LAURA'S LOVE LIFE ADVICE: What Should You Do If Your Man Is Secretly Hanging Out With His Ex, Like Brad & Jen Might Be Doing To Angie?

Fri, February 18, 2011 11:06am EST by 15 Comments

Red alert! How would YOU feel if your guy was spending serious alone time with his ex — and he conveniently forgot to tell you?

Warning: Brad Pitt might soon have to cover up some big-time bruises on his perfect butt, because chances are his partner Angelina Jolie is going to kick his derriere incessantly if this new report is true. Star magazine claims that Brad has been secretly meeting up with ex-wife Jennifer Aniston. What should Angie — and more importantly, what should YOU — do in a similar situation?

Take this with a grain of salt, but the tab says that not only did Brad and Jen take a ‘private meeting’ in the office of his entertainment company, Plan B, but they’ve also had a 1 A.M. tete-a-tete in NYC . More worrying than their brief meetings is the claim that they’ve been in constant contact: texting, emailing and talking on the phone. Uh-oh.

If this is true, Angelina has every right to be not only furious, but worried. If your man is devoting so much of his time and attention (and let’s be honest, how much time does Brad really have with six kids, a long-term life partner, his own production company and his thriving career?) to an ex, he’s finding something lacking in his current relationship.

Perhaps Angie is too dominating, or too good. Maybe she doesn’t listen to Brad the way that Jen did. Who knows what goes on behind closed doors? However, we do know this: if he’s hanging out with his ex and his lady doesn’t know about it, Brad and Ange have big-time problems. The fact that he’s hanging with an ex alone is bad, but the lack of communication and consideration is abysmal.

So, you know the situation sounds pretty dire. But what should you actually DO if your man is sniffing around his ex?

For starters, you need proof that it’s actually happening. You don’t want to go crazy and jealously accuse him of something he’s not doing, such as a close pal telling you ‘Oh, I thought I saw your boyfriend hanging out with his ex at Tenjune.’ It has to be FACT. Once you have the proof, then you have something to work with.

You never, ever want to make your man feel cornered or threatened, even if he is a complete jerk. When you confront him, you have to be casual — and initially pretty vague. ‘So-and-so told me she saw you and Jen hanging in the Meatpacking District a few days ago. I told her it couldn’t possibly be you — you hate the Meatpacking District!’ Watch his reaction carefully — if he lies or evades your carefully loaded non-question, you’re either going to have a fight on your hands…or a breakup.

There are two sides to every story, and chances are, if Brad IS hanging out with Jen again, it’s because Angelina has forbidden it. As a courtesy, Brad should be respecting his baby mama’s wishes, and as a courtesy to him, Angie shouldn’t be giving him ultimatums out of jealousy.

When there’s a lack of honesty in a relationship and things are being covered up or kept secret, it isn’t working. Sometimes you just need to cut your losses and walk away.


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