'Bachelorette' Ashley Hebert: I Was Worried How My Overnight Date With Ben Flajnik Would Affect The Other Guys!

Tue, July 12, 2011 1:27pm EST by 1 Comment
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In her personal blog, Ashley explains how she’s torn up about hurting the other guys: ‘Part of me feels awful that this week was not enjoyable for some of the guys!’

During the July 11 episode of The Bachelorette, Ashley Hebert finally gets her first overnight date with one of the two front-runners, Ben Flajnik. But while the date was going on, Ashley frets over how spending the night with Ben may hurt the other remaining guys. And just as she expected, rumored winner J.P. Rosenbaum doesn’t take the news well at all!

“Once I heard that my date with Ben was an ‘overnight’ date, I knew this would immediately cause drama,” Ashley writes in her personal People blog. “I spent part of the date worrying about how this may affect the other guys, but ultimately I was just excited to have Ben all to myself.”

But Ashley finally had to sit back and enjoy her time with Ben. “My dates with Ben are always great,” she explains. “He is an incredibly easy-going person and is very fun to be around. What I really love about him is that he’s the kind of boyfriend you could take anywhere — and he’d be comfortable and engaging. Ben was great in this environment, whether it was me almost killing him on a scooter in Taroko National Park, or getting dressed up and having a fancy dinner.”

“The romance heats up every time we’re together and this date was no different,” she admits. “Oh, and just to clarify, this ‘overnight’ date was spent apart!”

But as soon as this date came to an end, drama started to break out with other guys — especially J.P. who grew more and more jealous as the episode rolled on. “After watching it, I had no idea how high emotions were running at that point,” explains Ashley. “A part of me feels awful that this week was not enjoyable for some of the guys, but it also makes me feel good knowing that they had genuine feelings and were not afraid to express frustrations.”

J.P. did just that when he confronted Ashley and told her about how sad he was feeling. “There’s something about people showing their emotions that viewers tend to frown upon. They are said to be weak or an emotional mess,” says Ashley. “To me, showing emotion is a sign of sincerity and strength.”

Until episode seven, J.P. hadn’t let Ashley’s relationships with the other guys break him. But on July 11, it was clear that it hit him — and his connection with Ashley made it hard for him to watch the other guys getting close to her.

BFFs — do you think J.P. was right to open up to Ashley about his feelings at this point?

– Lindsey DiMattina

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