Grandparents Want A Surrogate Baby With Dead Son's Sperm — Is This Ethical?

Tue, March 29, 2011 4:35pm EDT by 6 Comments

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Ohad Ben-Yaakov was only 27 when he died — and now his devastated parents want to have his baby!

We don’t know whether this is a touching story or a bizarre one. After their son Ohad died from a work-related accident, Israeli couple Mali and Dudi Ben-Yaakov are petitioning the Israeli attorney general for the right to impregnate a surrogate of their choosing with his sperm — which they extracted while he was in a coma. Hmm… should this be allowed?

“If we were entitled to donate the organs of our son why are we not entitled to make use of his sperm in order to bring offspring to the world?” Mali and Dudi asked back in February.

The idea of posthumous childbearing is an odd idea on its own. But in this case, the fact that it is the grandparents — and not one of the parents — who want to go through with the procedure is even stranger.

Ohad wasn’t married, and there were no verbal or written messages left for his parents that describe his having a need to become a father. Did he even want to be a parent? Or was he thinking about it? It sounds like this could be considered a violation of his wishes.

I get that they are trying to fill a void and remember their son’s life. Who can’t sympathize withe that? But there are many ways to grieve — this just may not be the right solution.

What do you think, HollyMoms and Dads? Is this ethical?

–Leigh Blickley

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Teesha

Posted at 11:15 PM on May 13, 2011  

Beyond creepy, and definately not ethical.
People like this make me cringe.

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josette

Posted at 4:29 PM on March 30, 2011  

Should they find someone who was a close friend and she wants a child..Than they can be the grandparents..He must have been the only child..Prayers go out to them..

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Ebenezer

Posted at 12:35 AM on March 30, 2011  

These grandparents only have a few years left to live. When they are gone, who will look after this kid? He has no parents. Are the grandparents not thinking of the child’s future? They are only thinking of themselves and not about orphaning this poor baby.

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Jean

Posted at 9:55 PM on March 29, 2011  

If it were an infant left behind due to both parents dying and the grandparents raising it, nothing would be odd.
Who is to say that they raise it as their own, or raising it as their grand child.
Bottom line? They are paying for it all, and raising the child. Leave them alone and find something else to exploit and complain about.
I don’t walk in their shoes, nor them in mine.
I am sorry for their loss, and wish them only the best.

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ann

Posted at 5:07 PM on March 29, 2011  

I truly bizarre yet sad story. I really don’t know how to feel about this story because such a thought never crossed my mind. Again very bizarre story.

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Black Beauty

Posted at 4:42 PM on March 29, 2011  

This is so unethical why bring a child in this world that will never know his true parents all because this man parents can not deal with the fact that their child is gone. I don’t know what it is like to lose a child and I wish I never have to but instead of bring forth a child they need to seek some type of therapy so they can deal with their loss.

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