LAURA'S LOVE LIFE ADVICE: Is Your New Relationship Doomed If You Can't Get Over Your Ex Like Taylor Swift?

Thu, December 30, 2010 10:51am EST by 5 Comments,

Although Taylor is dating Jake Gyllenhaal, she reportedly still has feelings for Taylor Lautner. Do she and Jake have a fighting chance?

Taylor Swift and Jake Gyllenhaal‘s seemingly perfect (and perfectly G-rated) relationship may be totally adorable to the rest of the world, but if the reports are true, the curly-haired country singer just isn’t that into her new man. In fact, sources say that she’s still pining for Taylor Lautner! Do she and Jake have a real shot at lasting love if she still has feelings for her ex?

The answer: no, no and no. Although she was also said to have dallied with perpetual playboy John Mayer in 2010, Jake is essentially Taylor’s rebound relationship meaning — sorry Mr. G, but this new girlfriend isn’t going to last!

It isn’t fair to yourself or any potential new partners if you’re still hung up on an ex. When choosing a rebound relationship, you must choose wisely — someone that won’t be hurt (and won’t hurt you) when it inevitably ends. Jake Gyllenhaal is NOT the rebound relationship type. Again, if the rumors are true, he’s a faithful, fabulous boyfriend. He doesn’t deserve to be someone’s bit of post-heartbreak fun.

If you DO meet a man who’s great in every way but you know you’re not ready for something serious, keep things light with the new guy or, better yet, become friends first. Friends do make the best lovers, after all.

Most importantly, take as long as you need to when getting over an ex. You don’t need to rush into a new relationship right away. Give yourself time to heal, and when the right man DOES come along, you’ll be ready.


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