Nina says she hasn’t dated a co-star…and that includes rumored Vampires Diaries lover Ian Somerhalder! Is this the right way to go?
In theory, dating a co-worker makes sense, especially as you’re spending the better part of your day together. But Nina Dobrev swears up and down that she hasn’t done so – although she and Vampire Diaries co-star Ian Somerhalder obviously have some very serious chemistry. Should you go there with a co-worker?
“A lot of people who work together end up dating, so it wouldn’t be unusual,” the 22-year-old brunette beauty says in Teen Vogue‘s April issue. “But I’ve never dated anyone I’ve worked with.”
She’s right: a lot of people who work together do end up dating — but does it last, and is it smart? That all depends on how serious the relationship is, and how closely you work together.
For example, if you work at a big firm in separate departments and there’s the off-chance that you’ll occasionally run into one another in the company’s break-room, dating a co-worker isn’t as big a deal. In fact, if there are off-chances for mid-afternoon makeout sessions when you think no one notices you’ve left your desk, it could, in fact, spice up your relationship!
However, if you work together as closely as Nina and Ian do, you need to make sure it’s the real deal. Who knows how long the Vampire Diaries are going to be on the air? The two could potentially be working together for a very long time, and if they decide to go there with their ‘inter-office’ romance, they better make damn well sure they’ve weighed their decision and spoken about the future (re: damage control). One Tree Hill starlet Sophia Bush pulled this off spectacularly well when she divorced, but was forced to work with, ex-husband Chad Michael Murray.
However, please heed my advice on this subject in particular: do NOT — I repeat — do NOT date the office Lothario. If there’s one guy known for bedding and breaking the hearts of the females in your workplace, steer clear of him. Although you think you’ll be different (and maybe you will be) his prior track record indicates that you’re going to be just another notch on his bedpost. Remember, you are the rule, not the exception. If he tries to sweet talk you into believing otherwise, then it’s your pity party when you see him using the same line on Kelly from accounting.
So should you date a co-worker? Sure. You spend enough time together, anyway. But be careful and make sure it’s the right situation for you. You don’t want to be faced with your bad decision over and over again every day of the year, do you?
Have YOU ever dated a co-worker? Let me know how it turned out and leave a comment below!