Brad & Angelina's Blowout — He Wants To Take Kids To Missouri For Summer Vacation, But She Won't Budge! Experts Speak Out!

Wed, May 25, 2011 3:10pm EDT by 7 Comments

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A family friend admits Angelina ‘has the final say when it comes to the kids,’ but experts tell HollyBaby.com that the famous couple needs to reach a happy agreement, for the sake of the kids.

We know the Jolie-Pitt kids are experts at traveling, it’s just where they’re traveling to that’s becoming an issue. According to a family friend, Brad Pitt, 47, and Angelina Jolie, 36, are having one of their “nastiest” fights yet over where to take their six kids on summer vacation — Angie wants to go to their French chateau, while Brad wants to spend time in his hometown of Missouri. Experts tells us it’s all about compromise, otherwise their relationship, as well as those with their children, will be affected.

“Brad wanted his kids to experience a summer like he has as a boy in Missouri,” the pal tells In Touch of Maddox, 9, Pax, 7, Zahara, 6, Shiloh, almost 5, and 2-year-old twins Knox and Vivienne.

“That involves dirt bikes, tubing in the lake, camping under the stars — just some good old-fashioned American fun.”

Angelina on the other hand insists the family head to their gorgeous French mansion, Miraval. “Missouri is not her idea of a vacation,” the source says, adding, “she told Brad to make other plans.”

“They need an agreement,” Dr. Gilda Carle, relationship expert and founder of www.drgilda.com tells HollyBaby.com of Brad and Angie. “It’s necessary for children to see in a marriage that there is compromise. That’s the most important thing. Where they go is less important.”

Brad did try to make a compromise — he offered to just take the older boys Maddox and Pax to Missouri for a little bonding time — but Angelina still wouldn’t budge. “She said no to everything,” says the pal, “Brad couldn’t believe that she could be so selfish…he lost it.”

Child psychiatrist Dr. Susan Abbott tells HollyBaby.com that this kind of fight could affect the kids if the parents don’t try and find a solution that works best for everyone. “I think it’s good to see that there is a problem and parents can work together to solve it,” Dr. Abbott explains. “It’s good for kids to see parents problem solve. Parents can be role models when it comes to problem solving.”

“If they see that their parents don’t agree on something, they learn that they have to be able to work out arrangements in a peaceful way,” Dr. Carle explains. “It’s teaching children how to deal with conflict in a right way… Life isn’t always so rosy.”

Brad understands that they come from different backgrounds, but he really wants the kids to spend time with his parents in Missouri and Angelina’s selfishness has him at his breaking point.

“I’m concerned about the kids not having any roots and if they meet with Brad’s family of course they know they have roots there,” Dr. Carle says. “That would solidify them knowing some of their family.”

But Dr. Abbott feels that France might be a better choice. “Going to Missouri during tornado season gives one pause to plan a trip there now,” she explains. “If you bring children to a place which was destroyed, it could be dramatic, you don’t want them to feel insecure about them being safe.”

Who do you think is right in this situation? How could they compromise?

–Leigh Blickley, reporting by Joann Vaglica

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