Breastfeeding is an issue that every mother must face—but what if you CAN’T? Share your stories below!
Every first-time mother deals the big nursing dilemma: bottle or breast milk? But some mothers make the choice to breastfeed only to find out that they can’t! This is exactly what happened to former Bachelorette star Jen Schefft after she gave birth to her now 2-month-old daughter, Mae Waterman on Nov. 13. “I felt like a horrible mom for a while,” the 34-year-old first-time mom reveals to Us magazine. “Breastfeeding didn’t work out for me.”
Now, her daughter is feeding from a bottle. “You have to do what works for you,” says Jen.
Despite this, Jen is loving being a mommy even though everything isn’t turning out exactly how she planned. “I’m not as laid-back as I thought—and hoped—I’d be,” Jen confesses. “I’m more high-strung and want to micro-manage everything. I’m totally a germophobe all of a sudden. I want hands washed [and] the place spotless.”
Thank goodness Jen has an amazing hubby, Joe Waterman, 37, to help her out with the baby. “He’s a pro at changing diapers and really good about taking care of her and letting me have free time to get out and do some things for myself,” Jen brags. It’s a good thing that Joe’s on diaper duty because every time they take off the infant’s diaper, she pees!
Plus, Jen and Joe split baby duty so that they both can get some sleep. “I go to bed at 7:30 and Joe does the evening shift,” Jen says. “I get up in the middle of the night because he goes to work and I’m still home.”
Throughout her first-time mommy duty, Jen keeps one piece of advice in mind that her own mother passed along to her: “She said, ‘No one’s a perfect mom the minute the baby’s born. Don’t be so hard on yourself; it’s a learning process.'” Now those are words we can all live by!