LAURA'S LOVE LIFE ADVICE: Should You Ever Date A Known Player Like Miley Cyrus Is Doing With John Mayer?

Thu, February 17, 2011 10:48am EDT by 2 Comments
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Miley may be a bad girl, but is that any reason to date a guy who’s 15 years older and constantly breaks hearts?

Miley, Miley, Miley — what are you thinking? We all know that Ms. ‘Hannah Montana’ Cyrus is acting out and exploring her rebellious side these days, but it is an actively stupid decision to get involved with John ‘The Player’ Mayer. Not only is he a whopping fifteen years older than the 18-year-old starlet, but he’s notorious for hooking up with as many women as possible. Does Miley deserve what she’s inevitably going to get because she knew what she was dealing with?

This is how the situation went down. Miley developed a crush on the ladies man during Grammy weekend and followed him around like an eager puppy dog, says Star magazine, who actually caught the two in a lip-lock! “At one point backstage,” reports the tab, “Miley was rubbing John’s back and, when he thought no one was looking, he leaned over and kissed her!”

As if we didn’t need more proof that John Mayer was a lowdown dirty dog, now he’s caught kissing girls that are barely legal? Yuck.

Here’s the thing: Miley may make dumb decisions, but it seems like she’s actually trying to be a bad girl these days. Perhaps she’s reacting to her parents’ divorce or maybe she’s sick and tired of being known as a Disney doll, but Miley is doing the Britney Spears “I’m not a pop princess’ thing to an extreme level. Because of this, I think she’s making a calculated decision to get involved with John, a man who’s so awful that he even called his ex-girlfriend Jessica Simpson “sexual napalm” in an internationally published magazine.

But should YOU ever get involved with a guy who screams ‘I’m a slayer?’ That all depends on what you’re looking for. Life lesson number one: if you think you can change him, you shouldn’t be dating him. Relationships are about learning from your partner, while he learns from you. If the only one of you that needs to change is him, it’s probably not going to happen.

If you insist on seeing a notorious ladies man, be careful. Take things slow and don’t fall for his honey traps. He’s going to tell you you’re the most beautiful girl in the world, that he loves you, that he’s ‘never felt like this before’ — don’t believe a word of it.

For more on how to spot a player, I suggest reading Neil Strauss‘ book, The Game. At least you’ll be able to pinpoint the signs when you’re getting courted, seduced and inevitably, dumped, before your heart gets broken in the process.

As for Miley, I’m convinced that she’s using him just as much as he’s using her. In fact, something tells me when their short-lived affair is over and done with, it will be Miley who pats John on the face and says condescendingly, “Don’t hate the player, baby…hate the game.”


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