember one big factor, she is human. Sadly, in the real world, women who are not yet exclusive with a man, engaged, or married have relations with other men, not always, but it’s not unusual. It’s just not put out there for all of the world to know. It wasn’t shown on the show that she slept with Ben, so someone betrayed her by leaking that information. That is wrong too. Secondly, I think she tried to tell Ben something, but he wouldn’t let her speak. In his excitment he stoped what she was saying, and did his own thing. Sure she could have tried to stop him again, but I think she was confused as to how to spare his feelings. We can say she should have done this or that differently, put her down, question her love for JP, but she did what she thought was best, right or wrong, and at the end of the day she and JP are the ones who have to deal with the fall out from that. And if JP truly loves her, and she has asked him to forgive her (which we don’t know), he should forgive her and move on. True love always forgives.

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LittleMo

Posted at 12:39 PM on August 4, 2011  

No disrespect meant to your opinion but you couldn’t be more wrong and I couldn’t disagree more. The article was dead on – if you are in love with John Doe there is no need to “test drive” Joe Smith. If Ashely was falling for J.P. like she claims to have been, there should have been no part of her that even wanted Ben, especially on a physical level. Remember Ashley is not new to this – she has been around the block with “The Bachelor” before and knows how the whole thing works. And while it would be nice if J.P. does forgive her, he is not obligated to, even if he did/does love her, because you don’t stay with somebody who doesn’t love you in return. Forgiving the person who hurt you does not mean there should be no consequences for what they did. Forgiving someone doesn’t mean you still love them the same way you used to before the betrayal, it doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t mistrust them for betraying you, and it doesn’t mean that you have to continue to accept one shovel after another of horse-poo that person decies to throw at you. If J.P. ends up dumping Ashley for good, she deserves it.

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JPOLINO

Posted at 3:41 PM on August 4, 2011  

Finally someone with some common sense@LittleMO well said…
I too watched the entire season 7 of the Bachelorette (watched every episode)& the question is at what point did Ashley decide to accept JP’s proposal because the night before the proposal she was in fact getting down heavy laying in bed with Ben F and all over him…I mean heavy kissing tongue and all (the night before?)WTF! Plus on her fantasy date with Ben F in narration, Ashley says “I am falling In Love with Ben!” while he was carrying her in his arms out of the swimming pool into the fantasy where their lips were locked together romantically kissing and their half naked wet bodies smack next to each other. Plus when they entered the fantasy suite, the lights went OUT and there were no cameras! Ashley has already admitted on the show that she was sexually attracted to Ben! I quote “Everything about Ben screams “Sexy, Sexy, Sexy to me!” Ashley also wanted Constantine, but Constantine wasn’t feeling it and he said “I know what the Fantansy Suite means” and I am not in love with you so taking it to the next level would not be fair or the right thing to do and I have more respect for myself and you and everyone involved here! Oh Ashley didn’t like that! She gets this nasty little twisted look on her face when she doesn’t get her way! I think Ashley needs a Shrink, this girl has some issues! I don’t really care about what happens to her & JP & it sucks that Ben had to get hurt, but I am very happy he did not end up with Ashley. Ben deserves a much better woman then Ashley… She’s a player! I’m not going to wish her & JP well because what she did was morally wrong on all points! Plus, what kind of person deliberately crushes a good man like Ben, then turns around and screams how happy in love she is with another man all at the same time? How do you do that?? Frankly, I don’t go for the “oh, we are in love” thing… On record there is only 1 bachelorette to make it and that is Trista Rehn & Ryan Sutter! And there is a reason why so many have failed … date 25 people at one time & expect to find the “real deal”?? Seriously? It may be Reality TV, but it’s hardly reality and the record speaks for itself!
As for Ashley “What goes around, comes around” JP has already openly admitted in a video on EW.com (words out his mouth) that his reason for coming on the show was to win and beat the guys and that he was ‘ego’ driven, but then he fell in love.. I don’t care if JP fell in love or not, his initial intentions were bad and that shows this man’s character! A Leopard doesn’t change their spots! If this man can have bad intentions once, he’ll do it again, it shows that he’s capable of it.. give it time, when the cameras totally stop rolling and the media hype is down, I bet JP does a “Bentley” on her and splits! THERE IS NO defense for what Ashley did to BEN! Ben shouldn’t have been at the final Rose Ceremony! Ashley should have done the same thing that Ali did when Ali went to Chris Lampton the day before the final Rose Ceremony and told Chris then she wasn’t going to accept his proposal and Ali didn’t think it was fair or right to have Chris get down on one knee & propose.. Ali did the human thing and thought of the other guy! Ashley did NOT! There is no defense for what she did… Morally, she was WRONG!

 
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