Bonnie Says: J. Lo — Divorce Was The Right Decision For Your Twins, IF Your Marriage Was Destructive!

Tue, July 19, 2011 8:49am EDT by 9 Comments

I applaud your courage J. Lo, if it’s true that you and Marc Anthony were arguing non-stop — your twins — Emme and Max — WILL be better off that you’ve split.

As a child of divorce, I can tell you firsthand that divorce is AWFUL. It’s awful for the former husband and wife, but it’s even worse for the kids.

All children want their mommy and daddy to be together and they want their mommy and daddy to be together in the same house — their house.

But if mommy and daddy are truly arguing like crazy, then there’s nothing worse than children who can’t go to sleep because their parents are screaming at each other or kids having to tiptoe around the house because their home has become a battlefield.

If it’s true that J Lo and Marc had “argued for months non-stop,” according to a source close to them, and J. Lo “tried everything to make it work,” including marriage counseling, then divorce was most likely the best decision for the entire family.

I just hope J. Lo and Marc, that you really and truly tried everything possible to save your marriage because, every marriage goes through ups and downs and most marriages CAN be saved!

“Every couple argues. Anger is part of being alive and it’s OK for children to see their parents argue as long as the issues get resolved,” says relationship expert, Dr. Gilda Carle of drgilda.com.

“But if plates are being thrown and they are yelling and screaming constantly then you don’t want children to see that. They will come to believe that that’s what relationships are, and they will emulate that unhealthy behavior.”

Clinical psychologist Jeff Gardere agrees that every effort should be made to rediscover your love and stay together, BUT if it’s impossible to have a loving marriage, then your kids are better off if you split.

“Every effort in the world should go into saving a marriage including a lot of counseling. Not even cheating need end a marriage,” says Gardere, a contributor to Healthguru.com. “But if the marriage is very destructive, you don’t want your kids to learn behavior that will be destructive to their own romantic relationships.”

Gardere also speculates that since J-Lo and Marc’s marriage had been so passionate, something must have happened that tore them apart. “I think it was a divorce of passion,” believes Gardere.

Whether the divorce was passionate or not, I’m trusting you J Lo: that you thought about this divorce long and hard and  that you’re doing your best for Emme and Max. I hope so, because their happiness depends on you! Good luck – you’ll be a great single mom.

— Bonnie Fuller

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snorky

Posted at 8:55 PM on August 8, 2011  

Jaylo’s talent is mediocre her voice cannot come close to:”Mark Anthonys”. So, to begin w/ you have no idea what your talking about.
JLo is desperate, ca’mon her prime is DONE, OVER she’s just squeezing all she can at this point, what else is she to do? And it’s shows.
Obviously, the girl cannot have a relationship which is sustainable, not a single one. She’ had a taste of those white boys, got thrown over, thoughtlessly remarried again.
The girl is scared, scared out of her mind at this point
She well knew Marc was stoned out of his mind right from the get go yet married him anyway well knowing most of her fans wasn’t capable of seeing his “heroined” slack jawed, sunken eyes and all the signs of a doped up look, so she gambeled anyway. It was so apparent right from the get go. What else was to happen.
Kiss her good bye folks, she’s on her way out. The manner in her choice of clothing for those kids is a disgrace!! Jennifer Lopez is from the streets and is still in the streets w/ her cheap expensive taste.

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Erika Noon

Posted at 4:49 PM on July 28, 2011  

Well this split doesnt really surprise me at all… i had a bad feeling about it from the start….but, that was just my opinion….he seems negative….of course J Lo gets attention she is gorgeous and talented….He knew she was a sex symbol when they got together….their kids are gorgeous as well. Will he be jealous of them too?

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Amy Redbox

Posted at 1:27 PM on August 1, 2011  

I agree…the split is not a surprise!!! J LO should have stayed single had kids and continued with her movie career. Marc Anthony was no match for her talent and style regardless of his fame and fortune. On the other hand,J LO needs to focus on raising her children and stop chasing every man that comes along…married or single!!! It time to grow up and truly be an example to our young women and not a high class “@#!RE”

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Alet

Posted at 8:16 PM on July 27, 2011  

U rock jlo love u songs

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Alex

Posted at 8:13 PM on July 27, 2011  

I feel bad for Marco jlo is a gross person she did porn in the movie money train

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CiCi

Posted at 7:46 PM on July 20, 2011  

Jennifer should stay with Mark. Jennifer goes after ever guy who has something for her. Jennifer has bought the diva attitude and is usese it. Jennifer has trashed lations and think’s it’s funny.Jennifer lost her mojo right after se has her kids. Jennifer also has a huge butt. I truly hope all the bad karma hits her

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Molly

Posted at 3:01 PM on July 20, 2011  

Bonnie’s insecure in her own marriage, which is why she thinks it’s so important to stay married even if you don’t want to be together anymore.

Happy parents = happy kids. Unhappy parents=unhappy children.

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alice

Posted at 3:03 PM on July 19, 2011  

WoW…
I paid $32.67 for a XBOX 360 and my mom got a 17 inch Toshiba laptop for $94.83 being delivered to our house tomorrow by Fedex. I will never again pay expensive retail prices at stores.I even sold a 46 inch HDTV to my boss for $650 and it only cost me $52.78 to get. Here is the website we using to get all this stuff, BuzzSave.com

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suebonnet

Posted at 11:35 AM on July 19, 2011  

SO BONNIE IS THAT WHY YOU ARE SUCH A JERK?

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