Ashley reportedly had sex with Ben Flajnik right before accepting J.P. Rosenbaum’s proposal. Is she really as in love as she claims she is?
Ashley Hebert has been a hot old mess this season on The Bachelorette, and if the latest rumor is true, she has no one to blame but herself. A new report claims that the 24-year-old dental assistant slept with Ben Flajnik — the man she didn’t choose — the night before her new fiance, J.P. Rosenbaum, popped the question! Although she swears she’s in love with J.P., is it really possible for her to be?
The new couple couldn’t seem to keep their hands off one one another onscreen during The Men Tell All special Aug. 1 or during their interviews on Good Morning America and Jimmy Kimmel Live! but the reality of their situation is much different that it appears.
“There have been major issues. J.P. can’t seem to get past Ashley’s night with Ben,” a source close to the show told Star magazine. “She definitely slept with him, and J.P. is spitting mad.” So spitting mad that another tabloid, Life & Style, claims that J.P. even dumped his bride-to-be briefly when the show started airing.
As he should be, if it’s true. And according to Jesse Csincsak, there’s a serious chance that Ashley did sleep with both Ben and J.P. before making her final choice. The former Bachelorette winner reveals that it’s common practice for the Bachelorette to take her remaining two contenders for a test-drive in the sack. “Everyone always sleeps with the finale two, and I’ve heard this season was no different,” Jesse notes. “The problem of hooking up with both finalists has been the downfall of many of the show’s engagements.
“In a normal world, you don’t have to see your fiancee recorded on camera hooking up with another guy,” he adds. “But on this show, that’s just how it works. Not only does the contestant see his fiancee cheating, so do all your friends and family. Inevitably, that makes you feel second best.”
What both men should feel is disgusted with Ashley and her grotesque behavior. If you’re really falling for someone, you don’t want anyone else, you don’t need male attention from a variety of suitors to stroke your ego.
When you are truly in love, you can’t think about anyone else but that person. You don’t even dream of cheating. The thought doesn’t cross your mind. If you need a worthy Bachelorette situation, take how Ali Fedotowsky gently let Chris Lambton down and dismissed him before their final date; she knew she was in love with Roberto Martinez and thus, did the right thing.
Ashley was cruel in letting Sonoma-based winemaker Ben propose, knowing full well she had no intention of choosing him, but she was both J.P. and herself as well. If she and J.P. do get married, he’s going to have to live with the knowledge that his wife slept with another man the night before he proposed. How’s that for romance?
The reality star has also been unfair to herself, because she’s missing out on discovering what love really is. She pined for the wrong guy — Bentley Williams — for half the season, unable to sense his utter disinterest, and then she hemmed and hawed and blew both houses down (so to speak) before the Final Rose ceremony. Gross.
Women tend to confuse sex and love, and if Ashley really has slept with both men, then she doesn’t truly love either — and she deserves to have neither.