Experts tell Hollybaby.com Arnold SHOULD attempt a relationship with his 13-year-old love child, even if it might have negative consequences.
Now that the news is out that Arnold Schwarzenegger fathered a child with his housekeeper of 20 years, Mildred Baena, the question has to be asked: Should Arnold try to bond with his now 13-year-old son? Child psychiatrists tell HollyBaby.com it’s worth a go.
“It’s certainly worth it to give a relationship a try,” psychiatrist Dr. Susan Abbott tells Hollybaby.com. “To ignore him could have very negative consequences. To know the truth and not appear to care could cause more problems.”
Mildred Baena, 50, has three other children with her former husband Rogelio Baena, who she divorced in 2008. Dr. Abbott is concerned that because the boy grew up knowing Rogelio as his father, the shock that Arnold, 63, is his true, biological parent might cause him to question his identity and his family life.
“There are so many dynamics going back and forth in this. Arnold and the boy’s father need to meet,” Dr. Abbott advises. “It’s hard to make a relationship without a meeting between fathers. It is well worth it for Arnold to give a gentlemen’s agreement a shot.”
This 13-year-old boy, who is currently at an “open age” where he is still creating himself, not only has to face the realization that Arnold is his biological dad, but also the fact that he has multiple sets of half-siblings.
Dr. Jennifer Hartstein, a child and family psychologist, tells HollyBaby.com the boy is facing a difficult time ahead. “There’s going be a lot of questions. They are going to wonder why they were kept a secret. And there will be a lot of anger, disblelief and curiosity and identity questions.”
“I think this is more a shock for the 13-year-old rather than an outright negative,” Dr. Abbott explains. “It’s more devastating news for Maria’s four kids who Arnold betrayed, along with their mother.”
Dr. Abbott has dealt with many situations where young kids find out their father is not their biological dad, and she explains that first comes shock, but then curiosity strikes.
Do you think Arnold is curious to meet his son and vice versa?
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