LAURA'S LOVE LIFE ADVICE: Should You Ever Date A Known Player Like Miley Cyrus Is Doing With John Mayer?

Thu, February 17, 2011 10:48am EST by 2 Comments
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Miley may be a bad girl, but is that any reason to date a guy who’s 15 years older and constantly breaks hearts?

Miley, Miley, Miley — what are you thinking? We all know that Ms. ‘Hannah Montana’ Cyrus is acting out and exploring her rebellious side these days, but it is an actively stupid decision to get involved with John ‘The Player’ Mayer. Not only is he a whopping fifteen years older than the 18-year-old starlet, but he’s notorious for hooking up with as many women as possible. Does Miley deserve what she’s inevitably going to get because she knew what she was dealing with?

This is how the situation went down. Miley developed a crush on the ladies man during Grammy weekend and followed him around like an eager puppy dog, says Star magazine, who actually caught the two in a lip-lock! “At one point backstage,” reports the tab, “Miley was rubbing John’s back and, when he thought no one was looking, he leaned over and kissed her!”

As if we didn’t need more proof that John Mayer was a lowdown dirty dog, now he’s caught kissing girls that are barely legal? Yuck.

Here’s the thing: Miley may make dumb decisions, but it seems like she’s actually trying to be a bad girl these days. Perhaps she’s reacting to her parents’ divorce or maybe she’s sick and tired of being known as a Disney doll, but Miley is doing the Britney Spears “I’m not a pop princess’ thing to an extreme level. Because of this, I think she’s making a calculated decision to get involved with John, a man who’s so awful that he even called his ex-girlfriend Jessica Simpson “sexual napalm” in an internationally published magazine.

But should YOU ever get involved with a guy who screams ‘I’m a slayer?’ That all depends on what you’re looking for. Life lesson number one: if you think you can change him, you shouldn’t be dating him. Relationships are about learning from your partner, while he learns from you. If the only one of you that needs to change is him, it’s probably not going to happen.

If you insist on seeing a notorious ladies man, be careful. Take things slow and don’t fall for his honey traps. He’s going to tell you you’re the most beautiful girl in the world, that he loves you, that he’s ‘never felt like this before’ — don’t believe a word of it.

For more on how to spot a player, I suggest reading Neil Strauss‘ book, The Game. At least you’ll be able to pinpoint the signs when you’re getting courted, seduced and inevitably, dumped, before your heart gets broken in the process.

As for Miley, I’m convinced that she’s using him just as much as he’s using her. In fact, something tells me when their short-lived affair is over and done with, it will be Miley who pats John on the face and says condescendingly, “Don’t hate the player, baby…hate the game.”


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Posted at 4:08 PM on February 17, 2011  

Dear Laura, 1. Gossip Cop has already found the Star story with the rumor about John Mayer and Miley Cyrus to be false. 2. Miley has been friends with John for three years now–he came to her birthday party in November!–so you’re description of the two of them meeting and falling in lust at the 2011 Grammys is just plain false. 3. Seeing as how Miley is just friends with John and was just saying hello, not giving back rubs or making out as some claim, and given the fact that Miley’s been close friends with Taylor Swift for the last four years, I’m sure she knows everything she needs to know about John. 4. Since Taylor is just three years older than Miley, why didn’t you and Bonnie Fuller write about how terrible it was for Taylor to be having a sexual relationship with John??? Bonnie is always touting Taylor as the perfect young lady, so this makes the two of you look like hypocrites.

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Posted at 1:16 AM on February 18, 2011  

Dear Laura,
P.S. I know Bonnie designed this website for the empty headed 13-16 year old crowd who’d have a tough time even spelling the name of the country they’re in…or even knowing that the branches of government are (no, they’re not Olive, Oak and Hickory).

Has HL figured it out yet? Do you even READ the comments? People want an honest, FACT-CHECKED, hollywood blog to read. Your site is visually interesting…but as empty headed as it is consistently self-contradictory.

You have an opportunity to be legit. Try it for once.

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