Marc tried to have this upper hand in his marriage to Jennifer. Is this a fatal flaw?
It’s sad and shocking, but after seven years of marriage, Jennifer Lopez and hubby Marc Anthony are calling it quits. Although the two always seemed very in love, there were serious problems afoot. One pal admits that the marriage didn’t work because Marc tried to control his wife. Should you ever let a man do the same to you, even if you’re totally in love?
The couple ended things right before J. Lo met Prince William and Kate Middleton at the July 9 BAFTA Brits to Watch event in Los Angeles.
“This is not a surprise,” Jennifer’s stylist Phillip Bloch told the Daily Mail. ”Marc is very controlling. In the beginning she liked that because he stood up to her, and in the early days he was very much in love with her and she was with him.”
His demanding, He-Man-like nature wasn’t the only fault in their marriage, but a primary concern. Their split became immediate because of classic Hollywood demands, like money and career.
“They also clashed when she learned he owed millions in unpaid taxes on the Long Island estate,” Ed Meyer, a J-Lo confidante, said. ”The other problem was that they couldn’t agree where to live. J-Lo’s career is in Hollywood and she wanted to live in their Malibu mansion and Marc loved New York. She was going to move to New York in a last-ditch effort to save the marriage.”
But should she have? Is there ever a time when it’s OK to date a controlling man?
Now, let’s be honest here: how many of you can actually see a woman as fiery as Jennifer Lopez being controlled by a mere slip of a man? Exactly.
My guess is that she never ceded control to him, and that she struggled to remain in charge just as much as he did. Regardless, whether you’re caving in to the man in your life or fighting against him, love shouldn’t be so hard. You don’t want to live your life as if it were a constant battle.
J. Lo has a strong personality, but what about those of you who do not?
My advice: run! You will be catering, conceding and caving to the man in your life for the entirety of your relationship. Love is about give and take, and if he demands to be in control and to control you, then you need to get away as fast as you can.