Should You Leave A Long-Standing Relationship If He Betrayed You Like Arnold Did Maria Or Try To Make It Work?

Wed, May 18, 2011 12:11pm EDT by 2 Comments
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Arnold Schwarzenegger cheated multiple times and fathered a love child with a trusted employee. Was wife Maria Shriver right to move out?

Arnold Schwarzenegger, how could you? The former California Governor not only fathered a love child with his housekeeper, but she — and the child — were living side by side in perfect harmony with his family for over ten years. Was wife Maria Shriver right to immediately move out or should she have stayed and fought to keep her crumbling marriage together?

50-year-old housekeeper Mildred Baene worked for the Schwarzeneggers for 20 years in total. She was a trusted employee, and Maria watched her young son grow up. Is it any wonder that she felt oppressed in her own home and had to leave the ‘crime scene’ behind?

“After leaving the governor’s office I told my wife about this event, which occurred over a decade ago,” Arnold said in a statement he  released to the LA Times. “I understand and deserve the feelings of anger and disappointment among my friends and family. There are no excuses and I take full responsibility for the hurt I have caused. I have apologized to Maria, my children and my family. I am truly sorry. I ask that the media respect my wife and children through this extremely difficult time. While I deserve your attention and criticism, my family does not.”

An apology only goes so far though — especially when you’ve been betraying the ones you love every single day for well over ten years! Maria never had another choice; she was 100% in the right to leave.

There are few situations worse than Arnold’s deception (Tiger Woods‘ 10+ women and Jesse James‘ trash-talking trickery of America’s Sweetheart Sandra Bullock come to mind), but if you ever find yourself in this kind of mess, don’t hesitate — leave. Someone who’s hurt you that badly will only continue to do so, even if they swear they’ve changed.

Men don’t change, and you can’t change them. Bottom line. All you can do is hurry like hell to escape the wreckage of your relationship and hope you come out of it virtually unharmed.

Leaving can be the hardest thing to do, so kudos to Maria Shriver for having the guts and gumption to do so.


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