Courteney Cox Is Dating The Ex Of Her BFF Jennifer Aniston — Should You Ever Do This?

Thu, April 7, 2011 9:30am EDT by 9 Comments

The Love Consultants — professional matchmaker and dating coach Matt Titus and his wife, author and media personality Tamsen Fadal — take on the hot question: Is Courteney crossing the line with her new romance?

Courteney Cox looks like she’s dating her Cougar Town co-star Josh Hopkins but there’s one catch — he used to go out with her bestie Jennifer Aniston. asked The Love ConsultantsMatt Titus and Tamsen Fadal, to weigh in on how big a blow top their friendship this might be!

Matt’s Take:

Even though some folks insist that Courtney’s “strictly platonic” vacation in St. Bart’s with Josh is exactly that, I don’t buy it. These two look like they’re an item — and having a blast. And I say good for her! She’s a beautiful woman, recently separated from wildman/boy David Arquette. Why shouldn’t she enjoy herself?

The interesting aspect of Courtney’s little getaway with Josh is that he dated her famous BFF Jen! Things didn’t work out for Josh and Jen. Word is he wasn’t really that into her! So he’s now spending time with Courtney. Will that make things weird between the two former Friends co-stars? Is it OK to date your best friend’s ex? My answer is simple — yes you can!

After all, if everyone is single again, who cares? And hopefully they’ll understand. If they don‘t, then they need to get over it! Women are more prone to label a guy an ex even if they only had two dates. But c’mon — two dates do not make a relationship!

I always say all’s fair in love and war. You can’t fight attraction, because where there is chemistry there is potential. Of course you can date a friend‘s former flame. The real question should be: Is it possible to keep your friendship in the process?

The truth is we’ve all had friends with failed romances. And sometimes that hot ex is just too much to resist. Once the attraction becomes mutual, desire takes over, our minds and bodies take control. And the rest is, well, two people grinning like idiots while jumping around in the St. Bart’s surf together!

I think the connection between Jen and Courtney can withstand anything. They’ve been rocks for each other during some pretty stressful and emotional periods of their lives. I don’t think Courtney getting a “lil’ sumthin, sumthin” with Josh is going upset her bud. I don’t think Jen was particularly serious with Josh, who’s known as a bit of a player himself.

I say live and let live folks — and let’s cheer on Courtney as she moves ahead in her dating and personal life!

Tamsen’s Take:

Courtney and Josh seemed to have a hard time keeping their clothes on around each other while on vacation in St. Bart’s. So it’s safe to say they are definitely more than platonic co-workers. They look like two people who are enjoying a budding romance.

The source of drama regarding their hanging out is Josh’s past romantic history with Courtney’s best bud Jen, who dated the Cougar Town hunk casually in May 2010 after meeting through — drum roll, please — Courtney! Wow, what’s a girl to do?!

Now dating a close friend’s current partner is a definite no-go! That leads to real betrayal and heartbreak. So is dating a friend’s ex any different?

After all, what happened between the two of them is history. If everyone is a mature, independent adult, it really shouldn’t matter if you want to date your friend’s ex. Right? Wrong!

It does matter — but this kind of decision falls into a murky romantic gray zone, where there are, unfortunately, are no easy answers…

The hard and fast rule, between us girls, is this: Only the worst kind of gal would ever date a friend’s ex-boyfriend. You must NEVER violate the bonds of sisterhood for some guy!

In reality though, dating a friend’s ex can and does happen. If you decide to pursue your new friendship-complicated romance, there’s important protocols to follow.

First and foremost, be upfront and honest with your friend about your intentions. The absolute worst thing you can do is to let your friend discover your liaison with their ex through the grapevine! I hope Jennifer isn’t learning of Courtney and Josh’s current romance by logging on to!

There must be respect for your friend’s feelings before you make the move to connect with their former flame. If they’re OK with it, then it’s possible to maintain your friendship.

As long as you do it with care!

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