Bachelorette Ashley Hebert: I Didn’t Know What To Say To Ben Flajnik

Ashley confesses in her personal blog that she was frozen when Ben proposed: ‘As Ben walked up, I did not know how to act!’

It was completely outrageous when Bachelorette Ashley Hebert let Ben Flajnik get down on one knee and propose during the Aug. 1 season finale when she knew that she was going to dump him. Now, in her personal People blog, Ashley says she let Ben get that far in the proposal because she didn’t know what to say to him!

“You would think that the hardest part about this was trying to figure out who you loved but in the end, the hardest part was trying to figure out how to say goodbye to someone you really care about,” Ashley writes. “Once I knew I would be saying goodbye to Ben, I didn’t know how to act. My heart ached knowing that I would be causing heartbreak to someone.”

Ashley was flustered going into the final day. “As Ben walked up, I did not know what to say, or how to act,” she remembers. “I was speechless. Having to say goodbye to Ben was the hardest thing I’ve probably ever done in my life.”

Ben totally freaked out when Ashley dumped him. “His reaction was certainly not what I expected,” she says. “Then again, in a situation like this, you never know what to expect.”

“I felt awful,” Ashley admits. “It killed me to know I hurt him as much I did. I thought, how could I go ahead and find such happiness on a day that I caused Ben so much pain?”

But Ashley was able to move forward and enjoy the moment when J.P. Rosenbaum asked for her hand in marriage. And at the After The Final Rose special on Aug. 1, Ben acted like a complete gentleman when he faced Ashley for the first time since their split. Ben even wished Ashley and J.P. the best.

BFFs — are you disappointed that Ashley let Ben propose when she knew she was going to send him home?

- Lindsey DiMattina

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Ashley tried to stop him at the beginning. He totally cut her off and told her not to say anything. And then as he was professing his love, she just had this sick to her stomach face. She never smiled, and you could tell she was so uncomfortable and didn’t know what to do. I think Ben should have seen that. I think Ashley is a little ditzy and I’m not her number one fan, and I absolutely adore Ben and my heart broke for him. But I don’t think Ashley should be as villianized for this as much as she is. Ben was too good for Ashley anyways, Ashley and JP seem to be more on the same level. Ben will find a girl infinitely better.

Really Ashley? So that’s why you decided to rub salt and lemons in his wounds by allowing him to go on and on about how he loved you, get down on one knee and propose before you could find the words to stop him?

She is insecure and needed an ego boost. She wanted to know that he wanted her and wanted to marry her even though she wasn’t planning on saying yes. It just validated her own sense of self-worth b/c she was rejected/hurt by so many of the other negative comments/departures from the other guys….that she could end the show at least knowing she had two men who really wanted to be with her (unlike the 2nd runner-up Constantine who left her so “late in the game” leaving her feeling undesired/uncertain. At least he had the decency to be honest and not go through with the rose ceremony…) She sucks!

Oh, give me a break Ashley. How old are you and you can’t find the words required to respect someone. What you did was shameful and just goes to show how immature you are. But you did the right thing by picking JP becasue you never deserved Ben.