Professional matchmaker and dating coach Matt Titus and his wife, author and media personality Tamsen Fadal, give you the real inside scoop on Brad Womack and Emily Maynard. Do YOU think they’ll stay together for the long haul? Read on…
HollywoodLife.com invited guest bloggers professional matchmaker and dating coach Matt Titus and his wife — author and media personality Tamsen Fadal — to give us their inside take on The Bachelor‘s Brad Womack and Emily Maynard. Even though they’re both admittedly avid viewers of ABC’s hit reality show, neither Matt or Tamsen buy the “real life” Bachelor romance one bit!
Here are a few of my “favorite” quotes from the most recent season of The Bachelor featuring Brad Womack:
“You’re the one.“
“There are a lot of girls left but you have the ability to make me feel like I’m the only one”
“I’ve gone through so much to get to where I am today. I’ve made so many mistakes and had so many ups and downs. I always believed that when the time was right, I’d find the woman that I’ve been looking for for my entire life. I knew it would take opening up in ways I wasn’t used to…. All it took was coming here and finding you.”
Really Brad…Really?? Are you a poet? Or are you a Hallmark card writer? Please!!
As a professional matchmaker and date coach, I know a thing or two about love and relationships. This holds true in my personal life as well. I walk the walk and have been in a successful marriage for the last four years. So I can say with 100% authority that NOBODY talks like that in REAL LIFE.
Real life true love does not offer sugary sweet sound bites that lead up to the next commercial break. The so-called relationships on shows like The Bachelor are completely manufactured, with fairy tale first dates (that most men would never spend the money on or even have enough interest to plan). They are completely unrealistic. It’s ridiculous to expect an emotional connection at light speed and an absurd supposed life long commitment in a 13 episode season. Plus, this is all supposed to happen in front of a camera crew of about 15 people directing — um, I mean guiding — the romance.
Every time I see one of these “Bachelors” get down on one knee and emotionally express his love and devotion with a proposal, I shout out a primal scream at the absurdity of it all. I also get a little headache because I know that most viewers actually believe it’s all real, and then I get the calls from them demanding I find them the kind of “TRUE LOVE” they just watched on The Bachelor finale!
By the way, more than 13.8 million viewers tuned in to watch the three hour finale…
With this latest season of The Bachelor, it was more of the same, Brad Womack chose Emily Maynard as his everlasting soul mate, of course a few hours after the show aired, the rumors started about how Maynard was reportedly hooking up with an old flame, Brett J. Barniske-Bertolami behind Womack’s back.
But wait, I thought that she was madly in love with Brad? Yeah right! Gimmie a break! This relationship is doomed. Relationships fashioned by reality television have a very low track record for long-term commitment! If Womack and Maynard are already facing these issues after only a few days, what will happen in a few months, or a few years? (IF they even last until then, I should add.)
Lasting true love isn’t love at first sight that neatly fits in a one hour episode or is developed by producers, whose daily goals are setting up wildly extravagant dates. What lasts is honesty, communication, and selfless caring — and none of those things are going to be found on the set of a reality show. Sorry television viewers, it’s time to
change the channel on bad reality romance television.
Listen, I think most people know that what happens on The Bachelor isn’t “real”, but we love to watch it any way, and the reason is a simple one: most real life romances aren’t well lit and totally magical. Relationships require work, they require time, and they require effort — all the things we don’t like doing!
I’m not being a girl here either, I didn’t tear up as I watched Brad choose Emily over fan favorite Chantal O’Brien. I know good television; I know what it takes to get the perfect shot. Most real life marriage proposals don’t have the gift of a second or third take, but those that take place on reality shows do…it’s all entertainment. It’s cotton candy; it’s instantly forgettable, but we love it.
Can you really take Brad and Emily’s romance seriously, when just a few episodes before, he was sucking face with a bunch of other women? Would any woman be happy if their boyfriend made out with another woman a few hours before he started kissing her? No way! But these aren’t real life women because the show isn’t real life. It’s fake, but fake is fun.
Seriously, is there anything more boring than a normal first date? Both people are so nervous. People don’t want to make a bad impression so they offer vanilla versions of who they are, never daring to be themselves for fear of ruining it!
There is no time for boring first dates on The Bachelor. You’ve gotta hit a home run every second. The usual first date in real life is meeting for coffee or grabbing a drink, but with Brad Womack on The Bachelor its scuba diving or swimming with sharks. Why, you ask?
Because it’s all planned to excite viewers and get ratings. Fans of reality tv love to watch people do heightened versions of normal activities because normal activities are normal, and normal isn’t entertaining.
Do you think showing a boring series of dates would give credibility back to The Bachelor? Nope, it would get it cancelled! So don’t expect successful reality series about dating and romance to suddenly get real about love.
And fans have nothing to worry about because ABC just announced one of this season’s Brad Womack-love-denied ladies, Ashley Herbert, will be “The Bachelorette” for it’s upcoming season. See? True love marches on…
–Matt Titus & Tamsen Fadal