We’ve all been speculating about the relationship between Vampire Diaries stars Nina Dobrev and Ian Somerhalder for over a year now. They always seem so close and cozy, but were they BFF or BF & GF? Well, the cat’s out of the bag, now. The two appeared hand-in-hand on the red carpet of the MuchMusic Video Awards Sunday night; it was their first public outing as a couple. But should it always take so long to admit you’re in a relationship when you work together?
Ian, 32, has always played coy about his true feelings for Nina, 22, but he was quick to smirk, “Who am I most excited to see tonight? Nina Dobrev!” at the video awards. It certainly took you long enough, Ian!
Although he and Nina have taken a long time in announcing their coupledom — much longer than I, personally, would be able to stand for — every relationship is different. We don’t know for certain whether the two actually were just best friends to begin with, whose relationship morphed into something more substantial over time.
You can’t gauge the speed of your own by a friend’s. You’ll know when you and your man are official by the way he acts towards you, and how frequently you see him. For example, if you’re going on dates with a guy twice a week for two months, your relationship is progressing at a much slower rate than the girl who goes out with a guy five times a week for two months. If you don’t have the patience it takes to wait for the guy you’re with to come around, then he simply isn’t the right guy for you.
If you work together, the situation gets a tad stickier. You need to be very careful before you get involved with a co-worker, and make sure its the real deal before you announce your affection at the workplace. Not only will your relationship potentially worry your bosses, but a break-up causes friction on the job. Unless you’re sure that you’re in love and it’s going to last — that it’s more than a casual fling — you shouldn’t say anything about your new man.
Nina and Ian were right to wait. Well played!