LAURA'S LOVE ADVICE: How To Handle Running Into Your Ex At A Party Like Taylor Did With Jake — What You Should & Should NOT Say & Do!

Tue, March 1, 2011 12:30pm EST by 3 Comments

Taylor Swift and Jake Gyllenhaal had a ‘serious’ discussion at Vanity Fair’s Oscar party on Sunday — which was NOT the time or place to have such a conversation!

At 21, Taylor Swift is young — which is why she should be forgiven for making constant mistakes when it comes to love. Not only does the country cutie write about her exes in song (a definite no-no) and wear her heart on her sleeve, but, most recently, she had a deep discussion with ex Jake Gyllenhaal about where their relationship went wrong — at the hottest party of the year. So what should Tay have done instead?

“They were outside near the restroom having a discussion,” a guest at Vanity Fair‘s uber-exclusive Oscar bash said. “It seemed a bit more serious – it certainly wasn’t a ‘Hi, how are you?’ talk. It seemed like they were catching up, sorting something out.”

Yikes! A) you should never have an awkward talk about where you went wrong on a night of celebration and B) you should never have such a serious, private discussion in public (never mind around fellow A-listers)! Tsk, tsk, Taylor!

So what should the blonde songbird have done when confronted with the presence of the man who very recently broke her heart? I’d advise her to be the bigger person, and act like an adult. At 30, Jake is 9 years older than Taylor, which may have been part of the problem in their relationship from the get-go.

When you run in the same circles as your ex, it’s inevitable that you’re going to see one another out and about, so be prepared. Taylor was looking absolutely gorgeous, so she should have had the confidence to approach Jake and say a simple, ‘hello, how are you doing?’ No loaded questions, no intense discussions, no drunken revelations, please: leave those things at home. Granted, Taylor isn’t an actress (I refuse to count Valentine’s Day as an indication of her acting ability) but it doesn’t take much effort to be polite and quickly walk the heck away.

DO NOT cry. He may have hurt you beyond belief, but you’re a mature individual. Show him that you’re happier without him. If that isn’t your usual approach, he’ll be so baffled that he may even come calling again — but that’s up to you as to whether or not you’ll answer.

So let’s recap, shall we? DO be casual and DO NOT avoid him. DO NOT have an intimate conversation in public and DO NOT freak out if you see him with another woman. DO look fabulous and DO have the time of your life. You’re single and want to mingle, right? Then prove it!


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Posted at 8:53 PM on March 1, 2011  

Yes, yes! Talking about, writting about, singing about him…Whatever…. is a clear sign to me how mature your NOT. Being famous does not leave you out. Laura your so right teach that little girl how the big girls handle it. She’s never going to be known as “The one that got away” to guys. She going to be known to guys that think back on her and say “What the F*ck was I thinking” type girl. The good ones that gets away…Serve them a cold dish of I can do better. Everybody is BFF’s in hollywood. I don’t get it. Good Article, I hope Taylor reads it.

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Posted at 1:41 PM on March 1, 2011  

I agree with Laura, Taylor has a lot to learn in relationship, she comes off as very immature. Sometimes I wonder if she has no girlfriends to advice her on how to handle boys and breakups. I have no problem with her writing songs about her ex (that’s what all songwriters do, cue in Adele and Jasmine Sullivan) but Taylor’s problem is she makes it obvious for the whole world to know who the songs are about, it’s like she goes an extra length to make it obvious, and its bad/unfair because those people are famous too and she also needs to stop talking about boys/relationship in interviews/magazines. There should be more to her than that, like I would like to know her take on politics, abortions, feminism etc. it shouldn’t be controversial but not rehearsed. Hopefully Taylor reads your blog because I love her and wants the best for her.

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Posted at 1:08 PM on March 1, 2011  

Laura, STFU! You don’t know what you are talking about.

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