The Right Time To Use The 'L' Word: Is Love Talk After 8 Months Of Dating Like Justin Bieber & Selena Gomez Did Too Soon?

Wed, June 29, 2011 12:11pm EST by 18 Comments

Is there a wrong or right time to say ‘I love you’?

Justin Bieber and Selena Gomez have fallen hard for one another. Although they sometimes refer to the other as “a friend”, the two aren’t shy about sharing their real feelings when they think they’re out of the media’s eye. In fact, they say “I love you” all the time! But is eight months into a relationship too soon to really know how you feel?

While shopping at Armani Exchange’s 51st and Fifth Avenue location in NYC June 28, the two repeatedly dropped the “L” bomb. “Justin and Selena were holding hands as they shopped and said ‘I love you’ to each other not once, but several times in public. Everyone could hear them,” a source tells exclusively. “I guess they want to share their love with the world. They were at the store about 5:30 p.m. and stayed for about 20 minutes or so.”

Adds the insider, “Justin’s bodyguard wouldn’t let anyone get to close to them, but that didn’t stop them from showing off their affection for each other. They were just in their own world…dazed and in love!”

But is eight months too soon? Well, take Justin’s pal Kim Kardashian as an example. Her entire relationship — including saying the “L” word and a marriage proposal — occurred within six months. Just to make myself clear, that’s two months less than Justin and Selena have actually been dating. So yes, it is totally OK to throw “love” around in this time frame.

In fact, I believe it’s OK to tell your man I love you any time after you hit the three-month relationship mark. Of course, this depends on a) whether you actually feel genuine love or not b) how fast your relationship is progressing and c) whether he says it first. NEVER be the first person to tell him you love him — let him tell you, or you are going to freak him out and potentially drive him away.

We don’t know when J&S first started confessing these massive feelings for one another, but if they did only happen really recently, then there’s a very, very good chance the two have a shot at lasting for a long time. Emotions that build over time are the best, as they’re genuine.

Regardless, it’s a wonderful thing when your feelings are reciprocated. All you need (to hear) is love, right?


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