Bonnie Says: Selena Gomez — No Wonder You're Stressed Out, You're Handling Too Much For Any 18 Year-Old!

Tue, June 14, 2011 5:44pm EDT by 14 Comments
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Selena — you are an amazing young woman. But at 18, it’s tough to have a HUGE career, the world’s most popular boyfriend and millions of fans you don’t want to disappoint.

All the things you have — from your talent, to your beauty, to your perfectionism and professionalism — are blessings that nonetheless create pressure.

No wonder you ended up in the hospital last Friday, June 10th suffering from “malnutrition and exhaustion.” You’ve probably been driving yourself like the perfectionist professional you are to do your utmost to promote your new CD When the Sun Goes Down , and your upcoming film, Monte Carlo, which opens on July 1st.

Promoting one new project is a HUGE amount of work for any celebrity, but having two at once would send any normal star, let alone an extraordinary one — over the edge.

You have a national concert tour starting on July 24 and running until Aug. 13, a GMA concert on Fri. June 17, five fan appearances around the country to promote Monte Carlo in June, the NYC premiere for Monte Carlo on June 23, and then you’ll have the final season of Wizards of Waverly to promote. Whew! I’m exhausted and I’m just writing about you. No wonder you’re having an exhaustion breakdown in advance: We all would!

And what most people don’t realize is the behind-the-scenes work required to make all these public appearances happen : the fittings for clothes, the hair and makeup, the rehearsals for performances and the prep to get ready for TV shows. It’s ALL a lot of work.

Then there was the vacation you just had with your boyfriend Justin Bieber. While spending time in relative seclusion for a few days in Hawaii at a 5 star resort with few intrusions from the paparazzi and fans was no doubt relaxing, the following week and a half trips to visit your family and his — WAS NOT!

You no doubt were thrilled to join Justin on a week-long visit to his hometown, Stratford, Ontario, Canada where you stayed with his mom, Patti and grandparents, Diane and Bruce.

But no matter how lovely his family — and I’m sure they were — there’s NOTHING relaxing about visiting your boyfriend’s family. You know it Selena — you have to be on your best behavior and best manners no matter how you feel. And it’s so hard to be ON all the time on your “off” time. Plus, the fans and paparazzi were much more on your tail as you trailed around the small city of Stratford.

You probably didn’t get the sleep or “me time” you needed to rejuvenate and no sooner were you finished with the non-relaxing vacation, then you hurried back to LA for the MTV Awards where you were a presenter.

Now, you still have to prep for Canada’s MuchMusic Awards on June 19th, in Toronto where you’re the co-host. Wow!

Adults would be crushed under this work pressure, and Selena, you’re just 18. You also care intensely about your fans. Unlike other young stars, notably Miley, who DON’T want to be role models — you do! And I applaud you for that!

“My fans are amazing. They love me, they support me. And I do everything for them,” she recently told Teen Vogue. “I just wouldn’t want to do anything that might make them uncomfortable.”

It must have been so hard on you Selena, to be hospitalized and have to face the fact that even you are human. But please don’t worry, Selena. Your humanness just makes you all the more relatable. But maybe you, and your manager mother, Mandy, need to re-think the number of your work commitments in the future, to allow you more breathing and relazing space.

In any case — you’re a wonderful role model and young woman and your friends and boyfriend, Justin Bieber, are lucky to have you!

Who says you HAVE to be perfect? Who Says?

— Bonnie Fuller


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