Olivia may have left her husband, Tao Ruspoli, for Ryan Gosling. Here’s how to escape from a love triangle as unscathed as possible
The end of a love affair is horrible, especially so if you’re married. However, the demise of your relationship is much, much worse if there’s another man involved, such as is Olivia Wilde’s situation. It’s now being reported that the Tron star may have left her husband, Tao Ruspoli, for Blue Valentine star Ryan Gosling. If that’s true, here’s how Olivia should have handled her devastating love triangle.
The end of Olivia’s marriage was announced on Feb. 8, but she was reportedly flirting with Ryan as far back as the Golden Globe Awards in January; the two are now, one month after her split, supposedly getting close in a city far from home, Cincinnati. Is Olivia making some bad choices here?
Yes! Even if Ryan was the primary reason for the end of her marriage, it couldn’t have been the only reason. If she wanted to stray and leave, Ryan was merely the catalyst for other problems in her relationship. She should have confronted the issues with Tao before moving on with Ryan.
Secondly, regardless of how long she’s been ‘seeing’ Ryan, she should never be stepping out with him so publicly after announcing her divorce. It isn’t fair to her ex. Whatever she and Tao had, they were partners, married, in love once. She should be waiting before diminishing what they had by seemingly getting over him so quickly.
Love triangles are always horrific. Whether you’re in love with someone else while your ex is in love with you, or you’re in love with an ex who’s now happily involved with a new girlfriend, they’re never easy.
Although it seems like a new Hollywood trend — with Emma Stone involved with Dianna Agron‘s recent ex, Alex Pettyfer, and Sean Penn romancing Ryan Reynold‘s ex, Scarlett Johansson, in Mexico — love triangles are not cool or trendy. Triangles are dangerous, and they end up hurting at least one person involved.
So if you find yourself in the middle of a triangle, just put yourself in the injured party’s shoes (unless you’re already there). Walk a mile in them — and if you don’t like how it feels, make sure to treat your ex exactly as you’d want to be treated: with respect.
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jessica
Posted at 11:25 AM on March 11, 2011
you shouldn’t be judging people’s love lives. as far as anyone knows, none of the parties mentioned were cheating while with someone else. people move on, and sometimes they move on with other people. you have no right to judge what makes someone happy, or what the “appropriate” amount of time is before you move on. olivia is an amazing, charitable woman, who got married probably too young, and probably wants to do what she didn’t get to when she was the age most people date around. that doesn’t make her a bad person or mean she’s making bad decisions. i can’t believe someone lets you write this self-righteous garbage