LAURA'S LOVE ADVICE: When Do You Finally Call It Quits If A Long-Term Relationship Isn't Working, Like Jessica Biel & Justin Timberlake's?

Mon, March 14, 2011 11:45am EDT by 1 Comment

When is the right time to say goodbye to your boyfriend for good?

Justin Timberlake and Jessica Biel were together for nearly four years before realizing that they weren’t ‘the one’ for each other; they announced their split last Thursday. But how long should you stay with your man if you have doubts about your relationship, and what are the signs that you should pack your romance in and call it a day?

Here’s the thing: rumors have swirled for nearly a year that JT was stepping out on his lady. She stoically remained by his side and even threw him a seriously sweet 30th birthday party last month, even gushing about how in love the two were. If she knew the end was coming, she put up a good front.

However, all the signs were there that Justin wasn’t as in to the relationship as Jessica was. For starters, he’s been constantly flirting with other women, including his Friends With Benefits (how fitting) co-star Mila Kunis. He was caught doing bad things with a different beautiful girl by Lindsay Lohan, no less, at a NYC nightclub more than a year ago. He’s a notorious flirt. Even if he swore up and down that said situations weren’t true, Jessica isn’t a dummy — and she should have been feeling some distrust and doubt.

Secondly, when you’ve been with a guy for nearly four years and you’re approaching your late 20s, marriage is something most women are heading towards. Justin gave no inkling that he was even thinking about settling down with the A-Team star.

Thirdly, he recently shot the film Bad Teacher with Cameron Diaz, knowing full well that Jessica would be freaking out about his close interaction with his ex-girlfriend.

Basically, all the signs pointed to ‘red alert.’ So my advice to you is this: don’t ignore the signs! If he isn’t as in to you as you are to him, watch out. If he doesn’t ever talk about your future, jump ship. If you know, deep down, that you’re wasting each other’s precious time by staying a couple, head for the hills.

Don’t delude yourself into thinking he’s right for you just because you enjoy having a boyfriend, or someone to cuddle with at night. Love isn’t perfect, but it should come somewhere pretty close — and if you’re finding too many flaws in him, yourself when you’re with him, or the two of you together — it’s time to call it quits.

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lucy

Posted at 12:59 PM on March 14, 2011  

Considering how many times the tabloids were writing cheating rumors about Justin Timberlake over the years you’d think there would have been even one picture to prove it. There never was one iota of evidence that he cheated. As far as Lindsay goes she is a pathological liar so believing anything she says would be stupid. I don’t think he cheated. I just think the relationship ran it’s couse and they both decided it wasn’t going to go any farther, like to marriage, so might as well move on.

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