Should You Walk Away From A Guy If He Doesn't Treat You Exactly Like You Deserve As J. Lo Did?

Wed, August 3, 2011 12:11pm EDT by 3 Comments

Jennifer Lopez is a perfectionist when it comes to love — but is there really such a thing as the perfect man?

Jennifer Lopez certainly seemed happy with Marc Anthony. The two were always kissing, cuddling and gushing about one another. But in her first interview since announcing since the couple announced her split, Jennifer admits that divorce was the best option: Marc wasn’t ‘the one’ and wasn’t treating her exactly as she deserved to be treated. Does she want too much from a relationship, and will her pursuit of Prince Charming truly allow her to ever find the perfect man? “To understand that a person is not good for you, or that the person is not treating you in the right way, or that he is not doing the right thing for himself — if I stay, then I am not doing the right thing for me. I love myself enough to walk away from that now,” the 42-year-old tells Vanity Fair. “Sometimes we don’t realize that we are compromising ourselves.”

The American Idol judge confides that being with Marc, also 42, stifled her and made her doubt herself, and is happy to say that this period of indecision and darkness in her life is well and truly over.

“For the first time in my life, I can truly say I am loving myself, I am doing loving things for myself,” she announces.

But just because she is happy with her own company doesn’t mean that she intends to stay alone: J.Lo is ready to find the real deal, her true love.

“Sometimes it doesn’t work — and that’s sad, but I remain an eternal optimist about love. I believe in love. It’s still my biggest dream. I am positive — determined to move forward with my life, bring up my babies, and do the best job I can as a mother, entertainer, and person,” she says, confessing, “I really wanted this family to work. That was my biggest dream, and I worked hard at it. We both did.”

It’s fairly widely known that Jennifer can be a bit of a diva, but when it comes to love, I’m with her. Why compromise?

Each and every one of us deserves what we put into a relationship. If you love someone, and you’re working hard at it, why shouldn’t you deserve the same respect in return?

Just because she walked away from their marriage doesn’t mean that J. Lo wasn’t still in love with Marc. In fact, I think everyone should give her an immense amount of credit here, because it really does take a strong woman to walk away from the man you love if you know he isn’t treating you right.

If he’s making you unhappy, then you should go. You should love yourself more. If there is ever a choice between loving yourself and loving a man, always choose you.

That said, please be aware that the perfect man — Prince Charming, so to speak — is a fabrication, a fantasy. Don’t hold your partner up on such a high pedestal; you will always be disappointed. Love him for who he is, faults and all. If you can’t deal with those faults, as J. Lo couldn’t, then it’s time to walk away with your head held high and your pride still intact.


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