Is Jake a total cad for breaking up with Taylor over the phone and how should she have handled the situation?
OUCH. Taylor Swift has gotten the boot from yet another boyfriend over the phone! A new report claims that her BF of two months, Jake Gyllenhaal, ended their two month-long relationship with a “Dear Taylor” call. Does this make him a complete jerk? How should she have reacted to his disrespectful kiss-off?
There’s no other way to break it down: ending a serious relationship over the phone and not in person is beyond rude. If you’ve cared about someone at all, you do the right thing and at least honor them with a face-t0-face “It’s not you, it’s me” talk.
That said, Taylor and Jake had extremely busy schedules and were rarely in the same place at the same time. If he was ready for the relationship to end, it might not have been possible to wait until they were both in Los Angeles to do the dumping. In that case — an admittedly special situation — said phone call would have been acceptable.
Still, it HURTS to hear such terrible news over the phone, especially when it’s unexpected. But what can you do to save face if you find yourself in a similar situation?
For one, if your boyfriend is ending it with you over the phone, he’s thought it out; he’s ready for it to be over. Do NOT plead with him to reconsider — it will only make you look desperate. Instead, take a deep breath and say, “I’ve been feeling the same way actually, but I’m glad you said it first. I was feeling too guilty to end it.” Mind you, this won’t make him reconsider the break-up, but it will confuse him and make him feel insecure — exactly the way he’s making you feel by putting you in the position of ending it over the phone.
Most importantly, DO NOT CRY. Try to sound strong and casual, as if the conversation isn’t affecting you at all. And do not be the first person to say, “We should totally be friends. I still care about you a lot.” Let him say it, even if he doesn’t mean it (he won’t mean it). By dumping you so callously, he has no rights or privileges to your friendship or your feelings.
That said, I can’t WAIT to hear what Taylor has to say about Jake’s break-up technique in one of her future songs….
Have you ever been dumped over the phone, HollywoodLifers? How did you handle it? Leave a comment below!