Should You Walk Away From A Guy If He Doesn't Treat You Exactly Like You Deserve As J. Lo Did?

Wed, August 3, 2011 12:11pm EST by 3 Comments

Jennifer Lopez is a perfectionist when it comes to love — but is there really such a thing as the perfect man?

Jennifer Lopez certainly seemed happy with Marc Anthony. The two were always kissing, cuddling and gushing about one another. But in her first interview since announcing since the couple announced her split, Jennifer admits that divorce was the best option: Marc wasn’t ‘the one’ and wasn’t treating her exactly as she deserved to be treated. Does she want too much from a relationship, and will her pursuit of Prince Charming truly allow her to ever find the perfect man? “To understand that a person is not good for you, or that the person is not treating you in the right way, or that he is not doing the right thing for himself — if I stay, then I am not doing the right thing for me. I love myself enough to walk away from that now,” the 42-year-old tells Vanity Fair. “Sometimes we don’t realize that we are compromising ourselves.”

The American Idol judge confides that being with Marc, also 42, stifled her and made her doubt herself, and is happy to say that this period of indecision and darkness in her life is well and truly over.

“For the first time in my life, I can truly say I am loving myself, I am doing loving things for myself,” she announces.

But just because she is happy with her own company doesn’t mean that she intends to stay alone: J.Lo is ready to find the real deal, her true love.

“Sometimes it doesn’t work — and that’s sad, but I remain an eternal optimist about love. I believe in love. It’s still my biggest dream. I am positive — determined to move forward with my life, bring up my babies, and do the best job I can as a mother, entertainer, and person,” she says, confessing, “I really wanted this family to work. That was my biggest dream, and I worked hard at it. We both did.”

It’s fairly widely known that Jennifer can be a bit of a diva, but when it comes to love, I’m with her. Why compromise?

Each and every one of us deserves what we put into a relationship. If you love someone, and you’re working hard at it, why shouldn’t you deserve the same respect in return?

Just because she walked away from their marriage doesn’t mean that J. Lo wasn’t still in love with Marc. In fact, I think everyone should give her an immense amount of credit here, because it really does take a strong woman to walk away from the man you love if you know he isn’t treating you right.

If he’s making you unhappy, then you should go. You should love yourself more. If there is ever a choice between loving yourself and loving a man, always choose you.

That said, please be aware that the perfect man — Prince Charming, so to speak — is a fabrication, a fantasy. Don’t hold your partner up on such a high pedestal; you will always be disappointed. Love him for who he is, faults and all. If you can’t deal with those faults, as J. Lo couldn’t, then it’s time to walk away with your head held high and your pride still intact.


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lee sandliner

Posted at 2:34 AM on December 10, 2011  

Jennifer is just a confused individual about love and marriage. She really needs therapy.

She should just stay single and never get married. I feel so sad for her children who would suffer with a mother like her. I think Children should be better of with Marc.

She will realize later she made the biggest mistake leaving Marc who had given her some stability, not control. Contrary, she was contoling him.

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Posted at 2:42 AM on October 25, 2011  

that seems to be the problem with her she loves herself way too much! no one really knows EXACTLY how she THINKS she deserves to be treated or what it means to work hard at a relationship or family. that woman had a photo op for every step she took she loves the limelight way way too much we have seen it time and time again…with Diddy no one can argue that one, Ben…everything was on the news, her video with him, Marc we all know is extremely reserved but this woman cannot live out of the limelight. what you think u deserve and what treatment u have earned bc of ur own doing are two different things. she never took any time off to really and truly be a mother and wife. she goes to american idol, she performs on the goddamn show, c’mon, says her daughter sounds like a little shirley temple,,really? are u serious? even madonna took time off to really raise her kids…jennifer really LOVES the attention more than anything else. she craves and has this need to be bigger than anyone, her ego is her own destruction. she never comes across humble, she just doesnt. she splits from Marc and the very next day she’s doing interviews…her side of the story. that stuff is private, truly its none of our business but she needs to play the victim, she NEEDS to be interviewed and now not even six months and shes touring! she’s standing in the middle of a stage, singing, dancing and loving the attention. heartbroken my butt. bc if it were me, like most women some of us would be eating gallons of ice cream, crying at home until we have cried out every single tear and then get back on our feet. she’s never been in love, except with herself. You must wonder why such a woman cannot and has not kept ANY man she’s been with. and its not like she didnt know how marc was, she knew what she was getting herself into. sometimes u need to accpet your new role in life, and let that be your priority, with JLo it just isn’t. Money is too much of a drive for her, her past is the proof. that is why all of her relationships fail.

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Posted at 3:12 AM on August 4, 2011  

Well said – if she was feeling this way – so was he – so why stay together and be miserable for appearances….

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