Even though Jon Gosselin has been dating Ellen Ross for eight months, his ex-wife Kate still refuses to officially meet her! “Kate needs to drop all of her bad feelings,” Dr. Jeff Gardere tells us.
Kate Gosselin has only seen her ex-husband’s current girlfriend Ellen Ross in courtrooms and briefly during custody drop offs. The 35-year-old mother of eight (10-year-old twins Cara and Mady and 6-year-old sextuplets Joel, Collin, Aaden, Hannah, Leah, and Alexis) has refused to officially meet Ellen and gives her the cold shoulder on the rare occasion when the two have come face to face. Is Kate just bitter or jealous? Family therapist Dr. Jeff Gardere says there may be more to it.”It’s not unusual in divorces for someone to act this way towards their ex’s new partner,” Dr. Gardere, who consuls parents on the Vh1’s Dad Camp, tells HollyBaby.com. “There is a lot of bitterness there and that can be hard to see, even if that relationship is long over.”
“She may not take the relationship between them seriously,” he adds. “In Kate’s mind she could think that Ellen is just passing through and doesn’t have any real significance.”
But Ellen, 23, regularly interacts with the Gosselin kids, sometimes on a one-on-one basis without Jon, therefore Kate’s attitude can be very dangerous. “Kate needs to drop all of her bad feelings and she must meet her now!” insists Dr. Gardere. “This woman has responsibilities with Kate’s kids and as a mom she needs to know who this woman is, even if she thinks it’s her enemy!”
What Kate isn’t thinking about is how her behavior will affect her kids. Dr. Gardere says she is unknowingly creating an unhealthy and confusing environment for them. “The kids will get the message that it’s considered bad to like this woman and that creates divided loyalty and they will end up feeling guilty,” he explains.
Kate, for the sake of your kids, swallow you pride and meet Ellen! You don’t have to love her, but you have to acknowledge her and accept that she is a part of the kids’ lives. What do you think HollyMoms?