LAURA'S LOVE LIFE ADVICE: Is It Ever OK To Confront Your Ex's New GF, Like Demi Lovato Did To Ashley Greene?

Wed, December 22, 2010 11:28am EDT by 10 Comments

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Demi reportedly sent Joe Jonas’ new love a nasty e-mail…but was this the right move to make?

I’m going to take a crazy shot in the dark here and say that the majority of you aren’t going to have major love for your ex-boyfriend’s new squeeze. So can you blame Demi Lovato for loathing Ashley Greene, who’s currently dating her former BFF and BF Joe Jonas? Of course not. But will you blame Demi for her less-than-sane reaction to the news that Joe had moved on? Let’s see…

According to X17online, Demi actually sent the Twilight actress a nasty email, blasting her for “stealing her boyfriend and parading around with him on tour.” She also told HollywoodLife.com that she had “lost respect for Joe.”  Where she went wrong: Demi didn’t confront the problem head-on: she SHOULD have been talking to Joe!

Don’t ask me why, but women have a tendency to blame the other woman, instead of blaming the man who caused the situation. Ashley and Joe didn’t start dating until well after Demi and Joe had split, yet the Camp Rock 2 starlet still chose to to lay the blame on Ashley. Fair? Not at all.

Yes, Ashley should have been more sensitive to Demi’s feelings, but at the end of the day, she and Joe had dated for two months only…and if your man is asking you to come on tour with him because it’s the only way you can see him, you’re going! The fact that Demi sent such an irrational email was totally out of line (but OK, she IS in rehab at the moment, so we should be a little forgiving).

What she SHOULD have done is spoken to Joe directly. She should have said that Ashley’s presence on tour bothered her and politely requested that to have her around a little less often. If Joe had any kind of respect for his former best friend/girlfriend at all, he would have honored her wishes.

It’s hard enough to keep the peace with an ex as it is, never mind having his new girlfriend and new happiness constantly thrown in your face. My heart goes out to Demi, truly…but she needs to grow up and learn to face the music as an adult. Life — and love — isn’t always easy.

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Annie

Posted at 10:55 AM on December 26, 2010  

Poor Demi. It’s easy to say she should have dealt with it differently, but when you’re actually in that situation your emotions stop you from thinking clearly. I just hope she recovers and finds happiness in herself again.

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Sasha

Posted at 5:00 PM on December 22, 2010  

I hate how joe moves on very fast after his breakup :/ its really disappounting but i figured if demi and joe ever dated it wouldnt end so well and their friendship would be on the line.

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nene

Posted at 3:17 PM on December 22, 2010  

Hollywood Life are you kidding me ??? In the real world with real people she couldn’t make that request to have the new girlfreind of an ex not around her. Demi is a immature bitch that needs to get a life.

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Develine

Posted at 1:02 PM on December 27, 2010  

I agree with you. so what Joe has a new girlfriend. there is not such a big deal to make such a drama out of it. I do not say she should go and hug Ashlee but serously now, she could be polite at least.

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katta

Posted at 3:11 PM on December 22, 2010  

this stupid history! not true. demetria is a bitch

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weiling

Posted at 2:23 PM on December 22, 2010  

Joe had know that is really hard for Demi to see him with Ashley
Because Demi having very hard afther the break up

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isHotr

Posted at 1:23 PM on December 22, 2010  

Ashley Greene AND Demi Lovato are WAY hotter than Joe Jonas…I don’t get why all of the fuss over him. He’s so lame, short, and ugly. gross http://j.mp/ishotr64

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Marty

Posted at 12:17 PM on December 22, 2010  

Well thats the same Taylor Swift happened or still….Listen “Better than Revenge” is saying that Camilla stole Joe from her….the same deal kinda the same situation Demi/Joe/Ashley but the difference Taylor is stronger that Demi…lol

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Victor

Posted at 2:48 PM on December 22, 2010  

maybe demi went trough much harder and difficult times.

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nicole

Posted at 2:17 PM on December 23, 2010  

i agree with you. Demi did go through a much harder time. Joe was her best friend and then when he got a new girl friend, he brought her around the tour and he didn’t even care if it hurt Demi. Joe is heartless. He breaks up with girls and he doesn’t even bother to look back. And it was especially cruel for him since he was Demi’s best friend. actually now that i think about it, I don’t think he was a true friend at all because best friends don’t back stab you!!!! I really lost respect for Joe

 
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