LAURA'S LOVE LIFE ADVICE: Should You Keep Hooking Up With An Ex If You're Not Sure He Wants You Back Like Vanessa Is Doing With Zac?

Fri, January 28, 2011 11:52am EST by 7 Comments
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Although they’ve broken up, Vanessa Hudgens and Zac Efron are still getting cozy. Is V disrespecting herself by hooking up with her ex?

Have you ever heard the expression, ‘Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?’ Well, that’s exactly what Vanessa Hudgens may be doing by getting it on with ex-boyfriend Zac Efron sans commitment!

The former couple — who met on the set of High School Musical years ago — have officially broken up, but seem to be spending an inordinate amount of time together regardless. The latest: it appears that Zac, 23, has visited Vanessa, 22, on the set of her latest film, Journey 2: The Mysterious Island — which just so happens to be far away from LA in Wilmington, North Carolina. That’s a hefty distance to travel for a girl who isn’t your girlfriend, no?

We don’t know all the particulars, of course. Vanessa might have wanted this break as badly as Zac did. But here’s the thing: men and women operate on different planes of emotion. It’s like we really are from different planets (all that Men are From Mars, Women are From Venus rubbish aside). Zac might be able to separate sex from emotion, but I predict that V is hoping they’ll get back together, and is willing to accept whatever her ex is giving her.

So SHOULD you keep hooking up with an ex? I’d have to say sorry, Charlie, but no way. If, like Vanessa and Zac, you’re on a break to figure things out and ascertain whether you really belong together, then give yourselves that freedom by foregoing constant togetherness. Getting down without commitment isn’t doing either of you any favors — particularly when you’re the female half of the relationship. By allowing him to do what he wants with you, you’re basically telling your ex that you’ll always be there, and he can have his friendship cake and eat it, too. He doesn’t need to be your boyfriend because you’re already giving him everything he wants without a title.

If I were in Vanessa’s shoes, I’d keep the relationship platonic until Zac realized what he wanted. Perhaps they could do coffee when she got back to LA, and frequent phone calls (not every day, mind you) are always a plus. But you should definitely avoid seeing your ex at night to avoid those last-minute booty-calls. Make him miss you, and you might get him to recommit. Because really, who wants to be a friend with benefits when you’ve already had the benefit of an amazing boyfriend?


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Posted at 7:14 PM on February 1, 2011  

I agree with what you are saying; friends with benefits is NOT a good thing. But in the case of Zac and Vanessa, you tabloid peeps are missing the fact that NO ONE said ANYTHING official. NO one. So don’t assume they are “friends with benefits”. They could very well still be “together”, just separated by job commitments right now. Also, Vanessa does NOT need Zac; she is a VERY hot young woman, and would have NO trouble finding a hot, appreciative, amazing guy!!

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Rubens Rosas junior

Posted at 7:37 AM on January 30, 2011  

0 /! Je ne suis d’accord avec vous vous avez SI une expérience Telle! Et puis comment savez-vous est ONU Zac bf étonnant?! Nous ne pas savons Lui personnellement ou même vous êtes SI NU «bon» à Lui ami … vous ne savez pas vraiment l’intenzione de cœur figlio. Que-vous penseriez SI n’a pas votre bf le temps pour vous! Tenir Et vous pour les acquis que vous avez bontés indiquée sur Lui?! Una relazione a distanza fonctionne ne pas vraiment! ne pretende pas vous connaissez la réponse que vous ne savez pas de quoi domande qu’ils ont les uns des autres!

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Rubens Rosas junior

Posted at 7:33 AM on January 30, 2011  

Qu’est-ce! Je ne suis d’accord avec vous si vous avez une telle expérience! Et puis comment savez-vous Zac est un étonnant bf?! Nous ne savons pas lui personnellement ou même si vous êtes un «bon» ami à lui … vous ne savez pas vraiment l’intention de son cœur. Que penseriez-vous si votre bf n’a pas le temps pour vous! Et vous tenir pour acquis les bontés que vous avez indiquée sur lui?! Relation à distance ne fonctionne pas vraiment! ne prétends pas vous connaissez la réponse que vous ne savez pas quoi de questions qu’ils ont les uns des autres!

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Posted at 12:55 AM on January 30, 2011  

Wow! I would only agree with you if you have experience such! And besides how do you know Zac is an amazing bf?! We don’t know him or her personally or even if you are a ‘good’ friend to him/her… you don’t really know the intent of his/her heart. What would you feel if your bf has no time for you?! And take you for granted the kindness you have shown on him?! Distance relationship does not really work! don’t pretend you know the answer as you don’t know whats the issues they are having of each other!

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Posted at 4:58 PM on January 28, 2011  

for be a media you want to be on Vanessa Hudgens shoes, but you are not (and thnks god) so get a life and focus on your life

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Posted at 4:57 PM on January 28, 2011  

pfftt. you sure know a lot about Zac & Vaness relationship , all probably based on articles you found on the internet.

but you know, your en expert. you’ll probably got everything figured out.

p.s. major sarcasm there.

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Posted at 4:55 PM on January 28, 2011  

And you know them personally how and what their situation is? This is all speculation none of their representatives confirmed the rumors, so until you know them in PERSON then follow your own advice is your love life great?

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